NorwegianDJ
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Journal - Approaches on street, at mall, etc.
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Jack Wealthy
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Never ask for sex because she'll say no to not look slutty. I'd go for the kiss then and there then take her to my dungeon; aka friends house, later
Yeah thanks for the tip
Those last 2 days I felt less confident than usual. I feel like I'm loosing confidence, and I don't really know why but I started stressing out and feeling more nervous than usual about anything! I'm starting to think that maybe girls don't really like me. Melissa doesn't talk to me anymore, and I'm the one starting the conversation. I feel like she's going away from me, or it's just me. I had good conversations with 2 ugly girls though. It was pretty easy since I didn't care at all. They laughed pretty often and had fun, just like me. I didn't flirt though.
Does it happen to you guys to feel down for a while sometimes and reach some low point? Since I failed asking that girl on a date, I'm starting to doubt myself more and more. Maybe I'm being way too needy, I don't know. I'm wondering more about what to say next.
I think I just gotta learn to move on, because I'm still being needy for that blonde HB8 that said no. I try to think about something else, but I see her everyday in every class almost. She reminds me of the past and, ugh.
I can't go to the party Friday night tomorrow, because I have a piano class I can't skip... It sucks because I don't often go to parties where there are plenty of girls, and that one was the perfect opportunity to catch up on my lack of training this week. I wanted to go so bad... And my buddy tells me the girls are maybe going to sleep at his house. Starting to feel jealous. And why the fvck? The girls going there aren't even pretty. I realized that I started feeling jealous about the very little things.
I'm starting to feel disappointed, down, sad, lazy, and more ****... I think I need something to cheer me up really. Too bad my friends aren't really supportive. My next day for practice at mall will be in a week. I have to get myself up seriously. I'm starting to beat myself up for no reason.
Maybe it's my conversation with my AFC friend that told me I was a douchebag. I think he almost made me cry. What the hell is wrong in my head, I have no idea man... I used to be so motivated and positive.
I'm open to advices. I need them at this point right now really. I must get back on track.
Anyway, thanks for taking your time to read all this. I really appreciate that.
Those last 2 days I felt less confident than usual. I feel like I'm loosing confidence, and I don't really know why but I started stressing out and feeling more nervous than usual about anything! I'm starting to think that maybe girls don't really like me. Melissa doesn't talk to me anymore, and I'm the one starting the conversation. I feel like she's going away from me, or it's just me. I had good conversations with 2 ugly girls though. It was pretty easy since I didn't care at all. They laughed pretty often and had fun, just like me. I didn't flirt though.
Does it happen to you guys to feel down for a while sometimes and reach some low point? Since I failed asking that girl on a date, I'm starting to doubt myself more and more. Maybe I'm being way too needy, I don't know. I'm wondering more about what to say next.
I think I just gotta learn to move on, because I'm still being needy for that blonde HB8 that said no. I try to think about something else, but I see her everyday in every class almost. She reminds me of the past and, ugh.
I can't go to the party Friday night tomorrow, because I have a piano class I can't skip... It sucks because I don't often go to parties where there are plenty of girls, and that one was the perfect opportunity to catch up on my lack of training this week. I wanted to go so bad... And my buddy tells me the girls are maybe going to sleep at his house. Starting to feel jealous. And why the fvck? The girls going there aren't even pretty. I realized that I started feeling jealous about the very little things.
I'm starting to feel disappointed, down, sad, lazy, and more ****... I think I need something to cheer me up really. Too bad my friends aren't really supportive. My next day for practice at mall will be in a week. I have to get myself up seriously. I'm starting to beat myself up for no reason.
Maybe it's my conversation with my AFC friend that told me I was a douchebag. I think he almost made me cry. What the hell is wrong in my head, I have no idea man... I used to be so motivated and positive.
I'm open to advices. I need them at this point right now really. I must get back on track.
Anyway, thanks for taking your time to read all this. I really appreciate that.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Wow. Yeah, that does sound like a rough patch. Know that you aren't any worse off than you were before you started this. In fact, you're much better off. Therefore the pain is coming from your head.
That makes it no less real. Stay strong and carry on, I'm pulling for you.
That makes it no less real. Stay strong and carry on, I'm pulling for you.
Thanks man for support, I needed this.
I have to realize that I'm the only one that can put myself back on track, and nobody else will, even if they help. And all the pain is coming from my thoughts and only my thoughts. There's nothing else to hurt me, but only me... I must stop beating myself. It is through pain that I will get better. I must continue to push through.
I just bought a new hair wax. It's awesome pro quality. I'll probably feel more confident with my new hairstyle hopefully!
I have to start doing a lot of meditation like before, and try not to fall asleep while I listen to the mp3 lol (happened to me many times XD), and do my home works and stop procrastinating so I can do more productive things during the evening, like breakdancing.
I have to realize that I'm the only one that can put myself back on track, and nobody else will, even if they help. And all the pain is coming from my thoughts and only my thoughts. There's nothing else to hurt me, but only me... I must stop beating myself. It is through pain that I will get better. I must continue to push through.
I just bought a new hair wax. It's awesome pro quality. I'll probably feel more confident with my new hairstyle hopefully!
