Is the site "meet-up.com" a good site to use to go out more often? i don't have many

[JaegerPilot217]

Friends, I don't have many close friends, My new years resolution is to go out more, put myself out there more often and consistently, I want to stop being a recluse, because obviously girls are not gonna come knocking on my front door of my house and say "hey I wanna be your girlfriend, let's have sex", that obviously just doesn't happen, if I want to meet women I gotta go out, gotta go out to meet them. So since I also have a very small social circle, meeting girls through mutual friends is not really an option for me, so is meet-up.com a good way to take part in social activities so I can go out more and improve my social and conversation skills, meet women?

 

[sighsigh]

Why not just do cold approach?

 

[VikingKing]

Hey man I don't have many friends right now either, so I feel ya. I cut out a lot of friends out of my life because they are losers, and all they care about is smoking weed, or just something that is not conducive to their life, or society.

Try it out, I've looked it up, but never actually met any groups. Another one that I've heard about, and looked into is couch surfing . com.

 

[Vice]

You do NOT need money to meet women. What a silly limiting belief.

Hell, you don't need money to meet girls at bars and clubs.

 

[Atom Smasher]

OP, meetup is an EXCELLENT way to get back into socializing. I can't recommend it highly enough. I personally belong to several groups, such as hiking and music.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Why not just do cold approach?

Well duh how the hell am I gonna meet women to cold approach if I don't go out? So that's why I started this thread, basically I want to practice and do more approaching in environments other than bars and clubs

 

[GotED?]

This is a very good site, I met my previous GF of 1 yr long during a Meetup 14 mile long hike.

I would recommend it highly, it brings together people of same interest. No cold approach required and low pressure.

You also meet much higher quality people than skanks out in nightlife.

Out where I am in Cambridge UK, half of the participants are PH.D students., in biotech, engineering, or advanced degreed.

Exodus

 

[JaegerPilot217]

This is a very good site, I met my previous GF of 1 yr long during a Meetup 14 mile long hike.

I would recommend it highly, it brings together people of same interest. No cold approach required and low pressure.

You also meet much higher quality people than skanks out in nightlife.

Out where I am in Cambridge UK, half of the participants are PH.D students., in biotech, engineering, or advanced degreed.

Exodus

Love the responses so far, anybody else have great experiences using that site?

 

[GotED?]

As with any social gathering, Meetup is also like being in a 'night club' but mostly in a 'day club' rather.

Don't be mislead - you STILL NEED YOUR GAME to be on top of the women at Meetup groups. They know exactly what men are looking for going to Meetup, although it is highly propagandalized that 'We are all here to do this same interested thing together' - the bottom line is women and men want to meet each other for the most part.

So the women are NOT as on high guard as in a night club setting, but they will let you interact with them - and if your game is good, then much longer. On a typical 10-14 mile hike, it is ALL DAY event over 8-10 hours long. Women can not get away from you really, but they can move on physically apart from you if you are too clingy and needy.

Get your game right, do not play needy/chasing/clingy. Be interesting, drop them dead in the middle of the activity and make them want you back. It still takes work, but at least you have a better chance of meeting someone with your common interest instead of nothing at all. But beware, a good 15-30% spout off openly that they have a 'boyfriend' or some sh!t like that. I often over hear it during their conversation with others, that helps me filter out 'waste of time' types. Don't waste time with them (wouldn't know why a woman in LTR would be in a Meetup anyways - sounds fishy but not my type of woman).


Good luck.

Exodus

 

[gravityeyelids]

I'm in a similar position OP. Many of my friends have moved on and i dont have anyone to go out with. I cant speak for the site as ive never used it. But what i can recommend...and this is gonna sound gay...but go out and try to meet guys. Just strike up a conversation with some guy, maybe buy him a beer. if you hang out for a while (obviously, make it clear to him that you're after girls and dont swing that way) guys are normally pretty cool about exchanging numbers and making plans to go out with you again. Just tell them you don't have a lot of people to go out with, he seems like a cool guy, and in the near future you guys should go out in the future and get drunk and try to get on girls. Most sociable guys will be more than willing. Call him up on the weekend, be like "whats up? you know anything going on tonight? i know this cool party, grab some friends and lets go".

It's a slow process but youve basically got to rebuild a social circle from the ground up. it make take a while

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I'm in a similar position OP. Many of my friends have moved on and i dont have anyone to go out with. I cant speak for the site as ive never used it. But what i can recommend...and this is gonna sound gay...but go out and try to meet guys. Just strike up a conversation with some guy, maybe buy him a beer. if you hang out for a while (obviously, make it clear to him that you're after girls and dont swing that way) guys are normally pretty cool about exchanging numbers and making plans to go out with you again. Just tell them you don't have a lot of people to go out with, he seems like a cool guy, and in the near future you guys should go out in the future and get drunk and try to get on girls. Most sociable guys will be more than willing. Call him up on the weekend, be like "whats up? you know anything going on tonight? i know this cool party, grab some friends and lets go".

