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This is my first post in years. Hell this is the first time I've benn here in years.

I used to come here all the time and spend hours on here learning as much as I could. I basically know everything there is to know about women and how to pick them up. Ive had sex about a dozen or so times when I was younger (I'm 27 now). Every time I did, I could never enjoy it. I would always find it awkward, embarrassing, even boring. the funniest part is, I would fake orgasim just so I could get the hell out of there. The last time I touched a woman was over 5 years ago.

Now if any of you remember my old posts, you will know that I'm not over wieght, ugly or skinny. I drive a new BMW, I have a good job and I live in a sick bachelor pad. My friends say all the time they wish they were me, because then they could get any woman They want. But that's the problem, I don't want to get laid. I don't want a girlfriend or a wife. That's why I never go anywhere besides work. There's no point. People go to bars or clubs or parties because they want to meet the opposite sex. My roommates have parties all the time. Hot girls are always at my house, yet I stay in my room and watch tv.
I like to be alone. I guess you could call me a social loner. I can pretend to be the most popular person in the room (after all I am a salesman). But whats the point? I never even think about women. Really, I just don't care. I don't even like sex, so why would I want to even speak to a woman?
In the end the only reason I can think of to go out and get girls is so people don't think I'm gay. Does anyone else feel the same way I do?
 

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I doubt I can relate to you but I would like to ask you a couple of questions if you dont mind.

1) dont you have your c0ck asking for some pvssy once in a while? Im not talking about love,feelings etc I talk about the animalistic drive we share with beasts.

2)Dont you feel the need to get girls just to prove yourself you can? To self-validate yourself and feed your ego just like impress others and have benefists even in your social position with other guys.

Anyway you're not that strange anyway, I think that if men had a lower sex drive we would have no use for most women at all,you probably lack the sex drive and the need for validation.

So what do you like to? sport,drive fast cars?
 

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1. I still jerk off a couple of times a week, sure.
2. Ive proved it to myself already that I can get girls. But if I don't enjoy sex then what's the point?

I like to get high and just be left alone, to do whatever I want.
 

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Bro you may have depression, get checked out. Some people are not chemically balanced the same way, nothing to be ashamed of. If I'm wrong in that recommendation please disregard. I immediately identified with what you said because I have had periods in my life such as you describe and it was depression.
 

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unamean said:
This is my first post in years. Hell this is the first time I've benn here in years.

I used to come here all the time and spend hours on here learning as much as I could. I basically know everything there is to know about women and how to pick them up. Ive had sex about a dozen or so times when I was younger (I'm 27 now). Every time I did, I could never enjoy it. I would always find it awkward, embarrassing, even boring. the funniest part is, I would fake orgasim just so I could get the hell out of there. The last time I touched a woman was over 5 years ago.

Now if any of you remember my old posts, you will know that I'm not over wieght, ugly or skinny. I drive a new BMW, I have a good job and I live in a sick bachelor pad. My friends say all the time they wish they were me, because then they could get any woman They want. But that's the problem, I don't want to get laid. I don't want a girlfriend or a wife. That's why I never go anywhere besides work. There's no point. People go to bars or clubs or parties because they want to meet the opposite sex. My roommates have parties all the time. Hot girls are always at my house, yet I stay in my room and watch tv.
I like to be alone. I guess you could call me a social loner. I can pretend to be the most popular person in the room (after all I am a salesman). But whats the point? I never even think about women. Really, I just don't care. I don't even like sex, so why would I want to even speak to a woman?
In the end the only reason I can think of to go out and get girls is so people don't think I'm gay. Does anyone else feel the same way I do?
do you masterbate a lot to porn? when/if you masterbate does *** get out like it's supposed to? have you seen a urologist? sorry about this but i have to ask.

i've had problems like the ones you mentioned. it's a lack of desire, of libido. i dont know why it happens but it's awkward and it can last for years.
 