I have to start doing a lot of meditation like before, and try not to fall asleep while I listen to the mp3 lol (happened to me many times XD), and do my home works and stop procrastinating so I can do more productive things during the evening, like breakdancing.
Didn't write for a while!
Last Friday, I went to the party and my parents said yes. Yay! I was disappointed though, because almost all the girls invited didn't come. There was only one girl... lol. It is probably my AFC buddy that didn't ask them the right way or something. He waited an hour at the subway for a girl to come, and she never came. He even got sick from waiting. Omfg lol.
I drank alcohol and got drunk for the first time ever. I don't know if it was the alcohol or if my confidence sky rocketed, but I did a looot of touching this night. I started whispering things in that girl's ear and slowly sliding my hands on her hips and belly. I stroked her leg a little, and I touched her boobs gently and discreetly. I bet she could feel I was hard. She was kind of reactionless though. She didn't move or anything. She probably was drunk also, but it doesn't matter.
Later that night, we were a little noisy and Nam my AFC buddy started getting mad (since we were in a condo with other people living very near). She was in my arms, and then he just took me by the arm and separated us completely. Then he said : That's enough! I'm sick of you! Then I told him he was a ****block. He though I wanted to have sex with her, but I said no no. Later juste before we went to sleep, we didn't have enough space in his room, so we had to split up. I wanted to sleep with her, but AFC said I would tease and poke her all night and we wouldn't sleep. I wasn't that happy, but hey I was drunk. I brusehd my teeth, and just before going to the living room to sleep with the other buddy, I opened the door of their room and said : Hey Gabbie... I don't want you to come to my bed during the night to rape me ok? Ok alright... you can come and rape me if you want, it's alright.
The next morning we talked about this, she told me I was a rapist and she though it was funny and she laughed about it. We kept poking each other a little the next morning. Later that day, she slapped my **** with her scarf and she laughed as hell. She probably made it on purpose, because she was looking down while doing it. I saw it coming! And she maybe saw my erection too, haha.
I still think I don't really have interest in her, and that it is only some kind of physical attraction. The truth is, I don't plan on dating her seriously. She could make a good fvckbuddy maybe, but that's it. Next time I get drunk, I have to be careful about what I do. Anyway, it made me realize how alcohol can change your confidence.
My friends started saying a lot of things about this to other buddies. It started spreading to other people. AFC is not cool. I think it was funny at first, but he just kept saying rumors to others.
Today at school wasn't my best day, but it wasn't the worst either. The blonde HB8 that refused the date starts conversations and is very friendly with me. I'm pretty happy with this. I'm still distracted by her constantly playing with her sexy hair. I have to focus in class... ugh. I'm making efforts to stop being needy. It works because I care less and less about her.
I wanted to approach Claudia (it's not the same girl from friday btw) that day, but I had anxiety. She was eating at her table with another buddy of mine. I don't know why I was feeling anxious, because I both know them alright. After the last bell rang, I left the class and she was walking in the corridor. She said hello first, then I said hi.
She did a little arm wave.
Me : Hey, are you training your dancing? Pole dancing?
Her : Hahaha! No I don't do this, it's not my kind of thing!
Me : You used to do this before.
Her : Haha, not in front of people!
Me : You used to do this, in front of a camera. On the web! (I used to call her a pornstar, etc.)
Her : Haha okay that's gross XD.
I can't remember how the conversation went exactly, but she ended up changing the topic and talking about the chemistry exam she had. I really wanted to know about the exam, so we talked about this. She's cute, but she's not that pretty though.
Wow, I can't decide which girl I want. I love girls, but I don't know which one is good. Blonde HB8 was perfect. I should even say HB9, because it's very hard to beat. Pretty smile, very pleasant personality, beautiful eyes, sexy ass (OMG her in leggings), pretty hair. Even if I get interested in some girl, I know deep down that she's not the perfect one to my eyes. You know what, **** I'm getting needy again. But it's true that I rarely met girls like that before. Whatever, let's move on. I am a man with options, and I'll have more options soon.
Might do some approaches at the mall this weekend. I have to get started. Wednesday when I come back from breakdance class, I will try to do some approaches in the subway. I practised asking time to random strangers. Piece of cake, but that's a baby step. I think I just didn't have anything better to do that day. I can't wait for the bootcamp to start, so I can get motivated to do things alone by myself, since my buddies are busy or not as motivated.
I don't know why, but I'm scared of going out alone. I am worried that I will meet other people I already know (I saw at least 3 group of girls I knew from my school last time...). I don't know why I keep telling myself I look like a loner walking around alone like that. How do you guys feel when you go out and practice? I know I have a bad mindset about this and I have to change. Help please bros!
Last Friday, I went to the party and my parents said yes. Yay! I was disappointed though, because almost all the girls invited didn't come. There was only one girl... lol. It is probably my AFC buddy that didn't ask them the right way or something. He waited an hour at the subway for a girl to come, and she never came. He even got sick from waiting. Omfg lol.
