Knight's Cross
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Day 2 complete, ignored a bunch of calls and text messages. Getting there, feeling better.
KC
KC
Hello Friend,
If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.
It will be the most efficient use of your time.
And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.
Thank you for visiting and have a great day!
YOu are doing good ,KCKnight's Cross said:Good point PE, however they are known by everyone of my friends, family, and coworkers. I've called her cel provider and blocked her inbound calls and texts. That should send a more clear message. As well as blocking inbound e-mail.
KC
Holding Ground and spooling up new opportunities.
Wise man, that's really wise. (i mean it no sarcasm).Metro3pilot said:If we all did the right thing or tossed a biyotch when we should have .....
would we even have the sosuave message board ?
:rockon:
Knight's Cross said:PE
The woman in the grocery store may also be clingy, BPD, or needy You just don't know till you have gotten to know her.
JOPHIL***
Exactly right KC. Women with personality disorders are experts at holding up a facade . They do it in real life very skillfully too. Our mission is to know what scams to look for and when to bail .
You did make a great point about why did I stay with her? What attracted me to her when she treated me poorly?
JOPHIL ***
Their poor behavior does not emerge until they know that is is "safe" to revert to their natural or habitual behavior - that is - you are "hooked" . These women give Academy AWard winning performences gentlemen.
She knew I was faithful, she then got lazy, and my confidence drained away. In the absence of leadership, she started taking the frame. Thats not including her other issues that made her a poor candidate.
JOPHIL****
THis last para above sums up beautufully what happens in a relationship with a Pers Disordered woman.
ONce the downward spiral begins it is only a matter of time before you reach the crash zone.
This " downward spiral " IS her natural envirionment, THis is where she feels "at home" ..
BPD women contribute NOTHING positive to LTRs . They just become more destructive over time and you get crazier trying to stabilize her and the relationship .
JOPHIL ****
For me, wisdom emerged AFTER the breakup. It is impossible to "manage" these women at the time ..they are GoldMedal wackjobs.
Lesson #1 . BPD women are not fit for an LTR. EVER !
Lesson #2 . Bail at the FIRST display of significant disrespct. The first sign of disrespect is an indication that you have entered upon the downward spiral.
You now are in HER frame unless you walk away
Lessom #3 . You cannot talk to, or negotiate with a Pers Disordered women.
These women thrive on creating conflict and upset, covertly . The roller coaster is their playground. Life to them, feels natural when it is turmoil. Equilibrium seems to create an anxiety state.
Lesson #4 . IT is not possible (or wise ) for YOU to try to rehabilitate a Pers Disordered women.
These are the women who make Therapists jump from tall buildings.
Lesson #5 . If you feel endlessly "hungry" in a relationship ,if you feel anxious and uncertain, if you feel more unstable and unsure over time, then you are with a Pers Disordered women. Why ? because they never contribute or play their part.Their mental energy goes into "mindfvcking" you. They just take and expect you to give more and more while you get less and less.
**** Be aware and vigilant, men - approx 3% of the female population is seriously wacko and a large percenage is sub-clinical . I have had about 25 some odd LTRs and FORTUNATELY only one with a Pers Dis.woman, and that was enough for me.
They are out there - lurking in wait.
Hey Metro - 3 wackos -wow. You sure got more that your share.Metro3pilot said:looking back I have been involved with at least 3 .....
wow ....... I remember they all were showing red flags at the beginning .... I either ignored them or rationalyzed them .....