Bushmaster
Don Juan
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Introduction - Mature "Player" AFC
Hello. I recently found this forum and would like to give some background. Alot of this will sound self-disparaging but I'm coming from a better place currently. I'm in my early 40's, been married/divorced twice, been with ~100 women (mostly only ONS or STR for the sex). Struggled with low self-esteem my entire life. I've been bald since I was 25, I'm on the chubby side, shorter at 5'8", and I smoke.
The "Player" label I applied was because unless the seduction was natural, I tended to not be honest about my intentions with women, use them for sex and not call them or break up after 2-5 lays. Basically been a slave to my drive. Most pickups were women in the 5-7 range.
In 1999, I found the book "How to Succeed with Women", absorbed it like a sponge and attracted women out of the woodwork, lol, including my second wife was an "8" who had my son.
Several times in bars I have made out and moved to sex in quickly nearby without saying more than a few words.
I started to get into dating again this fall and have met several women online and have had sex with four since October. The latest woman is a few years older than me, was never married, well-off and in a great career and wants to just hook-up every time I see her, which has been 8-10 times over the last month. She is starting to text me more things like "thinking about you", etc. She is attractive, successful, and very sweet and respectful...but I'm feeling oneitis. I feel like I'm starting to supplicate and see her more than I want.
I don't want to break it off I just want to take control and stop being so passive-Is there a way to create more space and to manage expectations at this stage? Thanks for reading and the great resource.
Hello. I recently found this forum and would like to give some background. Alot of this will sound self-disparaging but I'm coming from a better place currently. I'm in my early 40's, been married/divorced twice, been with ~100 women (mostly only ONS or STR for the sex). Struggled with low self-esteem my entire life. I've been bald since I was 25, I'm on the chubby side, shorter at 5'8", and I smoke.
The "Player" label I applied was because unless the seduction was natural, I tended to not be honest about my intentions with women, use them for sex and not call them or break up after 2-5 lays. Basically been a slave to my drive. Most pickups were women in the 5-7 range.
In 1999, I found the book "How to Succeed with Women", absorbed it like a sponge and attracted women out of the woodwork, lol, including my second wife was an "8" who had my son.
Several times in bars I have made out and moved to sex in quickly nearby without saying more than a few words.
I started to get into dating again this fall and have met several women online and have had sex with four since October. The latest woman is a few years older than me, was never married, well-off and in a great career and wants to just hook-up every time I see her, which has been 8-10 times over the last month. She is starting to text me more things like "thinking about you", etc. She is attractive, successful, and very sweet and respectful...but I'm feeling oneitis. I feel like I'm starting to supplicate and see her more than I want.
I don't want to break it off I just want to take control and stop being so passive-Is there a way to create more space and to manage expectations at this stage? Thanks for reading and the great resource.
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