I drank alcohol and got drunk for the first time ever. I don't know if it was the alcohol or if my confidence sky rocketed, but I did a looot of touching this night. I started whispering things in that girl's ear and slowly sliding my hands on her hips and belly. I stroked her leg a little, and I touched her boobs gently and discreetly. I bet she could feel I was hard. She was kind of reactionless though. She didn't move or anything. She probably was drunk also, but it doesn't matter.
Later that night, we were a little noisy and Nam my AFC buddy started getting mad (since we were in a condo with other people living very near). She was in my arms, and then he just took me by the arm and separated us completely. Then he said : That's enough! I'm sick of you! Then I told him he was a ****block. He though I wanted to have sex with her, but I said no no. Later juste before we went to sleep, we didn't have enough space in his room, so we had to split up. I wanted to sleep with her, but AFC said I would tease and poke her all night and we wouldn't sleep. I wasn't that happy, but hey I was drunk. I brusehd my teeth, and just before going to the living room to sleep with the other buddy, I opened the door of their room and said : Hey Gabbie... I don't want you to come to my bed during the night to rape me ok? Ok alright... you can come and rape me if you want, it's alright.
The next morning we talked about this, she told me I was a rapist and she though it was funny and she laughed about it. We kept poking each other a little the next morning. Later that day, she slapped my **** with her scarf and she laughed as hell. She probably made it on purpose, because she was looking down while doing it. I saw it coming! And she maybe saw my erection too, haha.
I still think I don't really have interest in her, and that it is only some kind of physical attraction. The truth is, I don't plan on dating her seriously. She could make a good fvckbuddy maybe, but that's it. Next time I get drunk, I have to be careful about what I do. Anyway, it made me realize how alcohol can change your confidence.
My friends started saying a lot of things about this to other buddies. It started spreading to other people. AFC is not cool. I think it was funny at first, but he just kept saying rumors to others.
Today at school wasn't my best day, but it wasn't the worst either. The blonde HB8 that refused the date starts conversations and is very friendly with me. I'm pretty happy with this. I'm still distracted by her constantly playing with her sexy hair. I have to focus in class... ugh. I'm making efforts to stop being needy. It works because I care less and less about her.
I wanted to approach Claudia (it's not the same girl from friday btw) that day, but I had anxiety. She was eating at her table with another buddy of mine. I don't know why I was feeling anxious, because I both know them alright. After the last bell rang, I left the class and she was walking in the corridor. She said hello first, then I said hi.
She did a little arm wave.
Me : Hey, are you training your dancing? Pole dancing?
Her : Hahaha! No I don't do this, it's not my kind of thing!
Me : You used to do this before.
Her : Haha, not in front of people!
Me : You used to do this, in front of a camera. On the web! (I used to call her a pornstar, etc.)
Her : Haha okay that's gross XD.
I can't remember how the conversation went exactly, but she ended up changing the topic and talking about the chemistry exam she had. I really wanted to know about the exam, so we talked about this. She's cute, but she's not that pretty though.
Wow, I can't decide which girl I want. I love girls, but I don't know which one is good. Blonde HB8 was perfect. I should even say HB9, because it's very hard to beat. Pretty smile, very pleasant personality, beautiful eyes, sexy ass (OMG her in leggings), pretty hair. Even if I get interested in some girl, I know deep down that she's not the perfect one to my eyes. You know what, **** I'm getting needy again. But it's true that I rarely met girls like that before. Whatever, let's move on. I am a man with options, and I'll have more options soon.
Might do some approaches at the mall this weekend. I have to get started. Wednesday when I come back from breakdance class, I will try to do some approaches in the subway. I practised asking time to random strangers. Piece of cake, but that's a baby step. I think I just didn't have anything better to do that day. I can't wait for the bootcamp to start, so I can get motivated to do things alone by myself, since my buddies are busy or not as motivated.
I don't know why, but I'm scared of going out alone. I am worried that I will meet other people I already know (I saw at least 3 group of girls I knew from my school last time...). I don't know why I keep telling myself I look like a loner walking around alone like that. How do you guys feel when you go out and practice? I know I have a bad mindset about this and I have to change. Help please bros!
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You should go for this party girl! See how far you can take this!
You're getting ahead of yourself when you say you don't want to date her.
We've talked about this, though, you know my opinion.
You're getting ahead of yourself when you say you don't want to date her.
We've talked about this, though, you know my opinion.
Jack Wealthy
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When I go out alone I have crap to do. When girls get dragged in, we go do my crap. The social proof of friends only matters when you're not cool, I look at it as a nonfactor because I beast and Le Chikybabes will have fun.
Hook up with her. NDJ was right, don't depend on reactions.
She's only perfect because they're aren't more girls. Look on fb in your area, through her friends would work, and find hotter girls. Just to proove they're there. I've done what you've done and talking to random hotties and checking others out on fb made me realise how dime a dozen they are. Also, all girls have flaws physically/personality wise.
Hook up with her. NDJ was right, don't depend on reactions.
She's only perfect because they're aren't more girls. Look on fb in your area, through her friends would work, and find hotter girls. Just to proove they're there. I've done what you've done and talking to random hotties and checking others out on fb made me realise how dime a dozen they are. Also, all girls have flaws physically/personality wise.
NorwegianDJ
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Take both.
