Sup fellas. I've been living life amazingly the last couple years that I've stayed off sosuave. Been growing my small business, buying real estate, dating, spinning plates (gets easier with practice), and generally enjoying myself and life.
Now... about the purpose of this post. There's a bit of backstory before I continue:
I broke things off with 1 of my long-term plates (HB6) recently (~3 weeks). It didn't go that well since she was hoping for more. Mind you, I was very clear about my intentions from the jump, so she eventually understood after a long conversation about it.
With the vacuum of free-time HB6 left, I started actively scouting potential replacements (I try not to spin more than 2 at a time- I don't have a lot of free time to maintain them properly if more). I had a client (HB8, 23yo) that I did some business with here in the last couple weeks that had spent a good amount of time in my office (roughly three hours over the span of 3 visits) and she gave me a pretty good idea that she was interested by the second visit. She asked a lot of personal questions, talked a lot about hobbies and what she likes to do in her free time, and eventually invited me out for drinks with friends of hers two Saturdays ago. A day-drinking event, apparently. I ended up having an emergency come up and let her know I couldn't make it, so we rescheduled for this past Thursday evening, without the friends...
Now, this is where you folks come in. I wanted some input on how you think I handled the situation and how you think I should handle the situation going forward. It's been almost a year since I went on a real date. I felt like it went as well as it could have, but I'm also not always my toughest critic lol.
So Thursday rolls around and I got a text from her about 10AM asking if we were still on. I confirmed and let her know what time I was going to be at the venue (drinks at a local lounge at 830PM). I showed up 15 minutes early to grab a pre-drink and shoot some pool. She showed up 15 minutes late... looking absolutely stunning in a little black dress with some small heels. Gave her a hug/peck on the cheek, she went to the restroom, and I went to the bar to grab a round of drinks. We eventually sit at the bar and get to talking- and drinking. The comfort level was already there since I had built a bit of rapport during our business transactions. I was feeling very attracted to her... took about 30 minutes of talking and finishing our first round of drinks before I went in for the first kiss. She was very receptive of it, kissed back, and beamed a huge smile after. It's a good feeling to get that response. We had another couple rounds of drinks and KINO was off the charts. Lots of hand-holding, making out between stories, rubbing each other's legs. Good stuff. We eventually got up and changed venues to another bar up the street. We walked there, found a spot at the bar, and got another drink. We danced for a couple songs, finished our drinks, and I asked her if she wanted to have a glass of wine at my place. By this time is was just a bit after midnight. We get to my place and completely skip the wine. We barely made it to my bedroom. We had some sloppy drunk sex... it was a lot of fun, but by no means a great performance by either of us lol. We cuddled, talked, more sex, and slept for a bit. She nudges me up around 5AM to say she had to go and I drove her back to her place. Held my hand in the car the whole drive to her place. She kissed me as she got out and I told her we'd talk soon.
Later that day (Friday, around 5PM), I got a text from her asking if she can stop by my office (ON MONDAY) to pick up an invoice that she forgot and to drop my sweater off that she wore out of my house. I gave her the thumbs up... and called it good. Texted her the next day (Saturday) and sent a couple back-n-forth messages about our weekend plans. I was with the fellas for the rest of the weekend, so I was busy and didn't reach out again until I saw her this morning. She showed up this morning, gave me a hug and a kiss, picked up what she needed and I kissed her goodbye after inviting her to a baseball game this Sunday... she accepted.
A little on her background for context:
She's a 23yo college student and fitness instructor for the elderly. Very pretty girl. Face is probably an 8.5 and body is a 7.5. Body is tight because she works out a lot, but has the slightest hint of a belly, which I dig. She is very well-spoken, doesn't seem stuck-up, and does not strike me as a woman that makes bad decisions. I could be wrong- as I got her naked the first time we hung out. I felt it had a lot to do with the rapport I built, however. She was married when she was 18 (high school sweetheart joined the military, I'm sure you've heard many similar stories), divorced at 20, no kids, etc. Sounds like she's lived a bit of life for such a young chick. I'm 28 btw.
Now, for the fun part. Feel free to let me know what you thought about the date, the chick, or the sitaution in general. I'm always open to constructive criticism. I like to hear other's perspectives and opinions. I feel like I've handled it well to this point. Just not quite sure how to respond to the first-date sex piece. Usually one nighters aren't ones I care enough to call back, so this is a bit unfamiliar territory. I usually play the aloof piece, but I was also told that when you have sex with a girl, it's different. Almost like you stripped power/lifeforce from her. So I decided against not texting for a few days... didn't want her thinking I was in it for the one-night thrill... in fact, I'm looking forward to enjoying her again soon. So some insight on that piece would be nice. Otherwise, happy reading folks!
