Dutch Woods
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Dear all,
I've done a search about this topic and got some good info, but I still want to ask the members for some opinions.
It's about this girl I met a couple of weeks ago. I sort of picked her up in a galery, and we had a couple of drinks that same night. After that there were a couple of short phonecalls (two from me, one from her), trying to find a date for a first real get together. On this last phone call (her call) we arranged to meet next saturday afternoon. Here's what happened next during that conversation:
her: Do you have any plans for October 25th yet?
me: That's quite far away. I'm not sure, but I don't think so.
her: Well, it's my birthday then and I'd like to invite you to my birthday party
me: I don't think so! We haven't even been on one real date yet!
her: Well, we'll see eachother before the 25th, won't we?
me: hmmm, well..... I'm really not sure....I'll think about it, okay?
But really, going there won't be a very good move, will it? I mean, what have I got to gain? Probably all her freinds and family will be there. I'll have to be on my best behaviour, trying to be friendly and pleasant to mom/dad/brother/her best friends.
Maybe I missed something and is this an opportunity rather than a threat, but I don't see how yet.
I can see her point of view though, it's kind of like the ultimate test. If I pass this, she can ask me to marry her. Guys, I don't even remember exactly what she looks like! I do now I did like her, by the way, so my goal in this is a bit more than just friends.
So here's the questions:
1. What would you do?
2. If you decided not to go, how would you get out of it?
Thanx
I've done a search about this topic and got some good info, but I still want to ask the members for some opinions.
It's about this girl I met a couple of weeks ago. I sort of picked her up in a galery, and we had a couple of drinks that same night. After that there were a couple of short phonecalls (two from me, one from her), trying to find a date for a first real get together. On this last phone call (her call) we arranged to meet next saturday afternoon. Here's what happened next during that conversation:
her: Do you have any plans for October 25th yet?
me: That's quite far away. I'm not sure, but I don't think so.
her: Well, it's my birthday then and I'd like to invite you to my birthday party
me: I don't think so! We haven't even been on one real date yet!
her: Well, we'll see eachother before the 25th, won't we?
me: hmmm, well..... I'm really not sure....I'll think about it, okay?
But really, going there won't be a very good move, will it? I mean, what have I got to gain? Probably all her freinds and family will be there. I'll have to be on my best behaviour, trying to be friendly and pleasant to mom/dad/brother/her best friends.
Maybe I missed something and is this an opportunity rather than a threat, but I don't see how yet.
I can see her point of view though, it's kind of like the ultimate test. If I pass this, she can ask me to marry her. Guys, I don't even remember exactly what she looks like! I do now I did like her, by the way, so my goal in this is a bit more than just friends.
So here's the questions:
1. What would you do?
2. If you decided not to go, how would you get out of it?
Thanx