First let me say I really want to get the chance to love this girl, and I'm not into games anymore. But I feel like I need to better understand the position I'm in and would appreciate some advice.
Last weekend I was at a resort with some friends celebrating a bachelor party. After drinking and being on the water all day we decided to have dinner at the restaurant. One of the girls that was waiting on us was very cute, friendly, and sincere in everything she did. I know that's what a waitress should do, but she wasn't even out waitress but was helping out ours. I was a but drunk and began to flirt, and she smiled nicely and was very polite. I overheard her congratulate my friend on his upcoming wedding, and he responded as though he wasn't excited, which I could tell through her off by her response that was something like " you should be happy, that's my dream." I immediately and unintentionally let out an "awe" That was my dream too and and it sounded so sweet. I wanted to talk to her but she was moving around so quickly I didn't get much of a chance. I didn't see her again at dinner. Later on before we went out, she brought the extra cot that I needed. All I said was thank you. I didn't want to say anything I'd regret being drunk, and she said your welcome and left. I couldn't get her out of my mind. Her smile, her eyes. I haven't seen anyone look at me like that before. I wasn't sure if it was the alcohol or not and tried to ignore the feeling. After we got to the club I really began regretting being so shy. I knew it was out of respect though.
( I have been single for over 5 years other than a few nights I'm not too proud of. Not because I'm ugly or want to be alone, but because my last relationship was wrong from the start and I promised myself I'd never be in a relationship out of convenience or lonliness again, I want to find someone I can truly love and who would be a good match. Someone sweet and kind, and who would be a good companion. I want to give all of my heart to the right girl.)
The next morning when I woke up sober and still thinking about her I knew I'd regret it if I didn't at least try to pursue her. I went to the restaurant and it was closed. I found a cleaning lady and wrote a thank you note and my phone number on it. I realized she may not call or even remember me since she was the one who made the impression on me, no vice versa. So the next morning I sent her roses with another thank you note saying that I hope the flowers brightened her day the way she had mine. She sent me a text saying thank you later that night. We texted for the next 4 days, mostly me telling her about myself and a picture of myself. She remembered me. The thing is I ran out of things to text her and wanted to talk. She never responded to that question directly, and only with short simple texts. I began to wonder if I am coming on too strong. So I didn't text her for 2 days. She hasn't texted me. I tried to call her tonight. She didn't answer. I left a message. Now I feel like since I was too shy or scared or drunk or whatever to try to talk to her in person that I should go see her. It's only an hour away. But should I ask her permission? Should I give her time to get back to me? If I really want her, and I do, would I be wrong or seem clingy or desperate if I continue to text, call, or show up at her work? I'm willing to try and fail for truelove, I feel it in my heart. There is no way she will ever know if I just quit now. I don't know what I should do. The thoughts I have are sincere and I want to show her, but I don't want to turn her off. I know she is busy with work and truly may not have time for me right now. I'm possibly too excited because I have been alone so long and have visualized us happily ever after, but this isn't reality, yet anyways. How do I make it happen? What's my next move? Balls in her court right? No contact? Should I just go see her and properly introduce myself so see can get a good look at me? Wtf ty
Last weekend I was at a resort with some friends celebrating a bachelor party. After drinking and being on the water all day we decided to have dinner at the restaurant. One of the girls that was waiting on us was very cute, friendly, and sincere in everything she did. I know that's what a waitress should do, but she wasn't even out waitress but was helping out ours. I was a but drunk and began to flirt, and she smiled nicely and was very polite. I overheard her congratulate my friend on his upcoming wedding, and he responded as though he wasn't excited, which I could tell through her off by her response that was something like " you should be happy, that's my dream." I immediately and unintentionally let out an "awe" That was my dream too and and it sounded so sweet. I wanted to talk to her but she was moving around so quickly I didn't get much of a chance. I didn't see her again at dinner. Later on before we went out, she brought the extra cot that I needed. All I said was thank you. I didn't want to say anything I'd regret being drunk, and she said your welcome and left. I couldn't get her out of my mind. Her smile, her eyes. I haven't seen anyone look at me like that before. I wasn't sure if it was the alcohol or not and tried to ignore the feeling. After we got to the club I really began regretting being so shy. I knew it was out of respect though.
( I have been single for over 5 years other than a few nights I'm not too proud of. Not because I'm ugly or want to be alone, but because my last relationship was wrong from the start and I promised myself I'd never be in a relationship out of convenience or lonliness again, I want to find someone I can truly love and who would be a good match. Someone sweet and kind, and who would be a good companion. I want to give all of my heart to the right girl.)
The next morning when I woke up sober and still thinking about her I knew I'd regret it if I didn't at least try to pursue her. I went to the restaurant and it was closed. I found a cleaning lady and wrote a thank you note and my phone number on it. I realized she may not call or even remember me since she was the one who made the impression on me, no vice versa. So the next morning I sent her roses with another thank you note saying that I hope the flowers brightened her day the way she had mine. She sent me a text saying thank you later that night. We texted for the next 4 days, mostly me telling her about myself and a picture of myself. She remembered me. The thing is I ran out of things to text her and wanted to talk. She never responded to that question directly, and only with short simple texts. I began to wonder if I am coming on too strong. So I didn't text her for 2 days. She hasn't texted me. I tried to call her tonight. She didn't answer. I left a message. Now I feel like since I was too shy or scared or drunk or whatever to try to talk to her in person that I should go see her. It's only an hour away. But should I ask her permission? Should I give her time to get back to me? If I really want her, and I do, would I be wrong or seem clingy or desperate if I continue to text, call, or show up at her work? I'm willing to try and fail for truelove, I feel it in my heart. There is no way she will ever know if I just quit now. I don't know what I should do. The thoughts I have are sincere and I want to show her, but I don't want to turn her off. I know she is busy with work and truly may not have time for me right now. I'm possibly too excited because I have been alone so long and have visualized us happily ever after, but this isn't reality, yet anyways. How do I make it happen? What's my next move? Balls in her court right? No contact? Should I just go see her and properly introduce myself so see can get a good look at me? Wtf ty
