I have wasted all of high school!!!!!!!!!

[Locster]

I've been a lurker in this forum for a while and this is my first post.

Im about to graduate in less than 3 months and i have not taken advantage of this once in a lifetime experience that is high school. When i first started high school everything was going normal, I was a shy person but still held what you would consider a normal life.

Eventually as school progressed I went through lots of issues that I would rather not share that changed my life completely. As a result I became a complete loner and social misfit. By the time I was in 10th grade i had no life whatsoever and all my time was spent in the computer. I saw my old friends from middle school become popular and having the time of their lives while I was going downhill as time passed. I never was a nerd, geek, weird, or anything like that but most of my classmates thought I was below them and did not take me seriously.

As my junior year came I decided to do something about it and started reading anything that could help me. Unfortunately it took me until my senior year to realize i did not have much time left and that i needed to do something now.

I want to make up for time loss and would appreciate anybody's suggestion on what I could do to end my final months in highschool on a high note. I am willing to try anything at this point.

 

[applaya]

yeah follow my advice closeley. Don't try to make up for 4 years in three month's. Follow your plan or whatever and try to do better in social situations. I am only a year older than you. Trust me we are very yound. Lots of people my age don't realize how young they are. You got your whole life ahead of you so don't sweat bein a looser in high school. In three month's it won't matter anymore. Just relax and from this point on have fun and make some friends. Don't worry about girls eather. Get the rest of your life together and gettin girls will take care of itself.

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

Dont feel bad. Heres a synopsis of my Highchool years

Freshman Year:
Had no friends for the most part, I was always being bullied, always spent time on the computer non-stop. Asked out random girls only to realize to late I only wanted to try sexual things and not worry about relationships

Sophmore Year:
Parents grounded me for failing Latin which they made me take. I was so mad at my parents that I let loose rage on my close friends sometimes for no reason. I was still picked on a lot. So depressed I didnt even care about girls.

Junior Year:
The best year of my life. I dont know what I did but I decided enough was enough. I stopped taking crap from thugs at school, was making great grades, had tons of confidence. I was so engrossed in this confidence, Sex, Love, and Girls were the last thing on my mind.

Senior Year
Beggining of the year was AWFUL. I had broke up in a long distance relationship with my friend of three years. I was totally ***** whipped. And of someone from across the country for cripes sake! She even treated me badly and I just let it go. Finally around Christmas, I told her enough was enough and I told her to go rot away and die. My confidence has gotten better since then, and I am trying to forget about all those girls I rebounded to.

I know Im still young but maybe I can use this as a learning experience. Im trying to analyze the Junior year to see what gave me so much confidence

 

[oakraiderz2]

You still have your whole life to look forward to. Dont regret so much, look to the future.

 

[j8snx1]

Don't think of it as a waste my friend. Look on the brighter side; you had a taste of reality, and you finally realized the truth and the way out on your senior year. Now, with the 3 months and the entire summer of '06 waiting on you, GO OUT THERE AND PRACTICE, EXPERIMENT, FAIL, SUCCEED, and CHANGE from your old self to the new you that you desire.

I was sort of a loser from my 7th grade year to my 11th grade year. I started losing social contacts with my "friends", I never had a girlfriend, girls never liked me, had no confidence, never smiled, etc. I thought life was hell man. However, that 5 years of suffering helped me realize that life's too short to be sad at myself so I researched and researched and found the SoSuave stuff. It's not too late bro; you have 4 years of college, 4+ years if you go to graduate school, and you have jobs to go to, places to attend, and guess what: there will be women, and lots of them.

You'll do just fine; stay positive and dedicated towards your goal to become the better man and things will begin to fall into place.

 

[elmo]

high school is the best time in your life to be a loser. in saying that, if you die tomorrow your life really did suck.

 

[Zero0ne]

I agree with everyone else. Don't sweat it, just make tomarrow a better day.

 

[Spookey]

GOOD!!!
gald you came to that realisation now instead of waiting another 20 years.

you know what you are and you aren't happy with it. write down what you want to be and how you will reach that goal. get out there and socialise mate. humans are social animals, everyone wants to talk, you just have to figure out which buttons to press.

start talking to people. dont be afraid of failure because you cant fail, you can only learn.

 

[Locster]

I appreciate everybody's help.

One more thing. I need to become better at socializing. I am not afraid to go out of the way to better myself. Can anybody help me at this or give me any tips.

