she left her cell phone at my house, and insisted that she will pick it up later. Well, needless to say, I chose to look through her cell phone. I saw text messages that she had left from months ago, one in which she was describing something to her friend...but in the text she mentions that she has a "crush" on some guy. Well, the disturbing fact is that we were going out at this time. She could have fooled me. She texted me everyday telling me she loves me, and her interest level seemed sky high (we were ****ing all the time, I was being a challenge, etc.)....but anyway, so I found this old text in her phone that she sent her friend.
I don't know what to think. We have been going out for 9 months. she told me yesterday she wants to be with me "forever" and wants my children. I, of course, did not respond to that because it would be AFC to say "cool" and also I am not ready for that kind of commitment anyway AT ALL (not in the next ten years). I care for her though, and I truly would hate to leave her for a text message she sent back in october.
I know that I have sexual interest in many females (as all guys do), even though I'm completely satisfied and happy in my relationship. I even have minor "crushes" on females. But I would never **** them knowing I had a gf. I don't think she ever did that, because it was only one text message like this, but the fact that she says explicity that she has a "crush" on this guy makes me lose a lot of respect for her. Frankly, I'm hurt. She even texted me the next day on that month telling me she loved me.
What do I do guys? I don't want to lose her, but I can't respect a girl in the long term that has a cheating heart. Next her? Confront her about it and ask her whats up? I would hate to confront her because it's anti-challenge. It makes me look insecure for looking at the phone, but I dunno...
I don't know what to think. We have been going out for 9 months. she told me yesterday she wants to be with me "forever" and wants my children. I, of course, did not respond to that because it would be AFC to say "cool" and also I am not ready for that kind of commitment anyway AT ALL (not in the next ten years). I care for her though, and I truly would hate to leave her for a text message she sent back in october.
I know that I have sexual interest in many females (as all guys do), even though I'm completely satisfied and happy in my relationship. I even have minor "crushes" on females. But I would never **** them knowing I had a gf. I don't think she ever did that, because it was only one text message like this, but the fact that she says explicity that she has a "crush" on this guy makes me lose a lot of respect for her. Frankly, I'm hurt. She even texted me the next day on that month telling me she loved me.
What do I do guys? I don't want to lose her, but I can't respect a girl in the long term that has a cheating heart. Next her? Confront her about it and ask her whats up? I would hate to confront her because it's anti-challenge. It makes me look insecure for looking at the phone, but I dunno...