I hooked up with this one girl (19 yo) on nights out a bunch of times to the point where we just started greeting with a kiss whenever we met, but never really talked about what we are (I never start that conversation, and she didn't do it this time either). After a while she called me out about me wanting to hang out only when whoever I'm out with on a night out goes home and that "whatever this is, I don't actually like casual hookups and being in reserve for someone".
Even though I totally got the casual vibe from her, but she withheld sex the entire time.
I told her I can't just tell someone who invited me for drinks "yeah I'm off now cya mate" in the middle of it, and that I call to meet late because almost nothing is really open on workdays after 1am in my city and that we can talk about the other thing, since we didn't have a chance to so far. Only to have her respond "It doesn't matter, we don't have to talk, we can end this, whatever this is". I said "So, bottom line, I want to talk, you want to end it, is that the point you're trying to get across here?". "Yes." "What a short conversation this could've been".
Now I'm just going to ignore her, hook up with a plate or whatever (it's Friday night tonight), but I don't get what's her deal, all this time we hung out, I didn't actually get to know her, she seems really shallow talking about current events and people most of the time, but she's actually a smart girl. Is she not interested in a relationship? Was she expecting me to start the "what are we" talk? If she does approach me to talk, what should my general stance be?
Even though I totally got the casual vibe from her, but she withheld sex the entire time.
I told her I can't just tell someone who invited me for drinks "yeah I'm off now cya mate" in the middle of it, and that I call to meet late because almost nothing is really open on workdays after 1am in my city and that we can talk about the other thing, since we didn't have a chance to so far. Only to have her respond "It doesn't matter, we don't have to talk, we can end this, whatever this is". I said "So, bottom line, I want to talk, you want to end it, is that the point you're trying to get across here?". "Yes." "What a short conversation this could've been".
Now I'm just going to ignore her, hook up with a plate or whatever (it's Friday night tonight), but I don't get what's her deal, all this time we hung out, I didn't actually get to know her, she seems really shallow talking about current events and people most of the time, but she's actually a smart girl. Is she not interested in a relationship? Was she expecting me to start the "what are we" talk? If she does approach me to talk, what should my general stance be?