Razor Sharp
Senior Don Juan
No, I dont mean that in a condescending metaphorical sense. I mean it literally. Only gay men cruising for c*ck can rely on IOI's. When you are dealing with two testosterone-crazed individuals there really is not much room for subtlety.
Women are a whole different affair - the rules to the game are not found in the lines themselves - you must learn to read between them, or ignore them altogether in order to enjoy any measurable degree of success.
The truth is, as much as we like to believe that men are superior in every way, there is one area where women have us licked, and not in the "please don't stop" way
COMMUNICATION
Ever notice that chicks never shut the f*ck up? No offense to all 3 of our female members, but that sh*t is true. You never stop talking! When you are finished boring your man to tears with the yapping, and realize he is just nodding and saying uh-huh to be polite, what do you do? You call like 6 of your girlfriends in a row to tell them the same tired story over and over, each time with the same emotion as if you were telling it for the first time. You do this because either
A. You love the sound of your own voices
B. If you stopped talking the words would pile up in your head, forcing it to explode
Maybe it's both, but I digress.
Women take the lead in the word game from infancy. Ever watch a 2-year old girl play with a 2-year old boy?
GIRL: I like your fire truck, red is my favorite color - what's yours?
BOY: Me like truck
It's true, they talk sooner, and have a much richer vocabulary through their formative years. Eventually we catch up and in some cases surpass, but that doesn't matter because in your first 3 years of life, your experiences and activities shape you more profoundly than any other time. It's common knowledge that if you teach a child two languages at this stage they will easily pick up several more in adulthood, simply because their synapses learned from an early age to make those connections.
Due to this, and probably a dozen or so other factors - the average women can not only out-talk the average man, she is also more adept at interpreting non-verbal communication (which just so happens to constitute 90% of human interaction).
Women are also incredible listeners, often being able to absorb several conversations at once. Ever been on a date with a girl, and you are having a nice conversation, when out of nowhere she says "That couple over there is about to break up" You think she's been ignoring you, but truth is she hasn't missed a beat, and could probably tell you what two other tables are talking about.
As a result of this incredible prowess, women are also MUCH better than us at hiding their feelings. While you, Captain Obvious are busy sporting a woody and ogling her breasts, she could be gushing her panties off at the sight of you, and yet not even acknowledge your existence.
It's a power struggle from the start. Whoever is caught looking loses. And 9 times out of 10 a woman takes home that gold. But that doesn't mean she is not checking you out.
In fact studies show that women check us out just as much, if not more than we do. They are just way more subtle about it (http://www.squidoo.com/men_vs_women).
This is why you can't wait for green lights or buying signals, especially when you are just getting your feet wet in the game. It takes time to tune into their frequency and interpret what they are really saying/feeling - despite their behavior which is highly illogical and thus inconceivable for most men to wrap their minds around.
This brings us to an important realization which you need to pay close attention to, and possibly read a few times. Now that we've discussed women's major advantage in the game, it's time to unravel their greatest weakness.
DOMINANCE & ACTION
Yet another powerplay occurs the moment you lock eyes with a woman. The first one to look away submits. If you are capable of holding a woman's gaze across a crowded room without flinching or turning away abruptly, you are already setting the stage for a takeover.
When she is intently giving you the cold shoulder and hiding behind her friends, and you ignore all of that and do what YOU wanted to do in the first place (talk to her) then you've already demonstrated to her a form of manhood that most guys sadly do not possess. With that one simple act you are saying several things to her
• I do what I want
• I take what I want
• I want YOU
An important sidenote here:
Look her in the EYES. When you stare at her body you lose major points, because it shows you just don't get it - you do not speak the unspoken language! It's okay if she catches you stealing a quick glance when you think she isnt watching - she can relate to that. But the stupid look you get on your face when staring at her bazumbas is the equivalent to shouting YIPPEE!!! at a good hand of poker.
In order to get a woman truly open, you must captivate her mind and soul, not just her body. And the eyes are the most direct route to reaching her. Look at her without shame - be brazen!
Despite what todays' "liberated" woman will tell you, she does not want to be treated like a delicate princess. She want to be HAD, RAVAGED and MANHANDLED. Sex is the ultimate manifestation of this phenomenon, but that dynamic exists at every stage of the interaction, from first glance all the way to first thrust.
When you think she's aloof she's often watching your every move. How you hold your body, how you speak - all audio/visual clues as to whether or not you have the chutzpah to TAKE her. The moment she sees a weak little boy looking for mommy's permission to say hello - it doesn't matter how rich or good-looking you are. Attraction is killed on the spot.
When in doubt - assume she's feeling you
Many times your assumption will be wrong, and you will need a thick skin to get past this. The game always boils down to sheer numbers. It's also highly state-dependant, so you have to learn not to take it personal. The same chick who shunned you just now may be open to your advances MINUTES from now, depending on her mood.
You can't let that hold you back.
Letting such a flaky paradigm determine how you play the game is just begging for failure. It's like trying to wait for the perfect wave before jumping in the ocean with your surfboard - you'll never catch it!
This is why I say f*ck the 3-second rule, and f*ck the call-her-in-X-days rule. Do what you feel like doing, and learn from it. That is what leaders do, and leaders are what women want more than anything.
So please people, forget about Indicators of Interest. When you reach certain level of skill with women, your conscious mind does not even process these cues. Seriously, IOIs, C&F, etc is for nerds who think seduction is a computer program with predictable results. When you are good at this your body will react automatically, as nature intended. And women will love you for it!
You do this by focusing on what YOU want, and letting YOUR impulses guide you - not hers.