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I probably am depressed, but not from a lack of women. Probably because i have nothing to look forward too but working more and more for less and less, for the rest of my miserable life. But that's another thread all together
 

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What if the anomaly is in your brain and not in your body?

We know that many famous individuals like Tesla or Newton didnt give a damn about women or mundanity and the explanation is that their brain structure simply is different from normal individuals.

They lack emphaty or social needs while they are more cold logic machine, its just like geeks to an N degree.
Are you good with scientific stuff like maths or computers or finance?
I think the technical term is "manly brain syndrome" where all the male features are to the limit and the femine ones lack (like the attitude to socialize or match clothes and colors or seeking human contanct).
 

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who cares about women? all thats going to do is save you time and money!

But you dont have any passion in your life? Do you ever travel? Ever skydived? It sounds like you have some money to spend so find something to look forward to!
 

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I think you have lost your zest for life. You have a sick bachelor pad, a bmw, but you rather be in your room and watch tv if there's a party going on.

This is what happens when we get too caught up in our daily routine of work, bills, material pleasures. Sure you got a bmw and a bachelor pad but I bet there's some guy out there that has half the money you do but he's living life to the fullest.

Why don't you travel? Get away from your daily routine and go to a country that's not rich. Experience a bit of poverty and see different things so you can get a better appreciation for what you have.

I'm not saying that that you are ungrateful what i'm saying is that because we have it so good and we work so hard sometimes we lose our appreciation for life.

When it comes to masturbation I don't know if you're into metaphysics/the esoteric but it's ancient knowledge that every time you ejaculate you lose your "life force." Read into that. Here's a video for you.

The Dangers of Busting Nuts
 

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It's funny you mention that strelok, because I consider myself the smartest person I know. I read and research a lot about science, math, physics, politics. I prefer mind over matter. Im always thinking about something, just never women.
 

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f283000 said:
I think you have lost your zest for life. You have a sick bachelor pad, a bmw, but you rather be in your room and watch tv if there's a party going on.

This is what happens when we get too caught up in our daily routine of work, bills, material pleasures. Sure you got a bmw and a bachelor pad but I bet there's some guy out there that has half the money you do but he's living life to the fullest.

Why don't you travel? Get away from your daily routine and go to a country that's not rich. Experience a bit of poverty and see different things so you can get a better appreciation for what you have.

I'm not saying that that you are ungrateful what i'm saying is that because we have it so good and we work so hard sometimes we lose our appreciation for life.

When it comes to masturbation I don't know if you're into metaphysics/the esoteric but it's ancient knowledge that every time you ejaculate you lose your "life force." Read into that. Here's a video for you.

The Dangers of Busting Nuts
I did travel in my younger years. Believe me I know Americans are very spoiled. Even some parts of Europe looks like a war zone. I would like to travel more but ever since the recession I don't make as much money as I used to. As far as masturbating, i do it once or twice a week and it only takes a minute, then I don't think about it after that
 

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unamean said:
This is my first post in years. Hell this is the first time I've benn here in years.

I used to come here all the time and spend hours on here learning as much as I could. I basically know everything there is to know about women and how to pick them up. Ive had sex about a dozen or so times when I was younger (I'm 27 now). Every time I did, I could never enjoy it. I would always find it awkward, embarrassing, even boring. the funniest part is, I would fake orgasim just so I could get the hell out of there. The last time I touched a woman was over 5 years ago.

Now if any of you remember my old posts, you will know that I'm not over wieght, ugly or skinny. I drive a new BMW, I have a good job and I live in a sick bachelor pad. My friends say all the time they wish they were me, because then they could get any woman They want. But that's the problem, I don't want to get laid. I don't want a girlfriend or a wife. That's why I never go anywhere besides work. There's no point. People go to bars or clubs or parties because they want to meet the opposite sex. My roommates have parties all the time. Hot girls are always at my house, yet I stay in my room and watch tv.
I like to be alone. I guess you could call me a social loner. I can pretend to be the most popular person in the room (after all I am a salesman). But whats the point? I never even think about women. Really, I just don't care. I don't even like sex, so why would I want to even speak to a woman?
In the end the only reason I can think of to go out and get girls is so people don't think I'm gay. Does anyone else feel the same way I do?
What is your sexuality? If you're asexual or gay you should know for yourself.
 

