Bvbidd said:
You do realize foreign brides is one of the easiest ways of telling a loser right?
Ever wonder why the guys with foreign brides always seem to be with the less than a man type, awkward, and socially inept?
To the original poster, your getting laid, that's all you should expect at this age.
That's often what I see, too. Or even if the foreign bride is educated she's usually looking for status (some would say that's true of women in general but that would be incorrect), and validation. They think guys from their own ethnicity/country are losers much of the time. Or they might not be confident in the language and be more likely to agree with what they're told. And that holds for educated foreign brides, too, not just the mail order ones.
I can usually tell when the guy is really insecure because of how he treats the woman or she behaves around him. Two separate examples.
Example # 1. Months ago at the gym there was some woman working out on the treadmill, she was slightly below average in looks and body. Anyway, up comes this guy who was using the free weights. Interesting things about him he hovered around her. Every few minutes he'd come back over to where she was at. He make exaggerated motions with his hands while she smiled and nodded her head. He'd walk back to the free weights side of the gym and do a few more then go back. He couldn't let her do her own thing. And he would shake or scratch his head a lot and making awkward gestures when he'd either approach the woman or when going back to the weights. He'd also mumble to himself at the weight rack. When he'd come over to where the woman was, she'd always grin ear to ear and be agreeable. It was obvious the guy was insecure about himself and her. It wasn't a pickup because they'd come in and leave together. I guess she was getting free membership out of the deal, maybe money and a place to stay (if they're living together) so she'll put up with it.
Example #2. Last Christmas season a guy was walking through the department store, following ten feet behind him was a woman who looked to be about 65-70 years old. The guy was tall, lanky dressed in a Sunday suit, since it was a Sunday afternoon I assume he must have come from church. He made his way through the electronics dept, photo shop, etc. with this old woman trailing him at the 10 feet distance. A bit later I noticed a younger woman following slightly behind him, and the older woman was still there at that 10 foot distance. It was obvious what was going on there, and what he wanted was validation and superiority whereas the younger woman would give those to him in exchange for status and permanent residency or citizenship.
I've also noticed that these guys are usually quite insecure around other men especially those who are in better physical shape, more intelligent, outgoing, and ambitious than they are.
I'm not dissing foreign relationships but a lot of guys look to foreign women because they don't want stability in a relationship. Men and women have roles to be sure but when guys are only looking for women who won't talk back, and will agree with everything that they're told, that's not a relationship that's a prison. I'd be bored if people agreed with me all the time and didn't have a life of their own.
