It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options
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On day 3 now. Would have been on day 10 if it wasn't for that damn PORN. I have deleted almost all my porn. At first I was a little doubtful about doing it but then once I deleted them I realized that it may have been one of the most important things I have done in a while. PORN DOES NOT CONTROL ME I CONTROL PORN! Day 3 has been little depressing but I know from experience that I'll feel better by day 5. By then I'll feel pretty good and "manly".
Just to add to the discussion: After I finally broke the 19 day record and masterbated I felt no different but the second time the next day I feel so much less confident and uncertain.
Lesson learnt: only masterbate when no social events are planned.
Lesson learnt: only masterbate when no social events are planned.
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Ok, I start today!
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4/21.
I'll second that one holland!! And for anyone who still doesnt believe theres a connection with masterbation. Masterbate 5 times in one day, and tell me how you feel for the next week lol.
I'll second that one holland!! And for anyone who still doesnt believe theres a connection with masterbation. Masterbate 5 times in one day, and tell me how you feel for the next week lol.
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alright, day 1 over, only 20 to go
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ok, i'm gonna start too. 3/21
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stop masterbating
i no pretty much all of u guys masterbate, so did i half a year ago. and i no most of u think its fine, u read some "positives" about baiting and u no longer feel guilty about it
but after quiting for half a year i feel like i shud share the amazing benefits of NOT keeping ur hand to urself
1. more awake/ alot more energy- I generally feel about 3 times more awake now then i did when i baited, it helped me with basicly everything. In school i could pay attention better and i could focus alot easier. Also i think my eyesight slightly improved but im not sure.
2. personality changed- I became ALOT more aggresive. if your one of those afcs who get bullied or something then you should DEFINITLY stop. After i stoped i basicly stoped taking **** from anyone. This is probably my favorite benefit. I went from a boy to a man
3. Hornyness- This is the common and most talked about benefit. You get alot more horny when you dont bait. This led me to approach and date alot more girls.
4. Confidence- Your generally alot more confident, knowing that you conquered one of the hardest habits in the world to defeat just makes you feel like you can do anything lol. Its just like accomplishing any other goal.
5. Working out- After i stoped baiting i had ALOT more tension. The great thing about it was that it made working out FUN, it felt freaking amazing to get rid of all the stress and tension. You HAVEEE to work out or have sex alot after you stop baiting, you just have too. So if u want another motivation to hit the gym heres one.
How to stop-
Stoping isn't easy. I used to bait every day before i tried to quit. What helped me out the most was GOING OUT, ALOT. When you go out ur incapable of baiting, and you'll probably not even think about it anyway.
Over the winter break I promised my self i would go out every day. that was about 9 days of going out and 9 days of no baiting. After, i actually went out ALOT more in general because you seriously get addicted to it after awile. Anyway i suggest making this sorta promise for yourselfs. In the end you will become alot more social and it will provide a good distraction for your new goal.
Other tips- The first 21 days are the hardest so avoid the following untill you have good control and the habit goes away.
1. Dont play video games, i found that when i did i got hornier.
2. dont be idle for a long time. Sitting down on the computer all day will make you wanna bait like no other.
3. Avoid all contact with pictures of hot women. you may think "il just look, i wont bait" but the truth the chances of you giving in are pretty high. So just avoid it all together. no baiting with out ejaculation or porn!
4. Ok this is a weird tip but i swear it works wonders. If you feel the urge coming on, stand up and go to the bathroom and pee. The urge should lesson. Also try to go do something else while your up and when u sit back down begin some sort of distraction.
Anyway if you want to feel alive, Dont grab whats inbetween your thighs (ya trying to ryme lol)
i no pretty much all of u guys masterbate, so did i half a year ago. and i no most of u think its fine, u read some "positives" about baiting and u no longer feel guilty about it
but after quiting for half a year i feel like i shud share the amazing benefits of NOT keeping ur hand to urself
1. more awake/ alot more energy- I generally feel about 3 times more awake now then i did when i baited, it helped me with basicly everything. In school i could pay attention better and i could focus alot easier. Also i think my eyesight slightly improved but im not sure.