 

[Spookey]

join a club of some sort

become a regular at a bar. go out with the friends you have and get them to push you and chose sets for you to approach

 

[adpreston1988]

This is a little unrelated but I was hoping I could get some advice with socializing as well. Basically, I'm like a split personality (but not really). I say this because all of my close friends see that I'm reall social and can be a lot of fun. But when I'm with people I don't realy know well or have never met before I kind of freeze up and look really shy. How do I break out of this shell? I guess it's just getting over the hump. Like my friends and other people I guess I am real social with them because I know they like me and talk to me. Maybe it's that I'm not a big risk taker and that's why I don't socialize as well with people I don't know because I'm not sure if they like me or not.

 

[Spookey]

that is nothing really out of the norm
you are more outgoing and social around your friends because you know them and are comfortable around them.
with people you dont know you clam up because you are afraid of doing/saying something silly and looking stupid or embarassing yourself.

this should not be the case. the attitude you need to have is: these are brand new people, they dont know me, they have no reason to judge me. i know im a good guy and i can get them to like me. i have nothing to be afraid of.
you need to havea bit more self confidence thats all. and think, what do you really have to lose by striking up a conversation with them??

another good way to expand social circles is to get your friends to introduce you do thier other friends. organise some big gorup activity and tell them to bring everyone they know.

 

[shydude]

Hmm I am junior myself in High school. I used to be kinda not cool, until i started comunicating with chiks. PLus dude u r senior.. U have to start doing some crazy **** man.. I mean go to partys.. Talk to as many girls as u can.. Meet some jerks. Become a jerk urslef.. I did some crazy things when i was sophomore, I almsot even got cought by cops.. Well i do not regret it tough, becouse when I think what i did its kinda fun, and i will remember it my whole life.

Meet as many cool people, FOCUS on chiks for fun, and meet guys that are jerks.. And do not meet crazy people that smoke weed, or take drugs, becouse u Will regret it later.. :nervous:

And Thats all I can tell u.. Just go out there and have Freaking fun:rockon: .. Plus u have some connections already that makes ur life much easier.. And dress funky too, so people will see that u have some nice taste, Example teashirt saying "**** mil, GOt POT?"

Well all i can actually tell u now, and if u need some more advise pm me.. GOod LUCK

 

[cubed]

Dude, don't worry. I haven't made the best of high school years as well, but realistically, who has? I'm sure most people, feel the same way (just ask any adult; they'll say that if they could redo high school, they would have worked harder, been more outgoing, etc).

As for making up for time lost, I don't realistically anyone can completely change in three months to save the school year. Instead you should wait(/train) for university, where you give yourself a fresh start.

 

[Locster]

OK guys

My goal for the month of april is to make as many new friends as possible. I will talk to any one I can.

 

[dannowillbookem]

ur in a great position man, kinda like when i got thrown into public middle school in the middle of eighth grade with just a couple months to go.

whatd i do? i didnt give a ****.

why should you worry about what people think now? you have hit rock bottom and can become practical about your emotions. only deal with people that do good for you and try and get laid. simple goals, simple means. read the dj bible.

 

[shydude]

And do some crazy stuff@@ Like dance naked in the school lunch room!!!

 

[Mr_rogers]

And do some crazy stuff@@ Like dance naked in the school lunch room!!!

Uh... I wouldn't go quite that far, lol. But I would do some things that you may not have done before you realized that your High School time is near over. Even if you don't ask a girl out, even just the flirting and stuff will raise your self-esteem quite a bit if you do it right. I've got to be one of the most socially insecure people on the planet, and even my self-esteem has gone up since I started reading the stuff here. I was the least talkative (to those I didn't know), arrogant, self-absorbed bastard on the planet, but once I realized what it was that I was doing wrong, I could start working towards improving myself.

I'd suggest finding out what it is that you don't like about yourself and doing whatever you can to change it. When you finally overcome one of those barriers, you feel way better than you did before, and it'll gift you with more and more confidence each time.

Good luck!

 

[Sexual]

yeah follow my advice closeley. Don't try to make up for 4 years in three month's. Follow your plan or whatever and try to do better in social situations. I am only a year older than you. Trust me we are very yound. Lots of people my age don't realize how young they are. You got your whole life ahead of you so don't sweat bein a looser in high school. In three month's it won't matter anymore. Just relax and from this point on have fun and make some friends. Don't worry about girls eather. Get the rest of your life together and gettin girls will take care of itself.

Awesome advice.

 

[Sexual]

And do some crazy stuff@@ Like dance naked in the school lunch room!!!

Horrible advice.

Btw, screwing people's mom will ruin a friendship. I know. :yes: