Originally posted by Dubs
I dont understand it, i do not mind sitting at home by myself.
i am not depressed( or so i think
) and i really do not mind, and even enjoy just being by myself.
whether its reading, watching a DVD, or browsing the sosuave.com boards i enjoy a lot of quiet time with myself.
i realized long ago that i did not need friends.
i'll say that i do like having friends (who doesn't ) but if they all left me today i would not give a damn, EVEN though i do have some very good ones.
i find myself wanting to spend time by myself as much as possible.
anyone got any thoughts on this?
I am the same way. All through highschool I barelay had any friends, and even now I'd rather stay home than do anything else. I am the happiest when my parents leave and I am home all by myself so I can do whatever the hell I want.
One day something happened though. I had to take a vacation at work before ithe end of last year, or risk losing it. Well since I was entitled to it, I wanted to take it. The problem was that it came at such an unexpected time that I thought I was going to have an extra day off during each week, and I ended up getting five days in a row off.
I was caught up with no plan and nothing to do, while my friends were working all day. I was stuck at home, reading watching TV and browsing the web. Being that the weather outside wasn't that nice, made it impossible for me to even go out and take a leisurly walk in the city.
I was at home all day, everyday for five days in a row!!
I thought, "Oh it's okay, I'll just read and have some fun online. Well I read, I had some fun but when it all came to an end, I found myself getting bored and then boredpm became depression. Short-term nonetheless, but it was there. I felt it.
However, I didn't let the experience slip away without learning something first.
I thought to myself: "What would it be like if I somehow made so much money that I never had to work again. What would I do?" It occurred to me that I needed a plan for this type of thing, and I also needed some hobbies in my life to keep me busy when I had nothing else to do.
You see, most of our time as humans is taken care of with by work or school. And lucky for us, these enviromnments are social gathering places, where we meet and interact with a lot of people. So for alot of people working and/or going to school is simply a way of life.
it suits most of us, because we are lazy and don't have any goals or things that we want to do, or don't have the time to think about them. So we simply agree to live accoriding to some rules as long as we have some scicial interactions. Religion is also one such system and many people buy into it.
My ultimate advice would be "Invent your own system of living" That of course requires that you taste different systems and pick the ones that you like. i've tried the bar/club life and it's not for me, for example. But I do enjoy going to watch a movie once in a while, even if it is me by myself. So I go and try all these different things and choose what I like to make my own system.
if you have tried other things and ultimately like staying at home, then you need to find a way to make that work for you. Like you can work from home, have a home-based business and so on.
Take from this post what you like, and leave the rest behind.