2. personality changed- I became ALOT more aggresive. if your one of those afcs who get bullied or something then you should DEFINITLY stop. After i stoped i basicly stoped taking **** from anyone. This is probably my favorite benefit. I went from a boy to a man
3. Hornyness- This is the common and most talked about benefit. You get alot more horny when you dont bait. This led me to approach and date alot more girls.
4. Confidence- Your generally alot more confident, knowing that you conquered one of the hardest habits in the world to defeat just makes you feel like you can do anything lol. Its just like accomplishing any other goal.
5. Working out- After i stoped baiting i had ALOT more tension. The great thing about it was that it made working out FUN, it felt freaking amazing to get rid of all the stress and tension. You HAVEEE to work out or have sex alot after you stop baiting, you just have too. So if u want another motivation to hit the gym heres one.
How to stop-
Stoping isn't easy. I used to bait every day before i tried to quit. What helped me out the most was GOING OUT, ALOT. When you go out ur incapable of baiting, and you'll probably not even think about it anyway.
Over the winter break I promised my self i would go out every day. that was about 9 days of going out and 9 days of no baiting. After, i actually went out ALOT more in general because you seriously get addicted to it after awile. Anyway i suggest making this sorta promise for yourselfs. In the end you will become alot more social and it will provide a good distraction for your new goal
.Other tips- The first 21 days are the hardest so avoid the following untill you have good control and the habit goes away.
1. Dont play video games, i found that when i did i got hornier.
2. dont be idle for a long time. Sitting down on the computer all day will make you wanna bait like no other.
3. Avoid all contact with pictures of hot women. you may think "il just look, i wont bait" but the truth the chances of you giving in are pretty high. So just avoid it all together. no baiting with out ejaculation or porn!
4. Ok this is a weird tip but i swear it works wonders. If you feel the urge coming on, stand up and go to the bathroom and pee. The urge should lesson. Also try to go do something else while your up and when u sit back down begin some sort of distraction.
Anyway if you want to feel alive, Dont grab whats inbetween your thighs
(ya trying to ryme lol)The challenger
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na its mad possible lol
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I believe much of what you said. There was that old masturbation survey that people keep referring to, claiming that masturbation is healthy because "everyone" does it. So if there was a problem with it, people would know and so far there are "no problems."
First of all, that survey asked if people have TRIED masturbating in the past. Masturbating in the past is not the same as masturbating multiple times a day for years and years. For the record, I'm not some sort of moralistic bible-thumper. No, I don't think masturbation is a "sin". I think that it is perfeclty healthy AS EXPERIMENTATION when you are young to explore your body and learn about sexuality firsthand (versus in a textbook at school). However, to go on constantly masturbating is a whole different story. When you go that, you are stepping over boundaries between "healthy" and abuse. That is the perspective I come from.
Although a male is capable of reproducing sperm very quickly, that does not mean that the man's body today is well suited for CONSTANT ejaculation. What other animals do you know in the wild that ejaculate EVERY single day? There are seasons in nature for animals. One season is stocking up on food for the harsh months ahead, the other is migration, the next is the mating season, then repeat (yeah really simplistic, but accurate enough for my purpose). So when an animal mates and ejaculates, it has a long time before doing so again. It has months and months of rest till the next mating season.
Ejaculating constantly is depleting your body of some essential reserves and throwing your hormonal balance out of whack. What is more stable: a bucket of water that is full and trickling over the sides, or a bucket of water that is being completely emptied and filled constantly? When your hormonal balance is thrown out of whack, many different symptoms may persist and not everyone feels the same effects.
Some people refuse to believe that abusing the body in this way could bring on any sort of harm whatsoever. But remember, from the perspective of neurological activity in your body, ejaculation is extremely similar to drugs. It is fine in small doses, but constant use like anything will have negative long term affects. Like smoking a joint once every few months won't mess you up, but try doing it every day and it will eventually.
