JooJooBean
Don Juan
So I'm back to post again. It seems I only come back to complain and ask for help, but then again, where else am I going to go.
So after I last posted here over a year ago, I solved my issues with a past girl without a hitch. In fact, she still occasionally contacts me from time to time, which is a first for me in terms of exes. It shocks me how much contact you get back when you basically tell a woman "nope, go away" in a calm and determined manner. I never tried to get back with her. She eventually asked me to call and message her, but I ended up refraining.
Fast forward though, while I've read plenty of Red Pill material since then, I've found myself finally just following my normal impulses and plunging back in. I tried online dating. That sucked. No need to elaborate.
I eventually got hooked up with someone through a mutual friend. It was a girl that I had generated plenty of attraction with over a year ago, and here we were getting in contact. I decided to go for it, and two dates later we're doing the usual ****ing.
But here's the part where I need sense knocked into me.
22. Single mom. Two kids. One dude for the kids. He's older than me (I'm 31). Both pregnancies were accidents, and within a year of each other. They're not together now, but still raise their kids and such. On top of that, the girlfriend's dad is quite racist and 5 months in doesn't know I exist. Mom's passed on.
So I literally went and just LTR'd this person, it's going reasonably well, but only for now. In my heart and head, I'm feeling like this is a train wreck that's just waiting to crash.
I don't sweet talk, or apologize. I don't let her rule me around. I'm not raising her kids. I don't buy stuff. It's actually quite a good relationship in that regard. Sex is great. But... yeah, I can't be objective. Lately, she has to work a lot to make money, I see her here and there, I get sex when I want. I guess that's all fine and good. I'm in shape, I work out, I have reasonable social skills, I work, I have goals, I've accomplished things. I'm not worried about any of that.
Just more reasonably, I think I'm the kind of guy that just likes LTR's... but I guess that's ultimately a bad thing. I realize I'm rambling... but I'm super confused with what I'm doing right now. I like the girl, but it I suppose the Red Pill would tell me that I'm making a really dumb decision.
No worries, I haven't proposed or moved in or done anything like that.
So after I last posted here over a year ago, I solved my issues with a past girl without a hitch. In fact, she still occasionally contacts me from time to time, which is a first for me in terms of exes. It shocks me how much contact you get back when you basically tell a woman "nope, go away" in a calm and determined manner. I never tried to get back with her. She eventually asked me to call and message her, but I ended up refraining.
Fast forward though, while I've read plenty of Red Pill material since then, I've found myself finally just following my normal impulses and plunging back in. I tried online dating. That sucked. No need to elaborate.
I eventually got hooked up with someone through a mutual friend. It was a girl that I had generated plenty of attraction with over a year ago, and here we were getting in contact. I decided to go for it, and two dates later we're doing the usual ****ing.
But here's the part where I need sense knocked into me.
22. Single mom. Two kids. One dude for the kids. He's older than me (I'm 31). Both pregnancies were accidents, and within a year of each other. They're not together now, but still raise their kids and such. On top of that, the girlfriend's dad is quite racist and 5 months in doesn't know I exist. Mom's passed on.
So I literally went and just LTR'd this person, it's going reasonably well, but only for now. In my heart and head, I'm feeling like this is a train wreck that's just waiting to crash.
I don't sweet talk, or apologize. I don't let her rule me around. I'm not raising her kids. I don't buy stuff. It's actually quite a good relationship in that regard. Sex is great. But... yeah, I can't be objective. Lately, she has to work a lot to make money, I see her here and there, I get sex when I want. I guess that's all fine and good. I'm in shape, I work out, I have reasonable social skills, I work, I have goals, I've accomplished things. I'm not worried about any of that.
Just more reasonably, I think I'm the kind of guy that just likes LTR's... but I guess that's ultimately a bad thing. I realize I'm rambling... but I'm super confused with what I'm doing right now. I like the girl, but it I suppose the Red Pill would tell me that I'm making a really dumb decision.
No worries, I haven't proposed or moved in or done anything like that.