its all in your minds

[improvingdonjuan]

i have realized something today. everything is in your mind,so try looking at things positively.
i have read many guys in this site saying "i suck", "how can i do this", "i have no balls", "i will never be good with girls" " i cant aproach im a puzzy" nononononon fellow djs thats not the attitude to have when you want to work towards your goal.

dont count your losses but your victories, look at things in the bright side it will help you tremendously. here is the situation you go up to a girl you talk to her but she doesnt give you her number, she wants to be "just friends". thats a loss right? WRONG think about it, you went up to her(thats a pretty great thing,not ever one has the balls to do that) you talked to her(hey thats another victory right there you actually talked to her and now you are building up your conversational skills for next time) you asked for her number (dude you are a pretty brave man not many people go up to a girl let alone ask her number, congratulations) you got shot down ( another victory, you have now builded up practice so next time you will do it better, and besides when she shot you down she meant im not worthy of you i think you shouldnt lose your time with something so little as me when you deserve better, so you saved time and money)

so you see you have just exerciced the dj mucle, and every mucle needs exercicing the more you exercice the dj mucle the more practice and stronger it gets until one time you go stop and think about it, and you have acomplished a lot.

see things from a postive pespective because it will boost your confidence and as we all know confidence is the key to women,djs dont look back and say "i ****ed up today", "i did this wrong" "i suck" think about what you have done and how much balls it took to acomplished that, because rejection is not failure but exercise!!!!!!


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Confidence is the key to women
THE DJ BIBLE

 

[Take No Dirt]

Great post, improvingdonjuan!!

As a man thinketh, so he becomes.

 

[improvingdonjuan]

bump

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Confidence is the key to women
THE DJ BIBLE

 

[Paradox]

Moved to 'Tips'

 

[DonJoey]

I read this little book (dont know the eact title but I will get it if anyone wants to know) - somthing like "How not to be single".

Anyway, the author tells it like you say. Its all in your mind.
You wont get any of anything unless you get the balls to walk up and do something about it.

I'd recommend it but it covers most of the DJ stuff here, like clothes, looking better, working up courage and most of all playing the numbers game of asking out and smiling etc to someone every day cause after each rejection you get, you're one step closer to the one who will say yes.

 

[Shiftkey]

This is true in some circumstances, but sometimes you have to look at the negative to learn from your mistakes in order to improve your chances for next time.

 

[Poosy Marauder]

Don Joey, I'd be curious to know the title and author of the book you mentioned.

I think there is a book by Louis and Copeland called "How to be successful with women" that is touted as a bit of a classic in this area as well.

You're right, this forum probably covers most of the material anyway but its good to reinforce the basics.

 

[DonJoey]

Poosy, i'll get the name and author of it on the weekend and will post it on Monday.

I was embarrased reading it (and buying it) ...you might find it funny but this book is even more well hidden than my porn mags!

But you get to a point where you'll listen to anyone to work out what you're doing wrong.

 

[DonJoey]

Ok, I just posted the name of the book in Tips called "Book you might wanna read", so that other DJs might be able to benefit.