I should start with getting one girlfriend before getting 2 at the time. And how can I get multiple girls I can **** with? Let's say I have a girl, and I tell her I want to have sex with another one. How will she react toward this?
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You don't "get" girls, in the way you seem to be saying. Once you kiss one, there should be no possessive, binding nature. I'm realizing this myself in my recent Megan texts.Mindgamez said:
But you're right. You should start by getting with one girl, before accepting the challenge of taking both. You're in better position with this party girl, go for the sure thing. Don't give this other girl your undying loyalty, she hasn't earned it.
Jack Wealthy
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You just go for both man. Try with and probably succed with two girls rather than one.
Thanks for the tips. I better try with more than focus on one. The thing is, I'm feeling not so cool about going for a girl I don't have that much feelings for... it's like settling for less to my eyes. I know it's good for practising my skills, but if I feel like I'm forcing myself to do it, it's maybe because I don't really like her that much. My other good buddy wants to do a move on her still. I think I will let him do it, because I'm not that down for her.
And for the other girl, I think I'm getting into friendzone... these days I'm feeling less confident about talking about pron with her. We used to do it before, but I don't know what happened with me this week. It's probably my lack of meditation. Haven't meditated in many days! That's bad. I used to listen to a 20 minutes mp3 every night before sleep. I should do it again. I'll try to switch things around once I feel more confident.
Tomorrow I'm going to breakdance class after school. There are many girls out there (many years older than me though). I should overcome shyness and be friends with them! Once it's over, I'll try doing things in the subway. Approaches, whatever what it is. Even if it's easy, at least I do something to improve. Asking for time is too easy and I have to do something else than that seriously lol! XD
Man I can't wait till the bootcamp starts.
YEAH Finally! This Friday I have a day off and no school, so I'm going practising approaches with some good friend of mine. Can you guys propose me a good challenge? Note that at my level, I still have troubles opening the girl since I have anxiety all the time. I have trouble approaching instantly as I see the girl and I end up thinking too much. It works, but I never do it after 3 seconds, but I do my approach after thinking at least for 5 minutes...
What should I practice saying that is not too easy but not too hard? It has to be something else than asking for what time it is, but I'm not feeling confident enough to ask for sex.
Thanks for your good support peepz. Love y'all guys!
And for the other girl, I think I'm getting into friendzone... these days I'm feeling less confident about talking about pron with her. We used to do it before, but I don't know what happened with me this week. It's probably my lack of meditation. Haven't meditated in many days! That's bad. I used to listen to a 20 minutes mp3 every night before sleep. I should do it again. I'll try to switch things around once I feel more confident.
Tomorrow I'm going to breakdance class after school. There are many girls out there (many years older than me though). I should overcome shyness and be friends with them! Once it's over, I'll try doing things in the subway. Approaches, whatever what it is. Even if it's easy, at least I do something to improve. Asking for time is too easy and I have to do something else than that seriously lol! XD
Man I can't wait till the bootcamp starts.
YEAH Finally! This Friday I have a day off and no school, so I'm going practising approaches with some good friend of mine. Can you guys propose me a good challenge? Note that at my level, I still have troubles opening the girl since I have anxiety all the time. I have trouble approaching instantly as I see the girl and I end up thinking too much. It works, but I never do it after 3 seconds, but I do my approach after thinking at least for 5 minutes...
What should I practice saying that is not too easy but not too hard? It has to be something else than asking for what time it is, but I'm not feeling confident enough to ask for sex.
Thanks for your good support peepz. Love y'all guys!
Alright. My feelings are a little down right now. I have to write about it, so I can see my evolution later. I know I write a lot sometimes, but I really want to note everything so I can look at my old self later.
I'm way too kind. I let my friend get this girl I wanted. Let's call her Carly. She's a beautiful HB8 with a super happy personality. He showed me the text conversation he had with her. It was the cutest conversation ever! I started smiling without noticing while I was reading. I felt so proud for my friend, but later that day I realized that I should have tried to get her. I was already getting sexual with her, but I started focusing on the other blonde HB8 back then. Then I let him go for Carly. If I did that it's not because I wasn't confident about getting her, but because I wanted to be kind.
Wow, I've done that twice already.
And for the party girl, well it's fine. I won't get her, and my other buddy won't because he's not feeling confident about it. She's not my type. I realized that she's the type of girl that will get depressed often. I don't want to deal with negativity in my life. This is bad!
And for the blonde HB8 (let's call her Mel), she's still friendly with me. It's nice to be around her. I'm still being needy, but I try to control myself as much as possible. Her hair got prettier than before, and her eyes too. I don't get why no other guy asked her out yet, except me. I have to deal with her pretty smile every day, but it doesn't matter. I will stay strong and reach my goals no matter what. She'll get out of my head I hope soon.
Tomorrow, I'll go to the mall with Simon (the one with Carly). He's not so down for doing pick up since he has a gf, so I'll record pranks for the commercial I have to do for the Pooter Tooter (farting machine). I'll hopefully try to do some approaches also. We'll have approximately 3 hours to do our things. I hope it turns out well.
I have an ENORMOUS amount of homeworks and exams next week. It happens at the same time as this ****, and I won't have the time to chillax and make myself happy. I'll work as hell, then I'll push my comfort zone as hell too.
