seek&destroy
Don Juan
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Hello all,
Back in August of last year, I met a girl at work. She came up to my office, and a few days later we went out for drinks as a group. My colleague told me she thinks I'm 'cute'. Night went OK, and we had some food and drinks with our co-workers, over the next few days, my colleagues kept teasing her over the phone, calling her my girl (apparently they all thought she's attracted to me). Fast forward a couple of months later...I call her to ask her out and she tells me she's busy the following week, but will call me back. She never did. Another 3 months pass by and she calls my colleague to organize a night out. This came a few days after I was sent to her office on a temp assignment...after 3 months of almost no contact (since the day I asked her out). I never brought it up, and neither did she.
Recently, she organized an event for a few of us to go to and sat right next to me the entire time. We went outside to have a cigarette and we were chit-chatting about her. I brought up her recent vacation (from 5 months ago), where she went to Mexico in December, and when asked her why at that time of the year, she told me she went with her boyfriend's family. This comes 8 months after I initially met her. These entire 8 months whenever we went out she was flirting with me, including the last time out. Was I right to think she was attracted to me? If so, should I continue pursuing, or leave it alone? This might sound weird, but I talked about this with my sister...she thinks this girl does like me but doesn't want to leave her guy. I should mention that the event we went to...she was the only girl, me and 2 of my colleagues went along, both of the guys are married and have kids. Every time we went out for drinks/dinner with group, she never once mentioned her boyfriend, let alone bring him along. The fact that I almost had to fish it out of her is unfathomable. Why couldn't she just tell me she was seeing someone the day I asked her out?
I feel like I've wasted 8 months of my life, and the truth is that I have no one to blame, but myself. The first workday after we went to the event together left me feeling jaded and pissed off to the point where I nearly quit my job...but I persevered. A few days later, I was sent to her office again by my boss, and thankfully, she wasn't there. She knows I'm attracted to her, but if she has a BF, why on earth was she dishonest with me about the fact? Sh wants to go out for drinks again, but I told her my schedule doesn't allow for it right now. I'm still confused here...
Thanks!
Back in August of last year, I met a girl at work. She came up to my office, and a few days later we went out for drinks as a group. My colleague told me she thinks I'm 'cute'. Night went OK, and we had some food and drinks with our co-workers, over the next few days, my colleagues kept teasing her over the phone, calling her my girl (apparently they all thought she's attracted to me). Fast forward a couple of months later...I call her to ask her out and she tells me she's busy the following week, but will call me back. She never did. Another 3 months pass by and she calls my colleague to organize a night out. This came a few days after I was sent to her office on a temp assignment...after 3 months of almost no contact (since the day I asked her out). I never brought it up, and neither did she.
Recently, she organized an event for a few of us to go to and sat right next to me the entire time. We went outside to have a cigarette and we were chit-chatting about her. I brought up her recent vacation (from 5 months ago), where she went to Mexico in December, and when asked her why at that time of the year, she told me she went with her boyfriend's family. This comes 8 months after I initially met her. These entire 8 months whenever we went out she was flirting with me, including the last time out. Was I right to think she was attracted to me? If so, should I continue pursuing, or leave it alone? This might sound weird, but I talked about this with my sister...she thinks this girl does like me but doesn't want to leave her guy. I should mention that the event we went to...she was the only girl, me and 2 of my colleagues went along, both of the guys are married and have kids. Every time we went out for drinks/dinner with group, she never once mentioned her boyfriend, let alone bring him along. The fact that I almost had to fish it out of her is unfathomable. Why couldn't she just tell me she was seeing someone the day I asked her out?
I feel like I've wasted 8 months of my life, and the truth is that I have no one to blame, but myself. The first workday after we went to the event together left me feeling jaded and pissed off to the point where I nearly quit my job...but I persevered. A few days later, I was sent to her office again by my boss, and thankfully, she wasn't there. She knows I'm attracted to her, but if she has a BF, why on earth was she dishonest with me about the fact? Sh wants to go out for drinks again, but I told her my schedule doesn't allow for it right now. I'm still confused here...
Thanks!