My story probably has happened to a lot of the members of this forum. I was looking for a girl that to be more different then the other ones to be funny good looking and etc. I met this girl in my university and it took me a long time to get her. First we started dating and on 4th date i made a move.I tried to kiss her and she rejected me. After that we had a conversation and she said that she is sees me only as a friend. I said that is not gonna happen i have enough friends.
After that i went abroad and 3 weeks later she initiated contact with me . She was texting me and acting cool. In 3 months we were texting and making phone calls especialy in the end was more often. When i came back i was probably inlove wiyh her and I started to become as a needy . I was putting pressure of her asking about our realitionship. She was confused in the begging didn't want to become serious and more distant about that. Finally we became together.
Then i became a totally AFC. I put her in piedastal i was texting her calling her giving her all my attention. Probably in the begging she liked it but eventually she was getting step by step more distant. She was making some excuses when to see each other where to go what to do arrenging dates and then flipped on then in the last moment. I was really in love with her and i was agreening even that this situation was boddering me. Ii was acting romantic giving her flowers making supraises and trying to male her happy. I was knowing that i am not her priority and with my afc attitude i was thinking that she is gomma fall in love with me. I was telling her how much a like her how she is the one and i am really happy that i am with her how i miss her and all the afc things. I wasn't any challenge for her easy target. She knew that she can have me all the time that i am abailable and flexible that i put her on 1 st place.
As a every girl guys was texting her . I wasn't really jelaus for that but it made impression that one specific guy is texting her a lot. She told me that this is the close friend of friend of her ( best girlfriend) . So my girlfrineds best friend introduced them while ago. She told me that that's bothing to worry about . They went out with mutual friends and that guy was there . On this time that guy uses to live in another town. Every time he was in our town she was making excuse to see with him . For her she was just a friend that she knows from before and i can not tell her who to meet or who to be her friend. I was really pissed and really inlove. We had a couple of argues about that but every time she was convincing me that she is not hiding and there is nothing between them and he is not even her type.
One day she told that in the next day she gas a date wtih her "friend" and they are gonna be just 2 of them because the others mutual friends are busy . In the next day i was invited to go a club and told her as soon she is done with the meeting as she called it to come buy. She came very late in the club with him. I was really pissed because i was waiting for her and be very jelaus . I was staying okay in the beggining but then i saw her flirting with him in frint of me that drove me mad. I asked him does he like her and he said yes. I became crazy and started arguing with her she was acting stupid saying that i am embarassin her that i am not right she is introducing me to him to show me that there is nothing... On the next day we spoke about this she said nothing is going on of course i forgave her. We kept dating each other i kept beeing an AFC doing everything for her to be okay when she is on the mood or not when she wants us to see each other or when she is fake busy.
After that it made me impression how cold and distant she was becoming a month after that accident with guys he called her 12 am and they spoke for 30 minutes . She did this in front of me . After she finished with the conversation i freaked out we have argued a lot. Couple of days later she told me we need to talk. She said that she needs a time she needs a space and a brake she doesn't know what she feels and wants to be alone. Of course that was a shock for me i was trying to convice her not to do that. I told her for first time I love you. Her answer was that she doesn't feel the same that i could be wrong and just to think that i love her and it's not the right time. About a week i was calling her texting her beeing potatic desperate and needy . She said i see you as a friend. My heart was broken i couldn't sleep eat enjoying the life. I was depressed i was staying at home drinking or meeting friends and talk about her only. My friends got sick of listen of her i was misserable.
Two weeks after we broke up i saw her accidently in a club with her "friend" they were hooking up dancing and having real fum. That was horrible night for me. I text her and ask her what is going on and she said it's not my bussines. I was done. I went home sad and i was drinking 2 weeks every day i took some pills . This is part of my life that i was out of control ... I had to live abroad and 10 days before my date of departing she called me and asked for a date. I told her i will call you back. I didn't call her and i went NO CONTACT with her.this happened about a month and a half ago. My ex girlfriend now lives with that guy that she said is "just a friend". She hasn't called me so far neither than I called her kr text her back... What i know from mutual friends is that she is happy with that new guy. I am recovering i don't think all the time for her like in the beggining . I am just getting angry frim time to time. I never said a **** to her after that or even when i was drunk i didn't text her i love you or I want you back or sime swoer because she is with him now. I just let this pass . It is gard when you love someone but this is the life
After that i went abroad and 3 weeks later she initiated contact with me . She was texting me and acting cool. In 3 months we were texting and making phone calls especialy in the end was more often. When i came back i was probably inlove wiyh her and I started to become as a needy . I was putting pressure of her asking about our realitionship. She was confused in the begging didn't want to become serious and more distant about that. Finally we became together.