I'm doing another practise session maybe Saturday or Sunday with my buddy Casta. He'll practise pick up too. Yeah! And I told him about the bootcamp, and he's down for the challenge and he's ready for change. I'm very happy about this, and we shook hands so he promised me to do it. He told me that you sometimes need a buddy to dare you to do something to get a boost of motivation. I have someone with me. He's my best friend from childhood.
And there's AFC buddy that wants to come... I told him nicely that I didn't want him to come, because I don't like his horrible posture and his negative mentality. He told me I'm like his best friend. Uggh... okay he's a good buddy, but he brings negativity everywhere! He's nice, but he's so not the right person for this. He told me that if life decides that he'll be single for the rest of his life, he'll be. And then, he wants to come try the pick up. He wants me to help him when he's down. I have other things to do than that, and to be honest, he fricken annoys me sometimes. How can I get some distance between me and him without being mean? He's fun and nice, but I don't want him to join the DJ team I made with Casta and my other friends.
I MUST get rid of negativity around me and surround myself with positive people. My friends are all a little negative sometimes to be honest, and I have to accept them for who they are, but some people like Nam (AFC dude) have to get out. He almost killed himself at the subway because of depression. That's brutal... I don't think he'll think of doing this again, but we never know. I'm in some difficult situation right now.
Feeling nervous about tomorrow, tired because of lack of sleep, tired as hell about homeworks, feeling regret about the thing with Carly, feeling sad about Mel, feeling annoyed because of Nam, and feeling obligated to help him in some ways... he believes he has not so many good friends, and that everybody is against him.
I should not forget that I also have Claudia (HB7, very cute but not hot), the girl I teased and said she was a pronstar. She's the only one left for now I guess. I just talked to get on facebook today. I don't know if she's receptive or not. I hope she is! She gave me good IOIs (I'm still looking for reactions, it's hard to get out of this habit I have since a long time). She asked me first what I was up to this weekend. I told her I will go to the mall, and as I asked her why and she said she just wanted to know. I asked her if she wanted to go do some lazertag with me. She suggested that another buddy comes, and then I didn't respond to this and I just kept saying things about how dirty playing in the dark and shooting people is. She responds pretty fast to my messages. That's pretty cool. When I asked her for doing it in 3 weeks, she told me she wasn't sure and that she had to check if she had some hockey games planned. She's often the first one to leave the conversation. Is this bad?
I must destroy neediness. I must. I must learn to be a real man for 2012!
It's endless evolution. Because there's no finish line, and endless improvements in everything.
I'm way too kind. I let my friend get this girl I wanted. Let's call her Carly. She's a beautiful HB8 with a super happy personality. He showed me the text conversation he had with her. It was the cutest conversation ever! I started smiling without noticing while I was reading. I felt so proud for my friend, but later that day I realized that I should have tried to get her. I was already getting sexual with her, but I started focusing on the other blonde HB8 back then. Then I let him go for Carly. If I did that it's not because I wasn't confident about getting her, but because I wanted to be kind.
Wow, I've done that twice already.
And for the party girl, well it's fine. I won't get her, and my other buddy won't because he's not feeling confident about it. She's not my type. I realized that she's the type of girl that will get depressed often. I don't want to deal with negativity in my life. This is bad!
And for the blonde HB8 (let's call her Mel), she's still friendly with me. It's nice to be around her. I'm still being needy, but I try to control myself as much as possible. Her hair got prettier than before, and her eyes too. I don't get why no other guy asked her out yet, except me. I have to deal with her pretty smile every day, but it doesn't matter. I will stay strong and reach my goals no matter what. She'll get out of my head I hope soon.
Tomorrow, I'll go to the mall with Simon (the one with Carly). He's not so down for doing pick up since he has a gf, so I'll record pranks for the commercial I have to do for the Pooter Tooter (farting machine). I'll hopefully try to do some approaches also. We'll have approximately 3 hours to do our things. I hope it turns out well.
I have an ENORMOUS amount of homeworks and exams next week. It happens at the same time as this ****, and I won't have the time to chillax and make myself happy. I'll work as hell, then I'll push my comfort zone as hell too.
I'm doing another practise session maybe Saturday or Sunday with my buddy Casta. He'll practise pick up too. Yeah! And I told him about the bootcamp, and he's down for the challenge and he's ready for change. I'm very happy about this, and we shook hands so he promised me to do it. He told me that you sometimes need a buddy to dare you to do something to get a boost of motivation. I have someone with me. He's my best friend from childhood.
And there's AFC buddy that wants to come... I told him nicely that I didn't want him to come, because I don't like his horrible posture and his negative mentality. He told me I'm like his best friend. Uggh... okay he's a good buddy, but he brings negativity everywhere! He's nice, but he's so not the right person for this. He told me that if life decides that he'll be single for the rest of his life, he'll be. And then, he wants to come try the pick up. He wants me to help him when he's down. I have other things to do than that, and to be honest, he fricken annoys me sometimes. How can I get some distance between me and him without being mean? He's fun and nice, but I don't want him to join the DJ team I made with Casta and my other friends.
