Hello and sorry for a long post.
I spent the summer with a conservative girl (no drinking or sex) . She made me to a better person in these months. And we connected on a deeper level.
Her family knows about me, She bought me food, she wrote a text with me in it, giggled to everything I said, she talked to other people how great I was, She backed me up if someone was rude to me, Showed me personal photos on her phone and many other things.
After a while she had to go home to her city. I knew she was into me and I was into her but because of the distance I thougt it would better to forget her. So after a few weeks she calls me everyday for a hole week. I didnt pick any of the calls because I hade to clear my mind.
A week later I called her and no damage was done because again she talked about how much she missed me, she want to know me better and what she want to do with me in the future. And even that she will visit me in 6 months.
We have talked on phone now for three weeks. Around 1-2 calls per week. And slowly things going bad because of me.
This is how our latest phone conversations going on:
Everytime I call I act like a clown. I only say funny things and she laughs to everything. She maybe put in something serious about herself but I dont follow it up with questions and then I go back to joking around. And in all this I lost my self-control and throw in som needy stuff. To many compliments, future with us in it, how great she is. She said Im probably popular and my answear to that was "The girls are not like you" and so on. Me talking 80% and she 20%. I feel like a bulldozer and dont get the connection with her.
Yesterday I wrote a simple text to her on FB like "how are you?" She have not even take time to read it even if she is online all the time.
My two alternatives?
1.I call her in 2 days (haven't talked to her for 4 days). And maybe you guys could tell me how to set up the call? I would appreciate that so much!
2 . Call her in 2 days and tell her the true. Im not myself right now with all these jokes and that I take her seriously but she have to give it some time. Game over speech or may work?
I think my phone skills sucks. Set up a date in 5min is ok but talk about random things in 20min is a different story for me.
Im in my 30s and thought finally. Then I freak out and end up doing strange things.
I spent the summer with a conservative girl (no drinking or sex) . She made me to a better person in these months. And we connected on a deeper level.
Her family knows about me, She bought me food, she wrote a text with me in it, giggled to everything I said, she talked to other people how great I was, She backed me up if someone was rude to me, Showed me personal photos on her phone and many other things.
After a while she had to go home to her city. I knew she was into me and I was into her but because of the distance I thougt it would better to forget her. So after a few weeks she calls me everyday for a hole week. I didnt pick any of the calls because I hade to clear my mind.
A week later I called her and no damage was done because again she talked about how much she missed me, she want to know me better and what she want to do with me in the future. And even that she will visit me in 6 months.
We have talked on phone now for three weeks. Around 1-2 calls per week. And slowly things going bad because of me.
This is how our latest phone conversations going on:
Everytime I call I act like a clown. I only say funny things and she laughs to everything. She maybe put in something serious about herself but I dont follow it up with questions and then I go back to joking around. And in all this I lost my self-control and throw in som needy stuff. To many compliments, future with us in it, how great she is. She said Im probably popular and my answear to that was "The girls are not like you" and so on. Me talking 80% and she 20%. I feel like a bulldozer and dont get the connection with her.
Yesterday I wrote a simple text to her on FB like "how are you?" She have not even take time to read it even if she is online all the time.
My two alternatives?
1.I call her in 2 days (haven't talked to her for 4 days). And maybe you guys could tell me how to set up the call? I would appreciate that so much!
2 . Call her in 2 days and tell her the true. Im not myself right now with all these jokes and that I take her seriously but she have to give it some time. Game over speech or may work?
I think my phone skills sucks. Set up a date in 5min is ok but talk about random things in 20min is a different story for me.
Im in my 30s and thought finally. Then I freak out and end up doing strange things.
