darkstarrr
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have you ever learned about something on this board and then later, even months or years later, you find yourself in a situation that you learned about here, and then BANG - its as if you're in highschool again. where you took a class and then later experienced what you had learned hands-on in Lab?
ok i'll stop with the ross jeffries.
i've known what "branch swinging" referred to for a while now. my experience until now had predominately been from getting du(m)ped, or so i thought. thinking back i suspect at least one instance where a girl branch swung into a relationship with me.
nevertheless, today was the first day of my life where i was "in-the-now" and presently conscious of a branch swinging episode as it occurred. luckily for me, i'm the new branch. and the monkey is a 20 year old nanny. this is where things get interesting!
lets call her "raquel" for ease of discussion.
about a month back i was at a bar/restaurant (goldmines) with a friend. the type of friend you know really well, maybe the 2 of you go way back. i felt comfortable to the point where i was just standing there at the bar feeling more at home than usual. smiling for no apparent reason. talking, laughing about random things. life is good.
anyway so there was a standing table with 5 girls avg hb8 and we saw 2 guys who were in there trying to "spit game" to them. one of the guys started trying to pay for their drinks and ordered sampler platters for the group. one thing leads to another and i'm chatting it up with one of the sheep that strayed the furthest from the rest of the flock. we started joking about how i would LOVE it if i met some older chics at the bar who would pay for my drinks and feed me. one of her friends poked her head over in our direction, so i tried to introduce myself to her. she held up her hand and flashed an engagement band at me by twiddling it with the thumb on that same hand and smiled as if to say "sorry i'm taken".
to make a long story short: since that exact moment a month ago that i just described, i've seduced that same girl. i didn't even mean to do it at first. "it happens when you least expect it" and "it happens when you stop looking for it" are statements we've all heard, but there's huge upside and tacit value there when naturally woven into real life situations.
when raquel flashed me the ring i looked at her and did all of the below simultaneously:
1. made a scrunched up face
2. bobbleheaded my head ever-so-slightly with a sincere look of acknowledgement on my face
3. waived one hand at her in a "oh its fine" gesture while mouthing those same words
doing the above told her a variety of things:
1. its ok
2. i'm here talking to your friend
3. i'm harmless and not trying to get in your pants
4. i'm just here having fun like you are
my behavior diffused her and she joined the conversation with her friend and i. the topic of age did come up but since i'm harmless and not trying to pick them up, who cares that they're all 20-22 and i'm nearly 12 years their senior.
we ended up exchanging emails so she could add me on FB. and then after some more joking about how they were going to escape we said our goodnights.
note: it was one of the girl's 21st bday so she was eating up the attention from the other guys but the girl i initially started talking with was being standoffish from eating the food the guys were ordering and reluctant to have them buy and pay for her drinks.
a few days later i became friends with the 2 girls i mentioned on FB. the engaged one in particular (raquel) started chatting with me about a 20 mile charity walk i was about to do. it was posted on my "wall" so people could see it and donate/sponsor me if they chose to. a few days later we chatted again on there and she asked me if i would ever date a 1/2 japanese 1/2 brazilian girl, because she has a friend who is single. i saw the friend's picture and didn't answer the question --> changed the subject (nothing nice to say don't say anything at all type of situation).
i thought it was great to have a new 20 year old friend who has single friends with whom she is willing to try to hitch me up with.
enter twilight zone music.
the chatting continued over the following week and one day she asked if i can do her a favor. her little doggie sometimes hides her cell phone, and could i call her so she can know where the phone is. how intuitive!
from there the chatting morphed into texting as well. suddenly i was receiving "good morning" texts 4 or 5 days a week. the chatting online turns into 3, 4, and 5 hour conversations about all sorts of things. there was definitely a strong connection developing, beit friendship or otherwise. i think this girl's "falling in love" with me or some shit. PS - you'd be suprised at how much bass that song can pump out on a 2500watt car audio system.
NOW she says she only sees her boyfriend once a week because he is away at college. she's getting really tired of missing out on things because she feels like she can't have close guy friends, and she can't do much because he wouldn't be happy about her going places where guys would try to talk to her. i can see where she is coming from, but i've cautioned myself, in that i know how some women(?) can word things to serve their own ends (pun untended). with that being said, from what she's said she's given him several warnings and they've argued about how she's unhappy (he's missing the red flags or not doing anything about them).
earlier tonight she asked me out and it sounded similar to how i asked a girl out in 10th grade. nervous, choppy, dancing around the point i.e vague. its obvious that she was trying to make sure i'm good-to-go before she jumps.
on the one hand i've considered my own accountability for whats transpired. on the other (left), i need to also consider the possibility that their relationship was going to end anyway, and what Rollo shared: if she's hot and single is she crazy?
it'd be preposterous to derive from that to say: if she's hot and not single she isn't crazy, but the(un)fortunate truth may be that i may be less worse off dating one that was taken initially. :nervous:
i digress, and as my Mother has warned me over the years after meeting some of the girls i've dated: a wise man once said "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your [wife]"
yes i am almost 32 and no i'm not thinking about marriage. kids by 36 or 37 would be cool though.
