This is kind of a difficult situation for me to make a good call on. My friend moved in with his g/f a while back and they just started to have problems about a month or so ago. I could tell it wasn't going to last long because everytime i was there he seemed to get jealous and insecure. I just mainly tried to have fun while i hung out with them. I have actually been attracted to this girl for a while, actually even before their first LTR which ended then she go back with him 3 months later. I trust this woman and pretty much feel that i could talk to her about anything and she would listen.
Anyways this past weekend, I visited them and the two were still in fight mode. It was pretty dramatic but things started to chill a bit and we all go a little tipsy. I started to act bored then said how i wished they had darts so we could play. She took the initiative and go out a magnetic dart board and her and i played while her b/f and our other friend sat down and did other things. I pretty much hit on her a little bit while the game was going(threw a dart at her butt a couple of times). She seemed not to mind that much. Then she got hungry and i said i was also, so she suggested taco bell and i said i would come along. I could see my buddy get insecure by his AFC actions. He got a little mad at this but i went anyways. Well in the car, somehow their relationship got brought up and i talked about how his jealousy was probably turning her off and whe told me that he had already lost her b,c he disrespected her while she had a girl type problem which i won't mention. It about their sex life. She really never talked about feelings though.
Things pretty much unfolded more when we got back. I got bored and suggested to play poker with her. She said she didnt remember how to play so i refreshed her memory. Being flirty while im drunk i suggested we play strip poker(which i have done before with her and her b/f didnt care) but this time was different. I could tell he was getting pissed i took off my socks b,c she won 2 and then she lost so i told her she had to lose a sock. When i went for my shirt i was a little hesitant. He said" if you two are going to play this im going to leave the room" He was pissed. He went in their bedroom punched something then wanted his car keys so he could leave. He left and came back went in their room and basically thru a tantrom. She about slept in the living room floor with me but he was still tossing sh!t around in their room so she had to go in there and sleep with him.
Well now my friend has moved back to town from his g/f's apartment at the beginning of this week. Right around Valentine's of all times. I don't know their situation totally but one of my buddies told me they are still dating, but not live together. I find this a little odd but maybe she is cutting the relationship off slowly like girls usually do. They dont like the swift end.
Should i go for this girl? We kind of flirt a little when we are around each other. She has stated that she would have dated me a long time ago if she didn't hook up with my friend. She seemed a little animated toward me next morning after that drama filled night. That night she drew attention from me toward her legs saying how prickly her hairs were from not shaving that day and didnt care that i was rubbing her leg feeling her hairs. I have rubbed her legs before with a little resistance but i proceeded and she didnt care until i was right near the wet hole( i was really plastered that night and my buddy passed out in their room while we were in the living room).
Would it be back-stabbing my Friend if i told this girl i wanted to hang out with her even though my buddy isnt living there anymore? I want to hang out with this girl mainly because i feel comfortable around her. She is pretty good looking and has some good qualities. I texted her today with a boring " Sup devilish woman(this is an inside joke), crazy weather lately hasn't it been?" I know this was a boring statement but i just want to see if she respects me enough to reply to it.
Some may object to me doing this but my rationalization is a DJ does what he wants to do and does it with confidence. Well im not all that confident about this situation. My first instincts told me to call this girl and tell her i wanted to still hang out with her but then either my conscience or an AFC wave came over me and i'm losing confidence in that instinct.
Sorry for the long post but this is kind of complicated given the situation. I wouldn't normally try to hang out with a friend's ex but I actually enjoy her company and i feel i can actually trust this woman. I'm leaning toward doing it because that is what i want to do but im not completely sure. I might be risking losing a friend if i do so.
Anyways this past weekend, I visited them and the two were still in fight mode. It was pretty dramatic but things started to chill a bit and we all go a little tipsy. I started to act bored then said how i wished they had darts so we could play. She took the initiative and go out a magnetic dart board and her and i played while her b/f and our other friend sat down and did other things. I pretty much hit on her a little bit while the game was going(threw a dart at her butt a couple of times). She seemed not to mind that much. Then she got hungry and i said i was also, so she suggested taco bell and i said i would come along. I could see my buddy get insecure by his AFC actions. He got a little mad at this but i went anyways. Well in the car, somehow their relationship got brought up and i talked about how his jealousy was probably turning her off and whe told me that he had already lost her b,c he disrespected her while she had a girl type problem which i won't mention. It about their sex life. She really never talked about feelings though.
Things pretty much unfolded more when we got back. I got bored and suggested to play poker with her. She said she didnt remember how to play so i refreshed her memory. Being flirty while im drunk i suggested we play strip poker(which i have done before with her and her b/f didnt care) but this time was different. I could tell he was getting pissed i took off my socks b,c she won 2 and then she lost so i told her she had to lose a sock. When i went for my shirt i was a little hesitant. He said" if you two are going to play this im going to leave the room" He was pissed. He went in their bedroom punched something then wanted his car keys so he could leave. He left and came back went in their room and basically thru a tantrom. She about slept in the living room floor with me but he was still tossing sh!t around in their room so she had to go in there and sleep with him.
Well now my friend has moved back to town from his g/f's apartment at the beginning of this week. Right around Valentine's of all times. I don't know their situation totally but one of my buddies told me they are still dating, but not live together. I find this a little odd but maybe she is cutting the relationship off slowly like girls usually do. They dont like the swift end.
Should i go for this girl? We kind of flirt a little when we are around each other. She has stated that she would have dated me a long time ago if she didn't hook up with my friend. She seemed a little animated toward me next morning after that drama filled night. That night she drew attention from me toward her legs saying how prickly her hairs were from not shaving that day and didnt care that i was rubbing her leg feeling her hairs. I have rubbed her legs before with a little resistance but i proceeded and she didnt care until i was right near the wet hole( i was really plastered that night and my buddy passed out in their room while we were in the living room).
Would it be back-stabbing my Friend if i told this girl i wanted to hang out with her even though my buddy isnt living there anymore? I want to hang out with this girl mainly because i feel comfortable around her. She is pretty good looking and has some good qualities. I texted her today with a boring " Sup devilish woman(this is an inside joke), crazy weather lately hasn't it been?" I know this was a boring statement but i just want to see if she respects me enough to reply to it.
Some may object to me doing this but my rationalization is a DJ does what he wants to do and does it with confidence. Well im not all that confident about this situation. My first instincts told me to call this girl and tell her i wanted to still hang out with her but then either my conscience or an AFC wave came over me and i'm losing confidence in that instinct.
Sorry for the long post but this is kind of complicated given the situation. I wouldn't normally try to hang out with a friend's ex but I actually enjoy her company and i feel i can actually trust this woman. I'm leaning toward doing it because that is what i want to do but im not completely sure. I might be risking losing a friend if i do so.
