everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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It's readily apparent to me(and most guys I've talked to) how insecure a lot of guys are. Just drag a handful of guys at random into a karoeke bar and many of them won't even sing in public. In any University course, you will find guys who will not reveal even the tiniest hint of personality. In any big club, there will be a line of guys along the sidelines hiding from the world with beer in hand. That's because men know the importance of social status and (self-defeatingly)can become avoiding of personality and try to be generic.
The thing I think these same guys don't see is how insecure many women are, even attractive ones. An easy way to see this is regarding their figures.
For example, I once had a chick in my posse who was just a few months pregnant, you really couldn't even tell, but when her friends took her to a strip bar she freaked out because her "man" (OK it was me) was going to see women that would have a better body. I think this was double bad for her since she used to be a dancer herself. She wouldn't go in even though her crew wanted to roll there.
I've also seen (and had more guys tell me about) women freaking out when they watch porn with their man. Again, the jealously and insecurity regarding other women having better bodies is HUGE even if the women aren't UGs.
Want a great example? Have some woman show off her huge rock, then when one of the women comment on it, have her say "hey let's see yours" and hold her hand up where everyone can see it's like 1/3 the size!
Obviously this isn't all women, I've dated a woman who even wanted me to pick up chinese chicks for us, I have no idea why chinese, LOL. I've been with women that really liked porn (actually the previous example liked both). There are guys who really like karoeke. There are guys who really like showing their personality.
So when I think about insecurity I don't immediately have some vision of this AFC.. I think about women comparing their bodies to other womens' or their diamond rings to other womens'. I also do think about guys who have fears of showing personality. Thething about all these fears is they never accomplish anything good, they usually don't even protect the person's self-esteem, they just make people feel bad and focus on negative energies.
The thing I think these same guys don't see is how insecure many women are, even attractive ones. An easy way to see this is regarding their figures.
For example, I once had a chick in my posse who was just a few months pregnant, you really couldn't even tell, but when her friends took her to a strip bar she freaked out because her "man" (OK it was me) was going to see women that would have a better body. I think this was double bad for her since she used to be a dancer herself. She wouldn't go in even though her crew wanted to roll there.
I've also seen (and had more guys tell me about) women freaking out when they watch porn with their man. Again, the jealously and insecurity regarding other women having better bodies is HUGE even if the women aren't UGs.
Want a great example? Have some woman show off her huge rock, then when one of the women comment on it, have her say "hey let's see yours" and hold her hand up where everyone can see it's like 1/3 the size!
Obviously this isn't all women, I've dated a woman who even wanted me to pick up chinese chicks for us, I have no idea why chinese, LOL. I've been with women that really liked porn (actually the previous example liked both). There are guys who really like karoeke. There are guys who really like showing their personality.
So when I think about insecurity I don't immediately have some vision of this AFC.. I think about women comparing their bodies to other womens' or their diamond rings to other womens'. I also do think about guys who have fears of showing personality. Thething about all these fears is they never accomplish anything good, they usually don't even protect the person's self-esteem, they just make people feel bad and focus on negative energies.