My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and we were together for one year and even though I am coping a bit better there is still this big void and I am trying and trying to fill it up and the only thing I know that will is her, but I cant have her anymore.
Im taking pills and seeing a therapist because I spiraled into serious depression and he is helping me out of it.
My main questions is
How can you make yourself happy being single again?
A little background information about me.
I am a shy guy yet I have had three relationships up to this point this being my third, I am 24 years old.
I am having a hard time being happy because I am socially isolated I have all of maybe two friends at most. My skills at talking to new people are very limited and this makes me feel cut off from the world.
When I had her in my life I had someone to explore the world with, somebody to feel loved and always felt like someone was there when i felt a bit lonely. I didnt feel disconnected from the world. I could call her up and go to the city or we could sit next to each other and just fall asleep and I would feel good in that deep inner part of me.
I am not talking about ego feeling good like "yeah I got a girlfriend who is hot" but more of that "damn I feel loved and safe and I can trust this person to love me" more like what you feel around really close family and friends.
She had lot of the traits that I liked and she was the most attractive girl that I have dated so far. Combined with my limited skills in socializing when I met her I felt like I hit the lottery and I was very happy.
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Now all of these feelings are wrong because I've done my study and I see how being dependent on others for happiness is wrong and you need to be the rock in the relationship. So I know a bit about what I did wrong.
But my question is really how do you go about FEELING happy, not you are SUPPOSED to be happy but how do I START feeling happy inside my body?
How can I feel the same good feelings that I did when I was with her?
How can I feel les isolated and connected with the world like when I was with her?
Thanks guys
Im taking pills and seeing a therapist because I spiraled into serious depression and he is helping me out of it.
My main questions is
How can you make yourself happy being single again?
A little background information about me.
I am a shy guy yet I have had three relationships up to this point this being my third, I am 24 years old.
I am having a hard time being happy because I am socially isolated I have all of maybe two friends at most. My skills at talking to new people are very limited and this makes me feel cut off from the world.
When I had her in my life I had someone to explore the world with, somebody to feel loved and always felt like someone was there when i felt a bit lonely. I didnt feel disconnected from the world. I could call her up and go to the city or we could sit next to each other and just fall asleep and I would feel good in that deep inner part of me.
I am not talking about ego feeling good like "yeah I got a girlfriend who is hot" but more of that "damn I feel loved and safe and I can trust this person to love me" more like what you feel around really close family and friends.
She had lot of the traits that I liked and she was the most attractive girl that I have dated so far. Combined with my limited skills in socializing when I met her I felt like I hit the lottery and I was very happy.
----
Now all of these feelings are wrong because I've done my study and I see how being dependent on others for happiness is wrong and you need to be the rock in the relationship. So I know a bit about what I did wrong.
But my question is really how do you go about FEELING happy, not you are SUPPOSED to be happy but how do I START feeling happy inside my body?
How can I feel the same good feelings that I did when I was with her?
How can I feel les isolated and connected with the world like when I was with her?
Thanks guys