After thinking hard about it, and getting some feedback here (thx again for all who replied to my last post), I ended up cancelling going to San Fran to take a week long trip to meet my girlfriend of six weeks' parents. After last night though, I'm thinking it might be time to pull the plug for good on this thing..
After sex, and telling her that I wasn't ready to commit to the trip, she told me that every guy she's ever been with has ditched her, practically every friend she's ever had has done the same, and cried for several minutes. I feel bad, afterall she's a nice and hot girl, but she keeps telling me that she thinks i'm better than her, that she's "falling for me" (= "ILY" IMO), is always complimenting me. A lot of AFC-like behavior. I don't think that can be healthy longterm?
When she asked me last night whether i'm as into her as she is into me, I told her that it seemed a little imbalanced, and then she seemed kinda freaked out. She told me that if I think things aren't working out to tell her before "freaking out" on her (I'm guessing this is equivalent to "leaving her"). I know I shouldn't feel bad about pulling the cord at any time with a relationship that is so young, but I do care about her. From a self-esteem standpoint, she reminds me of myself a few years back.
My question is: what would you in this situation? I'd like to get back to dating other girls again, but want to hurt her as little as possible (I'm her first real boyfriend, all the others just got theirs and left.. I'd like to leave this with some class). I've only dumped someone once in the past, and this is the first time its been someone I cared a lot about.
Here's the previous posting if you need to know more about that:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33228
Thanks!
-JC
After sex, and telling her that I wasn't ready to commit to the trip, she told me that every guy she's ever been with has ditched her, practically every friend she's ever had has done the same, and cried for several minutes. I feel bad, afterall she's a nice and hot girl, but she keeps telling me that she thinks i'm better than her, that she's "falling for me" (= "ILY" IMO), is always complimenting me. A lot of AFC-like behavior. I don't think that can be healthy longterm?
When she asked me last night whether i'm as into her as she is into me, I told her that it seemed a little imbalanced, and then she seemed kinda freaked out. She told me that if I think things aren't working out to tell her before "freaking out" on her (I'm guessing this is equivalent to "leaving her"). I know I shouldn't feel bad about pulling the cord at any time with a relationship that is so young, but I do care about her. From a self-esteem standpoint, she reminds me of myself a few years back.
My question is: what would you in this situation? I'd like to get back to dating other girls again, but want to hurt her as little as possible (I'm her first real boyfriend, all the others just got theirs and left.. I'd like to leave this with some class). I've only dumped someone once in the past, and this is the first time its been someone I cared a lot about.
Here's the previous posting if you need to know more about that:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33228
Thanks!
-JC