I MUST get rid of negativity around me and surround myself with positive people. My friends are all a little negative sometimes to be honest, and I have to accept them for who they are, but some people like Nam (AFC dude) have to get out. He almost killed himself at the subway because of depression. That's brutal... I don't think he'll think of doing this again, but we never know. I'm in some difficult situation right now.
Feeling nervous about tomorrow, tired because of lack of sleep, tired as hell about homeworks, feeling regret about the thing with Carly, feeling sad about Mel, feeling annoyed because of Nam, and feeling obligated to help him in some ways... he believes he has not so many good friends, and that everybody is against him.
I should not forget that I also have Claudia (HB7, very cute but not hot), the girl I teased and said she was a pronstar. She's the only one left for now I guess. I just talked to get on facebook today. I don't know if she's receptive or not. I hope she is! She gave me good IOIs (I'm still looking for reactions, it's hard to get out of this habit I have since a long time). She asked me first what I was up to this weekend. I told her I will go to the mall, and as I asked her why and she said she just wanted to know. I asked her if she wanted to go do some lazertag with me. She suggested that another buddy comes, and then I didn't respond to this and I just kept saying things about how dirty playing in the dark and shooting people is. She responds pretty fast to my messages. That's pretty cool. When I asked her for doing it in 3 weeks, she told me she wasn't sure and that she had to check if she had some hockey games planned. She's often the first one to leave the conversation. Is this bad?
I must destroy neediness. I must. I must learn to be a real man for 2012!
It's endless evolution. Because there's no finish line, and endless improvements in everything.
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No man. Negativity around you is a reflection of you, trying to get rid of it is what is breeding the bad feelings. Just accept it and give lovee.
Or if that makes no sense, look for the best in it. Mr.Horrible posture gives you someone to mentor to pump state.
Also, stop trying not to be needy with a girl because that makes you needy on the inside. Your needy to be her friend now, so she doesn't feel threatened. Be sincere instead and make a true friend. If she rejects you as a friend you have nothing there anyways.
Or if that makes no sense, look for the best in it. Mr.Horrible posture gives you someone to mentor to pump state.
Also, stop trying not to be needy with a girl because that makes you needy on the inside. Your needy to be her friend now, so she doesn't feel threatened. Be sincere instead and make a true friend. If she rejects you as a friend you have nothing there anyways.
I just thought about what you said Jack. It's true that negativity around me can be a reflection of myself, and you're right that trying to fight for it to go away will just make it worse. I'll just live with it, and give love to them anyway and I'll say no to them politely when I have to. I should never lie and say I want be with them when I don't want to though. Thanks for this advice, it changed my way of thinking.
Today I went to the mall with Simon. Even though he has Carly, we are still super good friends! Even more friends than before I'd say, because I said it's ok if they are together and it doesn't bother me really. This time, I recorded myself doing pranks on people. I had very funny reactions from people! It's sad that the workers at the shop noticed our camera. It happened 3 times I think, and we had to leave the store. I also farted in the elevator with the PooterTooter. Funniest reactions haha. There was just this one dude that was pissed at me because I farted twice on him. Too bad haha XD.
I also did 2 approaches, the same way I did the other day at the mall. I just invented some random name for them. I just want to destroy AA for now, and I didn't want to get their phone number for now. It was much easier to pull the trigger than the other day. I realize that it's with repetition and repetition that it becomes easier and easier to do things. I have to try newer things now. I can feel the progress. Baby steps, but I'm getting there. I feel the change! Gotta get ready for the bootcamp coming soon.
Anyway guys. I really have to get my homeworks done. I might go to the mall again Sunday with Casta, my best friend. He'll be ready for the bootcamp too I hope!
I'm not feeling so needy anymore. I know I will be able to get random girls sooner or later. Even if it takes me a lot of time, I will persevere and go through the challenges, push my comfort zone and get ready to feel pain. I'm not afraid of pain. I'm not afraid of being afraid, because it's through discomfort that we learn to be a man.
Peace.
2012, I'm winning.
Today I went to the mall with Simon. Even though he has Carly, we are still super good friends! Even more friends than before I'd say, because I said it's ok if they are together and it doesn't bother me really. This time, I recorded myself doing pranks on people. I had very funny reactions from people! It's sad that the workers at the shop noticed our camera. It happened 3 times I think, and we had to leave the store. I also farted in the elevator with the PooterTooter. Funniest reactions haha. There was just this one dude that was pissed at me because I farted twice on him. Too bad haha XD.
I also did 2 approaches, the same way I did the other day at the mall. I just invented some random name for them. I just want to destroy AA for now, and I didn't want to get their phone number for now. It was much easier to pull the trigger than the other day. I realize that it's with repetition and repetition that it becomes easier and easier to do things. I have to try newer things now. I can feel the progress. Baby steps, but I'm getting there. I feel the change! Gotta get ready for the bootcamp coming soon.
Anyway guys. I really have to get my homeworks done. I might go to the mall again Sunday with Casta, my best friend. He'll be ready for the bootcamp too I hope!
