GS750
Master Don Juan
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NewToTheGame, wherever you are, I should have listened to you buddy.
I posted a thread a while back about a 20 year old girl I started seeing, just looking for general advice on dealing with much younger women (I'm 33). So we've been seeing each other for a few months, she lives 2 hours away. I know, LDR, but I figured 2 hours isn't that big of a deal. So we generally talk or text every day, she's never brought up being exclusive and obviously neither have I. So the last two weeks is where the sh*t hit the fan. I've had some family issues which I won't get into but lets just say it was stressful to say the least, took up most of my time off. She knows about this. Some of you guys know I'm a cop, so needless to say I have a stressful job. I work nighshift in a pretty busy urban area so I have to be on my toes, obviously. We've been busier than normal lately...I don't know if it's the heat or the Oxycontin or whatever but people have just been nuts lately. I've just been occupied nonstop. So this girl texts constantly, like turbo thumbs texter. To the point where it's excessive. She's also into snapchat and Facebook and all that (I dont have a FB account, dept. rules). Sometimes, especially if I'm at work I can't respond to calls or texts for a while. During the day...I'm asleep because I work nights. I haven't seen her in a few weeks. We sort of slowed our communication for the past two weeks. Still in contact, just not as much as usual. I spoke to her on the phone a few days ago and she accuses me of "going ghost" on her for about two weeks. I reminded her I've just been busy...nothing to do with her. But she sounded pissed...not enough attention I guess, or less than she was used to. Guess I spoiled her. Maybe she assumed I was losing interest or seeing someone else. Fair enough, but I wasn't. I got the feeling something was up. I know she's big into facebook, so I google her name and it brings me to her page. So imagine my surprise (or not) when I see her main picture hugged up with some dude. Now here's the thing, we've never talked about being exclusive. So if she's seeing other guys then okay. I can't fault her for that. But she makes her main photo on her page a picture of her and him for the world to see. Gotta admit that pissed me off a bit, couples do that sh*t. I was just there recently so if she's been seeing someone it's new (2 weeks Lol). She's constantly telling me she misses me, can't wait to see me, blah blah blah. I get swamped with work and family issues for 2 weeks and I guess I'm replaced because I can't provide enough attention. Maybe she was looking to fill that void, maybe she was seeing him all along. I don't know. NewToTheGame warned me about girls that age, that they will attempt to nail you down while they continue to play the field. You guys think I should confront her about it, or just let it go and walk?
I posted a thread a while back about a 20 year old girl I started seeing, just looking for general advice on dealing with much younger women (I'm 33). So we've been seeing each other for a few months, she lives 2 hours away. I know, LDR, but I figured 2 hours isn't that big of a deal. So we generally talk or text every day, she's never brought up being exclusive and obviously neither have I. So the last two weeks is where the sh*t hit the fan. I've had some family issues which I won't get into but lets just say it was stressful to say the least, took up most of my time off. She knows about this. Some of you guys know I'm a cop, so needless to say I have a stressful job. I work nighshift in a pretty busy urban area so I have to be on my toes, obviously. We've been busier than normal lately...I don't know if it's the heat or the Oxycontin or whatever but people have just been nuts lately. I've just been occupied nonstop. So this girl texts constantly, like turbo thumbs texter. To the point where it's excessive. She's also into snapchat and Facebook and all that (I dont have a FB account, dept. rules). Sometimes, especially if I'm at work I can't respond to calls or texts for a while. During the day...I'm asleep because I work nights. I haven't seen her in a few weeks. We sort of slowed our communication for the past two weeks. Still in contact, just not as much as usual. I spoke to her on the phone a few days ago and she accuses me of "going ghost" on her for about two weeks. I reminded her I've just been busy...nothing to do with her. But she sounded pissed...not enough attention I guess, or less than she was used to. Guess I spoiled her. Maybe she assumed I was losing interest or seeing someone else. Fair enough, but I wasn't. I got the feeling something was up. I know she's big into facebook, so I google her name and it brings me to her page. So imagine my surprise (or not) when I see her main picture hugged up with some dude. Now here's the thing, we've never talked about being exclusive. So if she's seeing other guys then okay. I can't fault her for that. But she makes her main photo on her page a picture of her and him for the world to see. Gotta admit that pissed me off a bit, couples do that sh*t. I was just there recently so if she's been seeing someone it's new (2 weeks Lol). She's constantly telling me she misses me, can't wait to see me, blah blah blah. I get swamped with work and family issues for 2 weeks and I guess I'm replaced because I can't provide enough attention. Maybe she was looking to fill that void, maybe she was seeing him all along. I don't know. NewToTheGame warned me about girls that age, that they will attempt to nail you down while they continue to play the field. You guys think I should confront her about it, or just let it go and walk?