This is one of my main philosophies, and something I talked about at the last DYD Seminar. Looking for indicators of interest is a waste of time when...
IT’S ALWAYS ON!
A question I here way too often is, “How do I know if a girl is interested in me?”
When I was first starting out with this, I was absolutely clueless at determining which girls liked me and which girls didn’t. I tried paying attention to body language and listening to what girls would say to try to find clues, but nothing seemed to work consistently. I had many missed opportunities before I figured out the unbelievably simple solution.
One night I went out with a girl and we ended up side-by-side sharing a bottle of champagne on a bench over looking the city. We were up there for hours talking about everything - Relationships, sex, you name it. She even asked me if I was a good kisser!
The funny thing was that during our whole conversation she just stared out towards the city and never made eye contact with me. I couldn’t understand it. How could she NOT want to make out? I kept turning my face towards hers and leaning in, hoping she would get the hint. No response!
I was getting frustrated and I was thinking about calling it a night when something hit me. Here we were, nice conversation, romantic spot, bottle of champagne…If she didn’t want to hook up, then why would she have even agreed to come up here with me in the first place?
I decided to go balls out, because if this girl didn’t want to have fun I was over it anyways! I had enough friends! I leaned forward, turned my head a whole 180 degrees to face her, and went in for the kill. She grabbed the back of my head and we started making out like crazy! After nearly sucking off my lower lip she looked in my eyes and said, “I was waiting all night for that!”
I’ll never understand women!
The important lesson that I learned here is that you have to ALWAYS assume that it’s on, and treat any situation with a woman like she wants you BAD. Women have no respect for a guy that doesn’t have the balls to make a move, whether that move is getting her number, going for a kiss, or going all the way. It is absolutely crucial to your success that you have the attitude of “IT’S ALWAYS ON!”
Next time you are in a situation with a woman and you don’t know what to do, take a step back and think to yourself, “What would I do right now if I knew this girl was totally into me?” Figure out what move you would make if you held ALL the cards, then DO IT!
The worst thing that can happen is for her to say no, which leads me to…
No Means “Not Yet”
If you go for a girl’s phone number and she turns you down, that means one of two things. Either she is in a committed relationship, or you didn’t get her interested enough to want to continue the interaction. If this happens move on…It’s never worth the effort to try persuade her otherwise, because now you are fighting an uphill battle. Better to find someone new and start over again clean.
Now if you go to kiss a girl and she turns her head or shoots you down, that doesn’t necessarily mean she isn’t interested in kissing you, it just means she isn’t interested in kissing you yet. Women need to be warmed up, and some women need more warming up than others. My roommate is a very hot, classy woman, and she usually won’t kiss a guy until around the 3rd date, even if she is way into him. If you get denied, don’t take it as a shut down. She is just telling you that you have some more work to do. Keep being your confident self and go for it again when the time is right. If you are in a dating situation, the right time will probably come on the next meeting. If you are in a club and meeting for the first time, the right time may be after you leave the club and take her to your house. Only one way to find out!
IT’S ALWAYS ON!
A question I here way too often is, “How do I know if a girl is interested in me?”
When I was first starting out with this, I was absolutely clueless at determining which girls liked me and which girls didn’t. I tried paying attention to body language and listening to what girls would say to try to find clues, but nothing seemed to work consistently. I had many missed opportunities before I figured out the unbelievably simple solution.
One night I went out with a girl and we ended up side-by-side sharing a bottle of champagne on a bench over looking the city. We were up there for hours talking about everything - Relationships, sex, you name it. She even asked me if I was a good kisser!
The funny thing was that during our whole conversation she just stared out towards the city and never made eye contact with me. I couldn’t understand it. How could she NOT want to make out? I kept turning my face towards hers and leaning in, hoping she would get the hint. No response!
I was getting frustrated and I was thinking about calling it a night when something hit me. Here we were, nice conversation, romantic spot, bottle of champagne…If she didn’t want to hook up, then why would she have even agreed to come up here with me in the first place?
I decided to go balls out, because if this girl didn’t want to have fun I was over it anyways! I had enough friends! I leaned forward, turned my head a whole 180 degrees to face her, and went in for the kill. She grabbed the back of my head and we started making out like crazy! After nearly sucking off my lower lip she looked in my eyes and said, “I was waiting all night for that!”
I’ll never understand women!
The important lesson that I learned here is that you have to ALWAYS assume that it’s on, and treat any situation with a woman like she wants you BAD. Women have no respect for a guy that doesn’t have the balls to make a move, whether that move is getting her number, going for a kiss, or going all the way. It is absolutely crucial to your success that you have the attitude of “IT’S ALWAYS ON!”
Next time you are in a situation with a woman and you don’t know what to do, take a step back and think to yourself, “What would I do right now if I knew this girl was totally into me?” Figure out what move you would make if you held ALL the cards, then DO IT!
The worst thing that can happen is for her to say no, which leads me to…
No Means “Not Yet”
If you go for a girl’s phone number and she turns you down, that means one of two things. Either she is in a committed relationship, or you didn’t get her interested enough to want to continue the interaction. If this happens move on…It’s never worth the effort to try persuade her otherwise, because now you are fighting an uphill battle. Better to find someone new and start over again clean.
Now if you go to kiss a girl and she turns her head or shoots you down, that doesn’t necessarily mean she isn’t interested in kissing you, it just means she isn’t interested in kissing you yet. Women need to be warmed up, and some women need more warming up than others. My roommate is a very hot, classy woman, and she usually won’t kiss a guy until around the 3rd date, even if she is way into him. If you get denied, don’t take it as a shut down. She is just telling you that you have some more work to do. Keep being your confident self and go for it again when the time is right. If you are in a dating situation, the right time will probably come on the next meeting. If you are in a club and meeting for the first time, the right time may be after you leave the club and take her to your house. Only one way to find out!
