okay so quick background: skip to below to skip background
Met this girl in my accounting class, nice girl (seemingly so far), dresses somewhat classy (doesn't where slutty or hoish/very revealing clothes, has nice style and fashion), doesn't seem to be stuck up so far (she works and pays her way through school etc) and so seems somewhat more conservative and old fashioned. I say seems cause well you never really know these days especially so soon right, lol.
anyways, had some quick coffee with her after class thursday night, set up a date for saturday and got her number, called her saturday afternoon to tell her what time to be at school (i live on campus she doesn't and where to park and to give her my number so she could call me when she gets on campus to let me know she was there) and gave her the general idea of what we would do, ended the convo and said see ya tonight, total phone convo time ~2 min if that.
met up with her later that night, went to dinner and a movie (put my arm around her, she didn't resist but i'm not sure how into it she was), came up to my place after movie talked for about 30 min, walked her to her car said goodnight and see you tues, and gave each other a hug goodnight.
Resisted urge to call and say "hope you got home safe tonight was fun" or some lame crap like i might of done a few years ago. Didn't call her at all, and talked to her next when i saw her in class tuesday. So i talked to her after class tuesday, asked what she was up to and she said nothing. So I invited her back to my place saying why don't you come hang out for awhile, i don't have anything special planned but you could have some of the food i have to cook for myself since i'm hungry and we could hang out and watch some tv and something, she said sure. So she came over, ate some food, thanked me for it, we watched some tv, talked for awhile, i tried some light kino touched her feet a little and her arms, no good opening for a kiss presented itself then i walked her to her car and hugged her goodnight.
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Tonight i talked to her after class, asked her what she was up to and she said she was getting dinner with her family tonight, so i didn't invite her over or anything. I just said "what are you doing tomorrow night, you should come over and we'll watch a movie or do something fun"
I know she is busy this saturday and sunday with family stuff she told me about over a week ago.
WHen i said she could come over on friday she didn't say no and she didn't act distant or unreceptive, she just said "i think i [may] have something going on tomorrow night but am not sure, this whole weekend is so busy for me" and she was apologetic, seemed somewhat genuine.
She then said "I'll call you tomorrow and let you know if i have anything planned." I then said "okay cool that sounds good, give me a call and let me know what's [up or going on]. Don't remember exactly what I said.
So Here's My Plans/question:
I'm thinking it may be a test.
No matter what i am not going to call her tomorrow or this weekend, if she doesn't call me back tomorrow then i will just not worry about it and then i will probably give her a call monday to see if she wants to go over some of the problems for our test tuesday, or maybe just wait till i see her after class tuesday to talk to her.
Now if she does call me back tomorrow and says she isn't available then i'll just be like "oh okay cool well i'll talk to you monday or something then, have fun with your friends and family this weekend, see ya mon or tues, later"
Main question
If she calls tomorrow and says she is free to hang out should i say:
A.
"oh dang, ha, i sort of figured you would probably be busy tonight and i already made plans with my friends so i can't come out tonight, maybe we could hang out monday or tuesday night, anyways, so yeah i can't go out tonight" and then basically finish the idle chat and end the convo.
or B
"Okay sounds cool, why don't you be here at 8 then" say goodbye and end convo.
I'm thinking that if she calls earlier in the day like say around 1 or 2 i should say option B, but if she calls later in the day like around 6 or so that i should say option A.
That way i'm not making myself appear to available and that way she knows that if she doesn't call and confirm early then i'm liable to have made other plans with my friends.
I'm wondering though, since she's slightly older (26) and seems more old fashioned would she probably be more adult and mature in which case as long as i don't regularly make myself too available i shouldn't have a problem, in which case i would then currently be thinking too much into this.
Met this girl in my accounting class, nice girl (seemingly so far), dresses somewhat classy (doesn't where slutty or hoish/very revealing clothes, has nice style and fashion), doesn't seem to be stuck up so far (she works and pays her way through school etc) and so seems somewhat more conservative and old fashioned. I say seems cause well you never really know these days especially so soon right, lol.
anyways, had some quick coffee with her after class thursday night, set up a date for saturday and got her number, called her saturday afternoon to tell her what time to be at school (i live on campus she doesn't and where to park and to give her my number so she could call me when she gets on campus to let me know she was there) and gave her the general idea of what we would do, ended the convo and said see ya tonight, total phone convo time ~2 min if that.
met up with her later that night, went to dinner and a movie (put my arm around her, she didn't resist but i'm not sure how into it she was), came up to my place after movie talked for about 30 min, walked her to her car said goodnight and see you tues, and gave each other a hug goodnight.
Resisted urge to call and say "hope you got home safe tonight was fun" or some lame crap like i might of done a few years ago. Didn't call her at all, and talked to her next when i saw her in class tuesday. So i talked to her after class tuesday, asked what she was up to and she said nothing. So I invited her back to my place saying why don't you come hang out for awhile, i don't have anything special planned but you could have some of the food i have to cook for myself since i'm hungry and we could hang out and watch some tv and something, she said sure. So she came over, ate some food, thanked me for it, we watched some tv, talked for awhile, i tried some light kino touched her feet a little and her arms, no good opening for a kiss presented itself then i walked her to her car and hugged her goodnight.
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Tonight i talked to her after class, asked her what she was up to and she said she was getting dinner with her family tonight, so i didn't invite her over or anything. I just said "what are you doing tomorrow night, you should come over and we'll watch a movie or do something fun"
I know she is busy this saturday and sunday with family stuff she told me about over a week ago.
WHen i said she could come over on friday she didn't say no and she didn't act distant or unreceptive, she just said "i think i [may] have something going on tomorrow night but am not sure, this whole weekend is so busy for me" and she was apologetic, seemed somewhat genuine.
She then said "I'll call you tomorrow and let you know if i have anything planned." I then said "okay cool that sounds good, give me a call and let me know what's [up or going on]. Don't remember exactly what I said.
So Here's My Plans/question:
I'm thinking it may be a test.
No matter what i am not going to call her tomorrow or this weekend, if she doesn't call me back tomorrow then i will just not worry about it and then i will probably give her a call monday to see if she wants to go over some of the problems for our test tuesday, or maybe just wait till i see her after class tuesday to talk to her.
Now if she does call me back tomorrow and says she isn't available then i'll just be like "oh okay cool well i'll talk to you monday or something then, have fun with your friends and family this weekend, see ya mon or tues, later"
Main question
If she calls tomorrow and says she is free to hang out should i say:
A.
"oh dang, ha, i sort of figured you would probably be busy tonight and i already made plans with my friends so i can't come out tonight, maybe we could hang out monday or tuesday night, anyways, so yeah i can't go out tonight" and then basically finish the idle chat and end the convo.
or B
"Okay sounds cool, why don't you be here at 8 then" say goodbye and end convo.
I'm thinking that if she calls earlier in the day like say around 1 or 2 i should say option B, but if she calls later in the day like around 6 or so that i should say option A.
That way i'm not making myself appear to available and that way she knows that if she doesn't call and confirm early then i'm liable to have made other plans with my friends.
I'm wondering though, since she's slightly older (26) and seems more old fashioned would she probably be more adult and mature in which case as long as i don't regularly make myself too available i shouldn't have a problem, in which case i would then currently be thinking too much into this.
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