Then i became a totally AFC. I put her in piedastal i was texting her calling her giving her all my attention. Probably in the begging she liked it but eventually she was getting step by step more distant. She was making some excuses when to see each other where to go what to do arrenging dates and then flipped on then in the last moment. I was really in love with her and i was agreening even that this situation was boddering me. Ii was acting romantic giving her flowers making supraises and trying to male her happy. I was knowing that i am not her priority and with my afc attitude i was thinking that she is gomma fall in love with me. I was telling her how much a like her how she is the one and i am really happy that i am with her how i miss her and all the afc things. I wasn't any challenge for her easy target. She knew that she can have me all the time that i am abailable and flexible that i put her on 1 st place.
As a every girl guys was texting her . I wasn't really jelaus for that but it made impression that one specific guy is texting her a lot. She told me that this is the close friend of friend of her ( best girlfriend) . So my girlfrineds best friend introduced them while ago. She told me that that's bothing to worry about . They went out with mutual friends and that guy was there . On this time that guy uses to live in another town. Every time he was in our town she was making excuse to see with him . For her she was just a friend that she knows from before and i can not tell her who to meet or who to be her friend. I was really pissed and really inlove. We had a couple of argues about that but every time she was convincing me that she is not hiding and there is nothing between them and he is not even her type.
One day she told that in the next day she gas a date wtih her "friend" and they are gonna be just 2 of them because the others mutual friends are busy . In the next day i was invited to go a club and told her as soon she is done with the meeting as she called it to come buy. She came very late in the club with him. I was really pissed because i was waiting for her and be very jelaus . I was staying okay in the beggining but then i saw her flirting with him in frint of me that drove me mad. I asked him does he like her and he said yes. I became crazy and started arguing with her she was acting stupid saying that i am embarassin her that i am not right she is introducing me to him to show me that there is nothing... On the next day we spoke about this she said nothing is going on of course i forgave her. We kept dating each other i kept beeing an AFC doing everything for her to be okay when she is on the mood or not when she wants us to see each other or when she is fake busy.
After that it made me impression how cold and distant she was becoming a month after that accident with guys he called her 12 am and they spoke for 30 minutes . She did this in front of me . After she finished with the conversation i freaked out we have argued a lot. Couple of days later she told me we need to talk. She said that she needs a time she needs a space and a brake she doesn't know what she feels and wants to be alone. Of course that was a shock for me i was trying to convice her not to do that. I told her for first time I love you. Her answer was that she doesn't feel the same that i could be wrong and just to think that i love her and it's not the right time. About a week i was calling her texting her beeing potatic desperate and needy . She said i see you as a friend. My heart was broken i couldn't sleep eat enjoying the life. I was depressed i was staying at home drinking or meeting friends and talk about her only. My friends got sick of listen of her i was misserable.
Two weeks after we broke up i saw her accidently in a club with her "friend" they were hooking up dancing and having real fum. That was horrible night for me. I text her and ask her what is going on and she said it's not my bussines. I was done. I went home sad and i was drinking 2 weeks every day i took some pills . This is part of my life that i was out of control ... I had to live abroad and 10 days before my date of departing she called me and asked for a date. I told her i will call you back. I didn't call her and i went NO CONTACT with her.this happened about a month and a half ago. My ex girlfriend now lives with that guy that she said is "just a friend". She hasn't called me so far neither than I called her kr text her back... What i know from mutual friends is that she is happy with that new guy. I am recovering i don't think all the time for her like in the beggining . I am just getting angry frim time to time. I never said a **** to her after that or even when i was drunk i didn't text her i love you or I want you back or sime swoer because she is with him now. I just let this pass . It is gard when you love someone but this is the life
. You don't have to do any of that above but listen bro, you AT LEAST have to forget about her. For your own sake.