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You don't have to be hooking up with women if you don't want to. Is there anything else fun or interesting that you might want to do on your spare time? For example, exercise, travel, learn another language, etc.

I'm not concerned about you not chasing women. It's more about you just staying home and getting high when you're not working.
 

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It's interesting to see that some people assume it's a psychological or even physiological problem, and it may be true since how we function is dependent upon our molecular structures.

But bro, nothing is really wrong with you. You make a living and you are able to function properly within the confines of society. It's just you choose not to bother chasing women. In some way that gives you great power. Some guys like to say women have no control over them, but the fact that this very site exists trying to teach men to pick up women creates in irony that if women didn't control the "sexual market" this site wouldn't exist.

I find a lot of people boring and uninteresting. They can talk about trips, parties, etc and I can really care less 90% of the time. Women are worse in this regard in that they like to talk about a whole lot of nothing. Gossip 50% of the time, 40% uselessness, and usually the 10% is interesting. I like to spend time alone and it feels like I expend too much energy trying to be social.

You aren't crazy, suicidal, or whatever. You are just content with chilling after a hard day of working and in my eyes, that is perfectly acceptable.
 

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I too find 90% of people extremely boring. Everyone talks about sports, tv shows and how much money jaz-z made last year. Nobody has adult conversations anymore. People really have no idea what's going on outside their Facebook page or their twitter or the bs reality shows they watch all day. It's pretty pathetic really. The other day this guy I work with didn't know who Kim Jong il was? I mean, this was front page news for gods sake. I believe this is 100% by design, by the powers that be. It's been going on for decades through subliminal propaganda.
Anyway, I just find the whole idea of men chasing women around so pathetic. Men practically do anything for them. Just think about it for a second. The only reason men talk to women is because in the back of their minds they're trying to get laid. Or hoping to get laid. All it is, is a hole. Your mind is our biggest sexual organ not or ****s. Even you guys must admit to thinking about other girls while having sex.

I'm interested in math, history, science, astronomy, physics, politics, etc. Women are not. I told a girl that was at my house the other day that distance was an illusion. If you divided a number in half, you can divide it to infinity. So if you divide the distance between two people in half over and over, the distance goes on forever. I found this fascinating, but she just looked at me with a blank stare like most of you are now. I just feel that people are here on this planet to learn. There's always something new to learn, that's why it's so exciting for me. I mean I've masturbated thousands of times, and im so used to it, it's not exciting anymore. It's the same with women. Eventually you'll only be having sex with one woman for the rest of your life. That's why married people don't have sex. It's boring.
 

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by normal peoples standards I have a pretty low sex drive myself. I am not a horn toad by any stretch of the imagination. Half the time my wife asks for sex.

If you are anything like me, It's not that you aren't interested in sex.. I mean if a HB9 just knocked on your door and was offering free blow jobs you wouldn't turn it down lol, but you don't want sex to the point wherer you feel like you want to actively chase it now.

As i have stated before I went 3 years and months without a kiss, let alone sex, and I'm for the most part perfectly normal. Your manhood is defined by more than how much sex you have.


I am kinda the same way, you actually sound a lot like me. All the way down tot he faking of orgasms. I"ve done that more than once honestly. that's because you are embarrassed it's not because you don't like women. the more you f the more comfortable you will get. there is nothign wrong with you lol. CAn't tell you how many times my wife has given me the "come fvck me" look while I am watching a documentary or reading a book and I tell her I'll be in there when I'm done, and by the time I get there she's passed out.