I'm not feeling so needy anymore. I know I will be able to get random girls sooner or later. Even if it takes me a lot of time, I will persevere and go through the challenges, push my comfort zone and get ready to feel pain. I'm not afraid of pain. I'm not afraid of being afraid, because it's through discomfort that we learn to be a man.
Peace.
2012, I'm winning.
My feelings are like roller coasters.
The night before, I'm feeling alright. I do meditation, and I feel great. The next morning as I get out of bed, I still feel great! Then, I go to school. When I arrive to school, anxiety kicks in again. When I said hi to that girl yesterday and today, she wasn't that reactive.
(I just realized I'm still looking for reactions. What you guys said the other day that you should just assume attraction is right. I forgot about this and I'm still worrying as ****.)
Those *bad reactions* (maybe they weren't bad at all. Maybe she didn't feel like smiling that day, I don't know) is what gave me more anxiety. I started doubting myself. She used to smile and laugh at the least funny things I said. I think I'm being needy and anxious because I'm saying to myself that I don't really attract girls anymore.
Why am I thinking this? I think it's because of my failure with Mel 2 weeks ago. I started doubting myself and it became a little worse and worse with time. I think I'm friendzoned by Kristina, by Claudia (the girl that isn't reacting anymore), by Mel.
I just thought about it. There's still Sophie. She gives me eye contact from across the room. I can clearly tell that she's looking at me sometimes. I think she's just shy... when we talk together, she never looks directly in my eyes, or very rarely. It's been like that since October I'd say. I can't believe I didn't make a move on her yet, but I'm not feeling confident about it because it's been months and months. I always tell myself that it will be weird if I do something now.
Bootcamp started. I don't feel like doing it in my school. I could try on younger girls I don't know (there are many of them that are pretty), but I'm feeling nervous as hell doing this at school. I'm always thinking about the impacts on my reputation (I don't even think I really have one to be honest) or about how people are going to perceive me. If I fail my approach, this girl will probably see me again at school many times. I'm feeling bad about this... ugh. How you guys do to not give a damn? I always give too much damn lol...
I have troubles being consistent, because as I said my confidence is like a roller coaster. I feel confident as hell one day, and then once one negative thought go through my mind, I start feeling bad again. I just feel like my progress is only temporary! I don't progress constantly, and I feel like I go back to my old self all the time.
I have an oral presentation in 2 days. I fear talking to many people at the same time. I'm always worried about what I say. I'm scared of saying bull**** sometimes, even when I talk to my buddies I don't always say everything I want to say. What the hell is wrong. The thing is I'm scared of running out of things to say. It was always my biggest fear during public speaking. It still is... When I run out of things to say, I start
I just realized I didn't worry that much before. I really didn't worry that much. I don't know what's happening, but I started worrying again. It's maybe the big load of exams I have this week and the lack of sleep that makes me think this way. Exams and a lack of sleep definitely don't help at giving me a good mood. Simply those 2 things alone make me feel bad. Probably if I had more time, I would do things I like to relax and clear my mind of negativity. I still have an exam tomorrow and I'm still writing this. I think it's good to just free your thoughts sometimes and let it go. It feels good to write about it. I know that writing about things and doing meditation won't help me cure my anxiety. I have to take action, but I'm still feeling bad about this, and when I took action the last time, I failed and when I see her everyday she reminds me of my failure. I'm scared of this again.
You know what? I'm tired of this. I'm really tired of complaining about this. There's nothing to help me. Nobody to help me. There's only myself that can put myself back up. The world can try and help, but in the end I'm the only one that can help myself. It's all in the mind.
Tomorrow after my breakdance class, I'll be doing approaches with my buddy Casta. I hope I'll do at LEAST one. If I'm in a good mood I'll do more, and even if I'm not in a good mood I'll force myself to do it. I have to get 10 names. 10! Not 9, but 10. Even more than 10.
I like chatting with LearningSlowly. He's a cool dude. BTW thanks dude for being there when I needed it!
The night before, I'm feeling alright. I do meditation, and I feel great. The next morning as I get out of bed, I still feel great! Then, I go to school. When I arrive to school, anxiety kicks in again. When I said hi to that girl yesterday and today, she wasn't that reactive.
(I just realized I'm still looking for reactions. What you guys said the other day that you should just assume attraction is right. I forgot about this and I'm still worrying as ****.)
Those *bad reactions* (maybe they weren't bad at all. Maybe she didn't feel like smiling that day, I don't know) is what gave me more anxiety. I started doubting myself. She used to smile and laugh at the least funny things I said. I think I'm being needy and anxious because I'm saying to myself that I don't really attract girls anymore.
Why am I thinking this? I think it's because of my failure with Mel 2 weeks ago. I started doubting myself and it became a little worse and worse with time. I think I'm friendzoned by Kristina, by Claudia (the girl that isn't reacting anymore), by Mel.
I just thought about it. There's still Sophie. She gives me eye contact from across the room. I can clearly tell that she's looking at me sometimes. I think she's just shy... when we talk together, she never looks directly in my eyes, or very rarely. It's been like that since October I'd say. I can't believe I didn't make a move on her yet, but I'm not feeling confident about it because it's been months and months. I always tell myself that it will be weird if I do something now.