Just as an example of why people write off any side-effects of masturbation (remember ejaculation is the key factor here), let me say something about my experience with acne and an online acne board I used to visit every day 3 years ago. A group of people, including myself found a strong correlation between masturbation and acne. Of course, we were laughed at by some people saying it was jsut an old wives tale to discourage their little boys from doing it. Well, I, along with many other people always observed that a breakout would occur the day after masturbating and it always got worse and seemed to get better when we stopped for 1 week or more. The fact that several people saw a similar correlation cannot be coincidence. Time and time again they all noticed the same results.
Why? Going back to the bucket of water example, when you are constantly ejaculating on a daily basis, you are essentially emptying the bucket and your body senses the sudden and large depletion and OVER-reacts by producing a lot of androgens (sex hormones). At this point, I should also point out that type II diabetes (insulin resistance) is also caused by a similar effect according to popular scientific literature out there (except it is insulin being over-produced instead of androgens). Excess amounts of androgens have been linked to increased sebum production (that's why your skin starts to get oily in teenages years, because androgen production has been dormant until then) . That means your skin secretes more oil through the skin pores and the excess oil production clogs your pores and contributes to acne.
Not such an old wives tale if you do some research and actually find scientific evidence supporting the "old wives tale".
I haven't done enough research on the eye-sight thing. It MAY be an old wives tale....but look at what I found out about acne. So you never know.
First of all, that survey asked if people have TRIED masturbating in the past. Masturbating in the past is not the same as masturbating multiple times a day for years and years. For the record, I'm not some sort of moralistic bible-thumper. No, I don't think masturbation is a "sin". I think that it is perfeclty healthy AS EXPERIMENTATION when you are young to explore your body and learn about sexuality firsthand (versus in a textbook at school). However, to go on constantly masturbating is a whole different story. When you go that, you are stepping over boundaries between "healthy" and abuse. That is the perspective I come from.
Although a male is capable of reproducing sperm very quickly, that does not mean that the man's body today is well suited for CONSTANT ejaculation. What other animals do you know in the wild that ejaculate EVERY single day? There are seasons in nature for animals. One season is stocking up on food for the harsh months ahead, the other is migration, the next is the mating season, then repeat (yeah really simplistic, but accurate enough for my purpose). So when an animal mates and ejaculates, it has a long time before doing so again. It has months and months of rest till the next mating season.
Ejaculating constantly is depleting your body of some essential reserves and throwing your hormonal balance out of whack. What is more stable: a bucket of water that is full and trickling over the sides, or a bucket of water that is being completely emptied and filled constantly? When your hormonal balance is thrown out of whack, many different symptoms may persist and not everyone feels the same effects.
Some people refuse to believe that abusing the body in this way could bring on any sort of harm whatsoever. But remember, from the perspective of neurological activity in your body, ejaculation is extremely similar to drugs. It is fine in small doses, but constant use like anything will have negative long term affects. Like smoking a joint once every few months won't mess you up, but try doing it every day and it will eventually.
Just as an example of why people write off any side-effects of masturbation (remember ejaculation is the key factor here), let me say something about my experience with acne and an online acne board I used to visit every day 3 years ago. A group of people, including myself found a strong correlation between masturbation and acne. Of course, we were laughed at by some people saying it was jsut an old wives tale to discourage their little boys from doing it. Well, I, along with many other people always observed that a breakout would occur the day after masturbating and it always got worse and seemed to get better when we stopped for 1 week or more. The fact that several people saw a similar correlation cannot be coincidence. Time and time again they all noticed the same results.
Why? Going back to the bucket of water example, when you are constantly ejaculating on a daily basis, you are essentially emptying the bucket and your body senses the sudden and large depletion and OVER-reacts by producing a lot of androgens (sex hormones). At this point, I should also point out that type II diabetes (insulin resistance) is also caused by a similar effect according to popular scientific literature out there (except it is insulin being over-produced instead of androgens). Excess amounts of androgens have been linked to increased sebum production (that's why your skin starts to get oily in teenages years, because androgen production has been dormant until then) . That means your skin secretes more oil through the skin pores and the excess oil production clogs your pores and contributes to acne.
Not such an old wives tale if you do some research and actually find scientific evidence supporting the "old wives tale".
I haven't done enough research on the eye-sight thing. It MAY be an old wives tale....but look at what I found out about acne. So you never know.