Just putting my cards on the table a little becuase I can tell you really need the help, everyone likes to talk about how they f'ed her brains out, how they made her do this or do that, I'll keep it 100 with you, I went from 18 to 21 without any sex or female contact.

when I did start having sex, I was so horrible at it, the girlr iwas with said I was basically jacking off inside her lol. she knew it had been a while for me, so she was patient, but it wasn't good. it wasn't good for her, it wasn't good for me lol.

It honestly took about, 10-15 tries, about a month, and for me to stop jacking off, or at least seriously cut back for it to become normal and for me to get comfortable. I ddint' come out the bat guns blazing by any stretch.

Hell one girl I brought home in that time period my **** just refused to get hard.

The bottom line s if you are happy, why question it? Why do you feel the need to conform to this pre set idea of how you are supposed to be wired? If you wake up every day and you are happy, f it.

Actually, my lack of a serious sex drive, neutralizes my wife's one thing she can hold over me. She knows already she isn't goign to get anywhere holding out sex with me so she doesn't even try. I'm not the one for that, I can wait it out longer than she can standing on my hands.

One woman about a year ago basically imp.lied to me, after a few drinks I was a faggot or not a man becuase I didn't want to fvck 5 times a week.


I'm bored, my son is up and my wife's sleep, i have a second. let's look at this from a historical perspective. Do you understand that we, as in the last 100 maybe 200 or so years, are the first humans that have the ability to fvck as much as we fvck? There is a reason that the population has skyrocketed. we have a lot more leisure time. I don't know where this idea of "you have to have lots and lots of sex to be a man".

You go back to the middle ages and you would spend all day long hunting and it would be so damn cold outside more times than not you just wanted to eat and go to sleep, forgot trying to have leisure sex. or you go back further and men like Alexander the great would go years without seeing a woman when he was off in battle. he was out doing ****.

It really wasn't until the industrial revolution that men and women have been able to come home at 5-6-7 o clock, and have enough energy to want to fvck, 5-6 days a week. A guy was lucky in the 1500's to get it probably once a week, probalby on a sunday when not much work had to be done or he didn't have to go to work. men back then worked from sun up to sun down, as did the women in the house. the only people who had time to fvck like rabbits were the rich who didn't have to work, and most of them had more interesting things to do than sit in bed all day.

sex is not a baramter of how manly you are or of sexuality actually. That's what uninspired people to feel good about themselves. "I fvck my wife, I'm a man!" every guy here likes sex. you aren't gay. I would even say you are ahead of the curve because you have the ability to curve your sex drive to want to do other things.

It reminds me what James Allen said in as a man thinkith (things I can read becuase I'm not having sex)

Before a man can achieve anything, even in worldly things, he must lift his thoughts above slavish animal indulgence. He may not, in order to succeed, give up all animality and selfishness, by any means; but a portion of it must, at least, be sacrificed. A man whose first thought is bestial indulgence could neither think clearly nor plan methodically; he could not find and develop his latent resources, and would fail in any undertaking. Not having commenced to manfully control his thoughts, he is not in a position to control affairs and to adopt serious responsibilities. He is not fit to act independently and stand alone. But he is limited only by the thoughts, which he chooses.
you are becoming an interesting dude
 
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sex is not a baramter of how manly you are or of sexuality actually. That's what uninspired people to feel good about themselves. "I fvck my wife, I'm a man!" every guy here likes sex. you aren't gay. I would even say you are ahead of the curve because you have the ability to curve your sex drive to want to do other things.
Do homosexuals not possess the ability to enjoy sexual intercourse?
 

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Strelok said:
I think that if men had a lower sex drive we would have no use for most women at all,you probably lack the sex drive and the need for validation.
That's not true. I have a very low sex drive and don't have any need to prove myself by getting certain women, but I still want a girlfriend I'm attracted to who I can kiss/touch, hang out with, have good conversations with.

I will admit though with the low sex drive life has been MUCH easier. You don't even notice AWs or stereotypically hot girls anymore. If you notice a girl, it's because you're honestly attracted to her. It's great.
 
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