ok i'll stop with the ross jeffries.
i've known what "branch swinging" referred to for a while now. my experience until now had predominately been from getting du(m)ped, or so i thought. thinking back i suspect at least one instance where a girl branch swung into a relationship with me.
nevertheless, today was the first day of my life where i was "in-the-now" and presently conscious of a branch swinging episode as it occurred. luckily for me, i'm the new branch. and the monkey is a 20 year old nanny. this is where things get interesting!
lets call her "raquel" for ease of discussion.
about a month back i was at a bar/restaurant (goldmines) with a friend. the type of friend you know really well, maybe the 2 of you go way back. i felt comfortable to the point where i was just standing there at the bar feeling more at home than usual. smiling for no apparent reason. talking, laughing about random things. life is good.
anyway so there was a standing table with 5 girls avg hb8 and we saw 2 guys who were in there trying to "spit game" to them. one of the guys started trying to pay for their drinks and ordered sampler platters for the group. one thing leads to another and i'm chatting it up with one of the sheep that strayed the furthest from the rest of the flock. we started joking about how i would LOVE it if i met some older chics at the bar who would pay for my drinks and feed me. one of her friends poked her head over in our direction, so i tried to introduce myself to her. she held up her hand and flashed an engagement band at me by twiddling it with the thumb on that same hand and smiled as if to say "sorry i'm taken".
to make a long story short: since that exact moment a month ago that i just described, i've seduced that same girl. i didn't even mean to do it at first. "it happens when you least expect it" and "it happens when you stop looking for it" are statements we've all heard, but there's huge upside and tacit value there when naturally woven into real life situations.
when raquel flashed me the ring i looked at her and did all of the below simultaneously:
1. made a scrunched up face
2. bobbleheaded my head ever-so-slightly with a sincere look of acknowledgement on my face
3. waived one hand at her in a "oh its fine" gesture while mouthing those same words
doing the above told her a variety of things:
1. its ok
2. i'm here talking to your friend
3. i'm harmless and not trying to get in your pants
4. i'm just here having fun like you are
my behavior diffused her and she joined the conversation with her friend and i. the topic of age did come up but since i'm harmless and not trying to pick them up, who cares that they're all 20-22 and i'm nearly 12 years their senior.
we ended up exchanging emails so she could add me on FB. and then after some more joking about how they were going to escape we said our goodnights.
note: it was one of the girl's 21st bday so she was eating up the attention from the other guys but the girl i initially started talking with was being standoffish from eating the food the guys were ordering and reluctant to have them buy and pay for her drinks.
a few days later i became friends with the 2 girls i mentioned on FB. the engaged one in particular (raquel) started chatting with me about a 20 mile charity walk i was about to do. it was posted on my "wall" so people could see it and donate/sponsor me if they chose to. a few days later we chatted again on there and she asked me if i would ever date a 1/2 japanese 1/2 brazilian girl, because she has a friend who is single. i saw the friend's picture and didn't answer the question --> changed the subject (nothing nice to say don't say anything at all type of situation).
i thought it was great to have a new 20 year old friend who has single friends with whom she is willing to try to hitch me up with.
enter twilight zone music.
the chatting continued over the following week and one day she asked if i can do her a favor. her little doggie sometimes hides her cell phone, and could i call her so she can know where the phone is. how intuitive!
from there the chatting morphed into texting as well. suddenly i was receiving "good morning" texts 4 or 5 days a week. the chatting online turns into 3, 4, and 5 hour conversations about all sorts of things. there was definitely a strong connection developing, beit friendship or otherwise. i think this girl's "falling in love" with me or some shit. PS - you'd be suprised at how much bass that song can pump out on a 2500watt car audio system.
NOW she says she only sees her boyfriend once a week because he is away at college. she's getting really tired of missing out on things because she feels like she can't have close guy friends, and she can't do much because he wouldn't be happy about her going places where guys would try to talk to her. i can see where she is coming from, but i've cautioned myself, in that i know how some women(?) can word things to serve their own ends (pun untended). with that being said, from what she's said she's given him several warnings and they've argued about how she's unhappy (he's missing the red flags or not doing anything about them).
earlier tonight she asked me out and it sounded similar to how i asked a girl out in 10th grade. nervous, choppy, dancing around the point i.e vague. its obvious that she was trying to make sure i'm good-to-go before she jumps.
on the one hand i've considered my own accountability for whats transpired. on the other (left), i need to also consider the possibility that their relationship was going to end anyway, and what Rollo shared: if she's hot and single is she crazy?
it'd be preposterous to derive from that to say: if she's hot and not single she isn't crazy, but the(un)fortunate truth may be that i may be less worse off dating one that was taken initially. :nervous:
i digress, and as my Mother has warned me over the years after meeting some of the girls i've dated: a wise man once said "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your [wife]"
yes i am almost 32 and no i'm not thinking about marriage. kids by 36 or 37 would be cool though.