Didn't intend for this to be so long... I like being detailed
Now... about the purpose of this post. There's a bit of backstory before I continue:
I broke things off with 1 of my long-term plates (HB6) recently (~3 weeks). It didn't go that well since she was hoping for more. Mind you, I was very clear about my intentions from the jump, so she eventually understood after a long conversation about it.
With the vacuum of free-time HB6 left, I started actively scouting potential replacements (I try not to spin more than 2 at a time- I don't have a lot of free time to maintain them properly if more). I had a client (HB8, 23yo) that I did some business with here in the last couple weeks that had spent a good amount of time in my office (roughly three hours over the span of 3 visits) and she gave me a pretty good idea that she was interested by the second visit. She asked a lot of personal questions, talked a lot about hobbies and what she likes to do in her free time, and eventually invited me out for drinks with friends of hers two Saturdays ago. A day-drinking event, apparently. I ended up having an emergency come up and let her know I couldn't make it, so we rescheduled for this past Thursday evening, without the friends...
Now, this is where you folks come in. I wanted some input on how you think I handled the situation and how you think I should handle the situation going forward. It's been almost a year since I went on a real date. I felt like it went as well as it could have, but I'm also not always my toughest critic lol.
So Thursday rolls around and I got a text from her about 10AM asking if we were still on. I confirmed and let her know what time I was going to be at the venue (drinks at a local lounge at 830PM). I showed up 15 minutes early to grab a pre-drink and shoot some pool. She showed up 15 minutes late... looking absolutely stunning in a little black dress with some small heels. Gave her a hug/peck on the cheek, she went to the restroom, and I went to the bar to grab a round of drinks. We eventually sit at the bar and get to talking- and drinking. The comfort level was already there since I had built a bit of rapport during our business transactions. I was feeling very attracted to her... took about 30 minutes of talking and finishing our first round of drinks before I went in for the first kiss. She was very receptive of it, kissed back, and beamed a huge smile after. It's a good feeling to get that response. We had another couple rounds of drinks and KINO was off the charts. Lots of hand-holding, making out between stories, rubbing each other's legs. Good stuff. We eventually got up and changed venues to another bar up the street. We walked there, found a spot at the bar, and got another drink. We danced for a couple songs, finished our drinks, and I asked her if she wanted to have a glass of wine at my place. By this time is was just a bit after midnight. We get to my place and completely skip the wine. We barely made it to my bedroom. We had some sloppy drunk sex... it was a lot of fun, but by no means a great performance by either of us lol. We cuddled, talked, more sex, and slept for a bit. She nudges me up around 5AM to say she had to go and I drove her back to her place. Held my hand in the car the whole drive to her place. She kissed me as she got out and I told her we'd talk soon.
Later that day (Friday, around 5PM), I got a text from her asking if she can stop by my office (ON MONDAY) to pick up an invoice that she forgot and to drop my sweater off that she wore out of my house. I gave her the thumbs up... and called it good. Texted her the next day (Saturday) and sent a couple back-n-forth messages about our weekend plans. I was with the fellas for the rest of the weekend, so I was busy and didn't reach out again until I saw her this morning. She showed up this morning, gave me a hug and a kiss, picked up what she needed and I kissed her goodbye after inviting her to a baseball game this Sunday... she accepted.
A little on her background for context:
She's a 23yo college student and fitness instructor for the elderly. Very pretty girl. Face is probably an 8.5 and body is a 7.5. Body is tight because she works out a lot, but has the slightest hint of a belly, which I dig. She is very well-spoken, doesn't seem stuck-up, and does not strike me as a woman that makes bad decisions. I could be wrong- as I got her naked the first time we hung out. I felt it had a lot to do with the rapport I built, however. She was married when she was 18 (high school sweetheart joined the military, I'm sure you've heard many similar stories), divorced at 20, no kids, etc. Sounds like she's lived a bit of life for such a young chick. I'm 28 btw.
Now, for the fun part. Feel free to let me know what you thought about the date, the chick, or the sitaution in general. I'm always open to constructive criticism. I like to hear other's perspectives and opinions. I feel like I've handled it well to this point. Just not quite sure how to respond to the first-date sex piece. Usually one nighters aren't ones I care enough to call back, so this is a bit unfamiliar territory. I usually play the aloof piece, but I was also told that when you have sex with a girl, it's different. Almost like you stripped power/lifeforce from her. So I decided against not texting for a few days... didn't want her thinking I was in it for the one-night thrill... in fact, I'm looking forward to enjoying her again soon. So some insight on that piece would be nice. Otherwise, happy reading folks!
Didn't intend for this to be so long... I like being detailed
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