Hello gentleman, this is my first post, names Jeff nice to meet you guys... Anyways I just got out of a four year relationship maybe six months ago and can't read a sign for **** anymore. Pardon the length but I'd appreciate your assistance. Here's my dilemma
Alright here's the deal... I went up to the local bar the other night and it was pretty slow. I had seen this bartender once before and we had spoken very little that night. I know that every guy thinks that the bartender is hitting on them and I myself didn't know what to believe but my two friends who were there told me that she was. I think she was just trying to get tips. I just got out of a 4 year relationship in June so I am a little awkward with women again. Here's the story. This bar has 2 dollar 24 ounce nasty *** PBRs, but there cheap so whatever. I take 6 dollars so that I can buy two and tip two dollars. This bartender actually caught me off guard because she is extremely attractive and myself, I'm average I guess. So anyways, we chat a little while I drink the two that I paid for, then I tell her I've exhausted my limiting funding and that I was going to take off, this is around midnight. So she says, I'll buy you one. Ok, no big deal, kind of weird but she buys me another 24 ounce. I hear some bars allow the bartenders to do this but she knows I'm broke so no tip, etc. and this is a hole in the wall that doesn't get much business. Even though there are about 8 people at the bar she consistently talks to me the whole night. I finish that first free beer then say I'm going to take off. She offers me another one. I except but now it's really strange and I've only had one girlfriend my whole life (4 years like I said and I cannot read women very well.) When she is serving other customers she still looks over and smiles quite often. Then she comes over to me and hands me 5 dollars and tells me to put on some music on the jukebox. Now it's even more strange. I do that and ask her if there's anything that she wants to hear and she tells me 2 songs but I get to pick the other 4 or whatever. I go back to the bar after making the selection and she talks to me some more and then asks me for my facebook name and has me write it down for her. At this time my friends tell me that she is clearly hitting on me as I have been trying not to look at her too much. They told me to look at her body language. She is leaning in towards me over the table, pushing her boobs up and laughing at my jokes. I still take this as her just trying to win tips and customer loyalty. Then... about thirty minutes before closing she walks over and asks if I like Jager. I say yes and she brings me a glass, not a shot a shot, but a glass with about 4 shots worth in it. Well I drink it, I walked there fyi, and tell her that I'm going to take off she smiles and says goodbye. She told me her schedule a few times but I forgot what it was and we also had a funny conversation outside while smoking at some point but she was outside when I went out so, no she didn't follow me. The next day I see that she has sent me a friend request and I had her. My friend insists I should have made a move but oh well I could do that another time. Also on her facebook page I see she tells her friends to come and and she'll by them a shot or a drink. This just adds to my belief that she only wanted tips, etc. Though I clearly told her that I had no money after the first two beers. She also has around a thousand friends on facebook. Maybe she's really social. Everyone insists that she was hitting on me. Am I just being cynical about the whole thing or am I right? Sorry about the long rant. I would just like some help from someone with more experience in this arena and if she wasn't so damned good looking perhaps I would have been more apt to do something. That's not saying that I blew anything I obviously haven't but maybe you could tell me what the hell is going on here from an outsiders perspective. Thank you very much!
Alright here's the deal... I went up to the local bar the other night and it was pretty slow. I had seen this bartender once before and we had spoken very little that night. I know that every guy thinks that the bartender is hitting on them and I myself didn't know what to believe but my two friends who were there told me that she was. I think she was just trying to get tips. I just got out of a 4 year relationship in June so I am a little awkward with women again. Here's the story. This bar has 2 dollar 24 ounce nasty *** PBRs, but there cheap so whatever. I take 6 dollars so that I can buy two and tip two dollars. This bartender actually caught me off guard because she is extremely attractive and myself, I'm average I guess. So anyways, we chat a little while I drink the two that I paid for, then I tell her I've exhausted my limiting funding and that I was going to take off, this is around midnight. So she says, I'll buy you one. Ok, no big deal, kind of weird but she buys me another 24 ounce. I hear some bars allow the bartenders to do this but she knows I'm broke so no tip, etc. and this is a hole in the wall that doesn't get much business. Even though there are about 8 people at the bar she consistently talks to me the whole night. I finish that first free beer then say I'm going to take off. She offers me another one. I except but now it's really strange and I've only had one girlfriend my whole life (4 years like I said and I cannot read women very well.) When she is serving other customers she still looks over and smiles quite often. Then she comes over to me and hands me 5 dollars and tells me to put on some music on the jukebox. Now it's even more strange. I do that and ask her if there's anything that she wants to hear and she tells me 2 songs but I get to pick the other 4 or whatever. I go back to the bar after making the selection and she talks to me some more and then asks me for my facebook name and has me write it down for her. At this time my friends tell me that she is clearly hitting on me as I have been trying not to look at her too much. They told me to look at her body language. She is leaning in towards me over the table, pushing her boobs up and laughing at my jokes. I still take this as her just trying to win tips and customer loyalty. Then... about thirty minutes before closing she walks over and asks if I like Jager. I say yes and she brings me a glass, not a shot a shot, but a glass with about 4 shots worth in it. Well I drink it, I walked there fyi, and tell her that I'm going to take off she smiles and says goodbye. She told me her schedule a few times but I forgot what it was and we also had a funny conversation outside while smoking at some point but she was outside when I went out so, no she didn't follow me. The next day I see that she has sent me a friend request and I had her. My friend insists I should have made a move but oh well I could do that another time. Also on her facebook page I see she tells her friends to come and and she'll by them a shot or a drink. This just adds to my belief that she only wanted tips, etc. Though I clearly told her that I had no money after the first two beers. She also has around a thousand friends on facebook. Maybe she's really social. Everyone insists that she was hitting on me. Am I just being cynical about the whole thing or am I right? Sorry about the long rant. I would just like some help from someone with more experience in this arena and if she wasn't so damned good looking perhaps I would have been more apt to do something. That's not saying that I blew anything I obviously haven't but maybe you could tell me what the hell is going on here from an outsiders perspective. Thank you very much!
