Lordlaxative
Don Juan
There she is, the girl of your dreams. She has the perfect hourglass shaped body, a face that glows with innocence and youth, and a smile that can brighten a dark room. She is gorgeous in every sense of the word, and you have just gotten her phone number. You spend all day thinking about her, even though you know that this is not the way a DJ would act. But you can't help it. You go to sleep and you dream about when you call her, the sweet soft sound of her voice. You long for her, and you can't stop thinking about how you are perfect for each other. That is until you see this dream girl flirting with another guy, the way she touches his arm when she is talking to him, the way she laughs at his jokes, and the way she leans in towards him when they are together... You burn with rage. She is yours, and not that chump's! How could she betray you? After all you are so perfect for each other...
We all know the feeling. Jealousy is one of the most intense emotions we as humans can feel. We want what is ours, and we want no one else to have it. We have earned it, and it cannot be taken from us this easy! However, this is one of the main stumbling blocks for many Don Juans. It is our human nature to get jealous, but it just reeks of insecurity, desperation, and distrust.
So how does one over come such a strong emotion? It is much easier said than done, but it is not impossible by any means. To overcome it and feel nothing requires much practice, but to supress it and not let it show is easier, yet often just as effective. If you can suppress your jeaslousy, not let it show, and not act on it, it shows trust and comes across the same as not being jealous at all. Once you can confine it and control it, you have conquered something that many people will never overcome in their whole life-span. These are a few of the steps to help you in confining this self-deteriorating force:
1. Identify the Source
What is the reason you are so jealous? What is it that you are actually jealous about? Can you name it, or is it just pure raw unbridled emotion? The first step to really overcoming jealousy, is to find out why you feel the way you do. Is it anger you are feeling? Is it fear? Is it a combination of both? Once you can determine why you feel this way, you can start to remedy the problem.
2. Realize the validity (or non-validity) of your Jealousy
Is your jealousy rational? Did she actually do something to betray your trust? Has she given you a reason to distrust her in the past? Often when you look at your jealousy analytically, you see that the feelings you are feeling are completely unfounded and irrational. If it is unbased, trust her and she will see you as much more of a confident guy, and thus more attractive. If you have no basis for not trusting her and showing your jealousy, you will undoubtedly lose respect in her eyes as well as attraction. Now, this is not to say, do something stupid such as allowing her to go to her ex-boyfriend's house to watch a movie with just the two of them. This jealousy is rational, and actually has basis. This is an okay form of jealousy, and usually requires much talk before you allow (or not allow) her to proceed.
3. Learn from your Jealousy
Every time the emotion is present there is something that you can learn from it. Ask yourself, "Why do I feel this way?" "What am I trying to hold on to?" "Why do I feel threatened?" This can teach you alot about yourself. If you can identify why exactly you feel the way you do, you are going to have a much easier time overcoming your jealousy. Is it because someone has cheated on you in the past? Is it because you don't think you can ever attract another girl as beautiful as this one? Is it because you feel the other guy is superior to you in some way? Once you can answer these questions, you can combat them with powerful self-affirmations. "He may be better looking than me, but my personality is eons more powerful than his." Which brings me to my last point...
4. You are the Prize
Once you've analyzed your jealousy and learned where it is coming from, realize that it is her loss if she betrays that trust. There will be no second chance EVER, and she knows it. If she screws up, it will be the biggest mistake she ever makes. She will lose out on an awesome guy such as yourself. You do not want a girl who you cannot trust, and as the saying goes, "once a cheater, always a cheater." You deserve better than that, and trust is given only until it is betrayed, and then no more. If she chooses to make-out with her ex while dating you, then she can have him and she has made the wrong choice. She will regret it later, but it is too late, you will have found a girl who respects you and values your trust. This principal alone is the core for overcoming your jealousy. You trust her, because you both know that she would never do anything to risk losing a guy as great as you. This confidence and trust, will improve your sexual magnetism ten-fold.
Learn to be completely happy with yourself, and then she will be too. In a relationship like that, jealousy is in absence.
We all know the feeling. Jealousy is one of the most intense emotions we as humans can feel. We want what is ours, and we want no one else to have it. We have earned it, and it cannot be taken from us this easy! However, this is one of the main stumbling blocks for many Don Juans. It is our human nature to get jealous, but it just reeks of insecurity, desperation, and distrust.
So how does one over come such a strong emotion? It is much easier said than done, but it is not impossible by any means. To overcome it and feel nothing requires much practice, but to supress it and not let it show is easier, yet often just as effective. If you can suppress your jeaslousy, not let it show, and not act on it, it shows trust and comes across the same as not being jealous at all. Once you can confine it and control it, you have conquered something that many people will never overcome in their whole life-span. These are a few of the steps to help you in confining this self-deteriorating force:
1. Identify the Source
What is the reason you are so jealous? What is it that you are actually jealous about? Can you name it, or is it just pure raw unbridled emotion? The first step to really overcoming jealousy, is to find out why you feel the way you do. Is it anger you are feeling? Is it fear? Is it a combination of both? Once you can determine why you feel this way, you can start to remedy the problem.
2. Realize the validity (or non-validity) of your Jealousy
Is your jealousy rational? Did she actually do something to betray your trust? Has she given you a reason to distrust her in the past? Often when you look at your jealousy analytically, you see that the feelings you are feeling are completely unfounded and irrational. If it is unbased, trust her and she will see you as much more of a confident guy, and thus more attractive. If you have no basis for not trusting her and showing your jealousy, you will undoubtedly lose respect in her eyes as well as attraction. Now, this is not to say, do something stupid such as allowing her to go to her ex-boyfriend's house to watch a movie with just the two of them. This jealousy is rational, and actually has basis. This is an okay form of jealousy, and usually requires much talk before you allow (or not allow) her to proceed.
3. Learn from your Jealousy
Every time the emotion is present there is something that you can learn from it. Ask yourself, "Why do I feel this way?" "What am I trying to hold on to?" "Why do I feel threatened?" This can teach you alot about yourself. If you can identify why exactly you feel the way you do, you are going to have a much easier time overcoming your jealousy. Is it because someone has cheated on you in the past? Is it because you don't think you can ever attract another girl as beautiful as this one? Is it because you feel the other guy is superior to you in some way? Once you can answer these questions, you can combat them with powerful self-affirmations. "He may be better looking than me, but my personality is eons more powerful than his." Which brings me to my last point...
4. You are the Prize
Once you've analyzed your jealousy and learned where it is coming from, realize that it is her loss if she betrays that trust. There will be no second chance EVER, and she knows it. If she screws up, it will be the biggest mistake she ever makes. She will lose out on an awesome guy such as yourself. You do not want a girl who you cannot trust, and as the saying goes, "once a cheater, always a cheater." You deserve better than that, and trust is given only until it is betrayed, and then no more. If she chooses to make-out with her ex while dating you, then she can have him and she has made the wrong choice. She will regret it later, but it is too late, you will have found a girl who respects you and values your trust. This principal alone is the core for overcoming your jealousy. You trust her, because you both know that she would never do anything to risk losing a guy as great as you. This confidence and trust, will improve your sexual magnetism ten-fold.
Learn to be completely happy with yourself, and then she will be too. In a relationship like that, jealousy is in absence.