These are the methods to make a girl become infatuated over you. This guide is not a going to teach you how to make a girl become attracted to you, because it assumes that you have already gotten her attracted, have gone on more than a couple dates, and perhaps have already had sex with her. In other words, this guide to be used on women who already see you as a boyfriend or possible boyfriend. Its useful to keep in mind that attracting a girl does not mean she will choose you as a partner. It is only once you have built attraction and comfort, which may or may not include sex, in which she will be open to the strategies contained in this article.
Some of the below strategies will seem “dark” and unfair, however, women also use dark and unfair games on men to weed out the weak ones, so don’t feel too bad about it.
Deconstructing Infatuation
By definition, the way to get a woman infatuated over you is by being in her mind as much as possible. And how do you get into their minds? By making them feel powerful emotions, no matter if they are positive or negative emotions, but more on that later.
The 3 Qualities
There are three fundamental qualities which must be displayed by the man in order to create infatuation in a woman. The qualities are 1. Unpredictability, 2. Abundance of choice 3. Ability to give her space. These qualities work together to create infatuation on a woman that is already attracted to you. These qualities are not independent of each other, one by itself will not give you the desired result. It is the combined use of these qualities that work to make a woman’s mind become fixated on you.
Your only job is to be aware of these qualities and look for ways to display them throughout the relationship at all times.
1- Unpredictability
Unpredictability works at getting women infatuated because the mystery of trying to guess your next move engages them mentally. As humans, when we are uncertain of something, we seek an answer, specially if its something we are interested in. Once we find an answer, we usually consider it being “under control” and it occupies our mind much less. This is why not letting a woman predict your next move makes her constantly think about you. The best ways to show this quality are:
Be spontaneous – You’ve heard it many times, girls love guys who are spontaneous, who do things that are unexpected. For example, if you’re a “geek”, she will not expect you to go out and take her on a fun test drive on a Ferrari, but doing so makes you spontaneous. If she sees you as a self centered guy, doing something selfless once in a while is spontaneous. These things destroy their preconcieved notions of you, and the effect is a fresh set of emotions.
Respond unexpectedly – Another way to show unpredictability is by reacting in ways that she doesn’t expect. For example, if you are the type of guy that will do everything she asks for, then every so often and without any reason tell her you don’t feel like doing it. Yes, this might make her mad, but the emotion of anger is still a powerful emotion, and like all powerful emotions, has a positive long term effect in getting her infatuated. However, if you do it too often it will lose the effect. Another way, which will probably be most useful for most guys in the pick up community, if you are used to not “giving in” to her, once in a while be nice and be submissive. I know I’m gonna get some heat by community guys over this (“Dont be a girls doormat!!!”), but it works, as long as you only do it say 1 out of 7 times or so. Its called unpredictability, and this keeps a girl wondering and it keeps them trying.
Never fall into a routine – Routine is the killer of infatuation. If you’re on a set schedule of what time to call and hang out every week, you’re slowly killing her desire. Stay away from developing a routine as much as possible.
Don’t let her figure you out – If you let the girl figure you out, you have lost. If she can label you as “nice” or “*******” or “player” or “boring” or even “romantic”, they all mean the same thing, she has “figured you out”. She knows exactly who you are, your strengths, your weaknesses, how you will react and behave, and there is nothing more to find out about you. Avoid falling into any category, and if you happen to fall into one, then do the complete opposite from time time to time. The only category you should ever fall into is the category of “unpredictable”.
Some of the below strategies will seem “dark” and unfair, however, women also use dark and unfair games on men to weed out the weak ones, so don’t feel too bad about it.
Deconstructing Infatuation
By definition, the way to get a woman infatuated over you is by being in her mind as much as possible. And how do you get into their minds? By making them feel powerful emotions, no matter if they are positive or negative emotions, but more on that later.
The 3 Qualities
There are three fundamental qualities which must be displayed by the man in order to create infatuation in a woman. The qualities are 1. Unpredictability, 2. Abundance of choice 3. Ability to give her space. These qualities work together to create infatuation on a woman that is already attracted to you. These qualities are not independent of each other, one by itself will not give you the desired result. It is the combined use of these qualities that work to make a woman’s mind become fixated on you.
Your only job is to be aware of these qualities and look for ways to display them throughout the relationship at all times.
1- Unpredictability
Unpredictability works at getting women infatuated because the mystery of trying to guess your next move engages them mentally. As humans, when we are uncertain of something, we seek an answer, specially if its something we are interested in. Once we find an answer, we usually consider it being “under control” and it occupies our mind much less. This is why not letting a woman predict your next move makes her constantly think about you. The best ways to show this quality are:
Be spontaneous – You’ve heard it many times, girls love guys who are spontaneous, who do things that are unexpected. For example, if you’re a “geek”, she will not expect you to go out and take her on a fun test drive on a Ferrari, but doing so makes you spontaneous. If she sees you as a self centered guy, doing something selfless once in a while is spontaneous. These things destroy their preconcieved notions of you, and the effect is a fresh set of emotions.
Respond unexpectedly – Another way to show unpredictability is by reacting in ways that she doesn’t expect. For example, if you are the type of guy that will do everything she asks for, then every so often and without any reason tell her you don’t feel like doing it. Yes, this might make her mad, but the emotion of anger is still a powerful emotion, and like all powerful emotions, has a positive long term effect in getting her infatuated. However, if you do it too often it will lose the effect. Another way, which will probably be most useful for most guys in the pick up community, if you are used to not “giving in” to her, once in a while be nice and be submissive. I know I’m gonna get some heat by community guys over this (“Dont be a girls doormat!!!”), but it works, as long as you only do it say 1 out of 7 times or so. Its called unpredictability, and this keeps a girl wondering and it keeps them trying.
Never fall into a routine – Routine is the killer of infatuation. If you’re on a set schedule of what time to call and hang out every week, you’re slowly killing her desire. Stay away from developing a routine as much as possible.
Don’t let her figure you out – If you let the girl figure you out, you have lost. If she can label you as “nice” or “*******” or “player” or “boring” or even “romantic”, they all mean the same thing, she has “figured you out”. She knows exactly who you are, your strengths, your weaknesses, how you will react and behave, and there is nothing more to find out about you. Avoid falling into any category, and if you happen to fall into one, then do the complete opposite from time time to time. The only category you should ever fall into is the category of “unpredictable”.