Bootcamp started. I don't feel like doing it in my school. I could try on younger girls I don't know (there are many of them that are pretty), but I'm feeling nervous as hell doing this at school. I'm always thinking about the impacts on my reputation (I don't even think I really have one to be honest) or about how people are going to perceive me. If I fail my approach, this girl will probably see me again at school many times. I'm feeling bad about this... ugh. How you guys do to not give a damn? I always give too much damn lol...
I have troubles being consistent, because as I said my confidence is like a roller coaster. I feel confident as hell one day, and then once one negative thought go through my mind, I start feeling bad again. I just feel like my progress is only temporary! I don't progress constantly, and I feel like I go back to my old self all the time.
I have an oral presentation in 2 days. I fear talking to many people at the same time. I'm always worried about what I say. I'm scared of saying bull**** sometimes, even when I talk to my buddies I don't always say everything I want to say. What the hell is wrong. The thing is I'm scared of running out of things to say. It was always my biggest fear during public speaking. It still is... When I run out of things to say, I start
I just realized I didn't worry that much before. I really didn't worry that much. I don't know what's happening, but I started worrying again. It's maybe the big load of exams I have this week and the lack of sleep that makes me think this way. Exams and a lack of sleep definitely don't help at giving me a good mood. Simply those 2 things alone make me feel bad. Probably if I had more time, I would do things I like to relax and clear my mind of negativity. I still have an exam tomorrow and I'm still writing this. I think it's good to just free your thoughts sometimes and let it go. It feels good to write about it. I know that writing about things and doing meditation won't help me cure my anxiety. I have to take action, but I'm still feeling bad about this, and when I took action the last time, I failed and when I see her everyday she reminds me of my failure. I'm scared of this again.
You know what? I'm tired of this. I'm really tired of complaining about this. There's nothing to help me. Nobody to help me. There's only myself that can put myself back up. The world can try and help, but in the end I'm the only one that can help myself. It's all in the mind.
Tomorrow after my breakdance class, I'll be doing approaches with my buddy Casta. I hope I'll do at LEAST one. If I'm in a good mood I'll do more, and even if I'm not in a good mood I'll force myself to do it. I have to get 10 names. 10! Not 9, but 10. Even more than 10.
I like chatting with LearningSlowly. He's a cool dude. BTW thanks dude for being there when I needed it!
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I bolded it.Mindgamez said:
So, approach fun. If you're having fun you don't care about your rep and if you don't, people just assume it's good enough so you don't have to. Because people assume that and reputation is in fact what other people think, feel overall just assume about you, your rep will be golden. Have. Fun.
Thanks Jack, I really appreciate it.
I'll take your advice about the public speaking. I must get ready for tomorrow.
Missed 2 opportunities today to approach. I'll do my 10 approaches this Sunday at the mall, and there will be hundred of opportunities, not just 2. I must stop thinking so much and just go for it.
I'll tell you guys how it went.
I'll take your advice about the public speaking. I must get ready for tomorrow.
Missed 2 opportunities today to approach. I'll do my 10 approaches this Sunday at the mall, and there will be hundred of opportunities, not just 2. I must stop thinking so much and just go for it.
I'll tell you guys how it went.
MY NEW PRANKS VIDEO! SO COOL!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWW3QhSKr14&feature=youtu.be
Wow, I'm so proud of this! This was so fun to do. I might get paid for this if my video gets good. It helped me to get over my fear of looking ridiculous. It is still pretty easy to me. Next episode, I'll do leg lifts and crazier things for sure.
Today I did my oral presentation. I was a lot less nervous than I expected! I didn't stammer at all (because I do during public speaking when I'm pretty nervous) and I felt pretty good. I realized that being confident helps you to keep focus and say what you have to say. Hesitation or fear is what makes awkward silences. It never happened because I always knew what to say. I ended up doing great.
Approaches to do this Sunday. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. That's good! Better be both at the same time than just nervous!
I started socializing a little more with my initial girl buddies. I talk more and I express myself better I feel. I better get girl buddies instead of ignoring the girls I don't want to date. It's good to get to know other girls. I might get to know other girls that could become my next gf, who knows. I realized that I started thinking more positively since today. That's good, I will keep up this attitude always.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWW3QhSKr14&feature=youtu.be
Wow, I'm so proud of this! This was so fun to do. I might get paid for this if my video gets good. It helped me to get over my fear of looking ridiculous. It is still pretty easy to me. Next episode, I'll do leg lifts and crazier things for sure.
Today I did my oral presentation. I was a lot less nervous than I expected! I didn't stammer at all (because I do during public speaking when I'm pretty nervous) and I felt pretty good. I realized that being confident helps you to keep focus and say what you have to say. Hesitation or fear is what makes awkward silences. It never happened because I always knew what to say. I ended up doing great.
Approaches to do this Sunday. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. That's good! Better be both at the same time than just nervous!
I started socializing a little more with my initial girl buddies. I talk more and I express myself better I feel. I better get girl buddies instead of ignoring the girls I don't want to date. It's good to get to know other girls. I might get to know other girls that could become my next gf, who knows. I realized that I started thinking more positively since today. That's good, I will keep up this attitude always.