Or...
You can take the easy way out, and be a fag. Those guys have no trouble getting laid.
Women are a whole different affair - the rules to the game are not found in the lines themselves - you must learn to read between them, or ignore them altogether in order to enjoy any measurable degree of success.
The truth is, as much as we like to believe that men are superior in every way, there is one area where women have us licked, and not in the "please don't stop" way
COMMUNICATION
Ever notice that chicks never shut the f*ck up? No offense to all 3 of our female members, but that sh*t is true. You never stop talking! When you are finished boring your man to tears with the yapping, and realize he is just nodding and saying uh-huh to be polite, what do you do? You call like 6 of your girlfriends in a row to tell them the same tired story over and over, each time with the same emotion as if you were telling it for the first time. You do this because either
A. You love the sound of your own voices
B. If you stopped talking the words would pile up in your head, forcing it to explode
Maybe it's both, but I digress.
Women take the lead in the word game from infancy. Ever watch a 2-year old girl play with a 2-year old boy?
GIRL: I like your fire truck, red is my favorite color - what's yours?
BOY: Me like truck
It's true, they talk sooner, and have a much richer vocabulary through their formative years. Eventually we catch up and in some cases surpass, but that doesn't matter because in your first 3 years of life, your experiences and activities shape you more profoundly than any other time. It's common knowledge that if you teach a child two languages at this stage they will easily pick up several more in adulthood, simply because their synapses learned from an early age to make those connections.
Due to this, and probably a dozen or so other factors - the average women can not only out-talk the average man, she is also more adept at interpreting non-verbal communication (which just so happens to constitute 90% of human interaction).
Women are also incredible listeners, often being able to absorb several conversations at once. Ever been on a date with a girl, and you are having a nice conversation, when out of nowhere she says "That couple over there is about to break up" You think she's been ignoring you, but truth is she hasn't missed a beat, and could probably tell you what two other tables are talking about.
As a result of this incredible prowess, women are also MUCH better than us at hiding their feelings. While you, Captain Obvious are busy sporting a woody and ogling her breasts, she could be gushing her panties off at the sight of you, and yet not even acknowledge your existence.
It's a power struggle from the start. Whoever is caught looking loses. And 9 times out of 10 a woman takes home that gold. But that doesn't mean she is not checking you out.
In fact studies show that women check us out just as much, if not more than we do. They are just way more subtle about it (http://www.squidoo.com/men_vs_women).
This is why you can't wait for green lights or buying signals, especially when you are just getting your feet wet in the game. It takes time to tune into their frequency and interpret what they are really saying/feeling - despite their behavior which is highly illogical and thus inconceivable for most men to wrap their minds around.
This brings us to an important realization which you need to pay close attention to, and possibly read a few times. Now that we've discussed women's major advantage in the game, it's time to unravel their greatest weakness.
DOMINANCE & ACTION
Yet another powerplay occurs the moment you lock eyes with a woman. The first one to look away submits. If you are capable of holding a woman's gaze across a crowded room without flinching or turning away abruptly, you are already setting the stage for a takeover.
When she is intently giving you the cold shoulder and hiding behind her friends, and you ignore all of that and do what YOU wanted to do in the first place (talk to her) then you've already demonstrated to her a form of manhood that most guys sadly do not possess. With that one simple act you are saying several things to her
• I do what I want
• I take what I want
• I want YOU
An important sidenote here:
Look her in the EYES. When you stare at her body you lose major points, because it shows you just don't get it - you do not speak the unspoken language! It's okay if she catches you stealing a quick glance when you think she isnt watching - she can relate to that. But the stupid look you get on your face when staring at her bazumbas is the equivalent to shouting YIPPEE!!! at a good hand of poker.
In order to get a woman truly open, you must captivate her mind and soul, not just her body. And the eyes are the most direct route to reaching her. Look at her without shame - be brazen!
Despite what todays' "liberated" woman will tell you, she does not want to be treated like a delicate princess. She want to be HAD, RAVAGED and MANHANDLED. Sex is the ultimate manifestation of this phenomenon, but that dynamic exists at every stage of the interaction, from first glance all the way to first thrust.
When you think she's aloof she's often watching your every move. How you hold your body, how you speak - all audio/visual clues as to whether or not you have the chutzpah to TAKE her. The moment she sees a weak little boy looking for mommy's permission to say hello - it doesn't matter how rich or good-looking you are. Attraction is killed on the spot.
When in doubt - assume she's feeling you
Many times your assumption will be wrong, and you will need a thick skin to get past this. The game always boils down to sheer numbers. It's also highly state-dependant, so you have to learn not to take it personal. The same chick who shunned you just now may be open to your advances MINUTES from now, depending on her mood.
You can't let that hold you back.
Letting such a flaky paradigm determine how you play the game is just begging for failure. It's like trying to wait for the perfect wave before jumping in the ocean with your surfboard - you'll never catch it!
This is why I say f*ck the 3-second rule, and f*ck the call-her-in-X-days rule. Do what you feel like doing, and learn from it. That is what leaders do, and leaders are what women want more than anything.
So please people, forget about Indicators of Interest. When you reach certain level of skill with women, your conscious mind does not even process these cues. Seriously, IOIs, C&F, etc is for nerds who think seduction is a computer program with predictable results. When you are good at this your body will react automatically, as nature intended. And women will love you for it!
You do this by focusing on what YOU want, and letting YOUR impulses guide you - not hers.
Or...
You can take the easy way out, and be a fag. Those guys have no trouble getting laid.