It's a slow process but youve basically got to rebuild a social circle from the ground up. it make take a while

I heard that even as a guy and you are trying to male more guy friends, that will come across as bothersome or weird to potential guy friends

 

[JaegerPilot217]

As with any social gathering, Meetup is also like being in a 'night club' but mostly in a 'day club' rather.

Don't be mislead - you STILL NEED YOUR GAME to be on top of the women at Meetup groups. They know exactly what men are looking for going to Meetup, although it is highly propagandalized that 'We are all here to do this same interested thing together' - the bottom line is women and men want to meet each other for the most part.

So the women are NOT as on high guard as in a night club setting, but they will let you interact with them - and if your game is good, then much longer. On a typical 10-14 mile hike, it is ALL DAY event over 8-10 hours long. Women can not get away from you really, but they can move on physically apart from you if you are too clingy and needy.

Get your game right, do not play needy/chasing/clingy. Be interesting, drop them dead in the middle of the activity and make them want you back. It still takes work, but at least you have a better chance of meeting someone with your common interest instead of nothing at all. But beware, a good 15-30% spout off openly that they have a 'boyfriend' or some sh!t like that. I often over hear it during their conversation with others, that helps me filter out 'waste of time' types. Don't waste time with them (wouldn't know why a woman in LTR would be in a Meetup anyways - sounds fishy but not my type of woman).


Good luck.

Exodus

True but I need to practice more to develop better game and how else am I gonna do that if I don't go out and meet women? that's another reason why I am strongly considering using that site

 

[MGeorge116]

I only used it once for a new age meditation/spirituality session. I went there twice and I stopped using it.

 

[Pardner]

I think any site that allows you to meet quality people is well worth it. This is the age of the internet, there's so many new people you can meet instead of having to go out all the time. There's no garantee that there's anyone you'll meet when you go out. Put yourself out there and good things willl happen.

 

[teddy]

Hey Jaeger-

I tried this out a couple times over a year ago. I joined a movies group, a writing group, and a "fun activities" group.

There always seemed disproportionately more guys than girls, except for my writing group....in which case the girls weren't exactly what you'd call quality.

The fun activities group was a HUGE group, so it was intimidating for me. I also didn't have a whole lot of fun.....I didn't really connect with anyone there, none of them really had the same background or interests as me.

I'm thinking of trying it again now, but I'm getting so busy that I have no idea if I'll be able to fit it in.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I think any site that allows you to meet quality people is well worth it. This is the age of the internet, there's so many new people you can meet instead of having to go out all the time. There's no garantee that there's anyone you'll meet when you go out. Put yourself out there and good things willl happen.

Well my social situation is that I do have friends, its just that they all don't know each other, to be more specific, I have friends that are named Omar, Dustin, Tony, David, Jeremy. So whenever I go out with friends, its never in groups, its me and 1 other guy, you get what I'm saying? And they never know of any parties going on, overall I just want to go out more so I can practice approaching women more often

 

[JaegerPilot217]

What else do you recommend as a way to go out more, put myself out there as much as possible? My daily/weekly activities consist of work, going to the gym, walking my dog or going to the dog park, these young adult meetings they have at local churches, or to the movies which I go like twice month

 

[yyc12]

What else do you recommend as a way to go out more, put myself out there as much as possible? My daily/weekly activities consist of work, going to the gym, walking my dog or going to the dog park, these young adult meetings they have at local churches, or to the movies which I go like twice month

Why not take up a new sport?

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Why not take up a new sport?

you mean like non-school, just amateur leagues?

 

[yyc12]

you mean like non-school, just amateur leagues?

You didn't mention in the OP if you're in college or not so I meant amateur/rec league. Most are co-ed as well. Since you labeled yourself as a "recluse" I'm guessing you like your alone time and basically see socializing as a means to an end. The sport leagues allow you do something you like, while getting the social benefits without having to "put yourself out there" which sounds like work to me and not fun. I started salsa many yrs ago and got a couple relationships out of it. Luckily for me, it was something I like doing and was always fun and 90% of my FB "friends" are from there. The meetups never worked for me. You meet new people at every meetup (even in the same meetup group) and have to start all over again. Definitely didn't connect with anyone I met there. It might work better for you so it's worth a try.