i could steal my friend's crush

[IceBreaker]

theres this hot girl, that likes my friend alot (let's call him pat). the only reason pat didn't go out with her then, was becuase he had a girlfriend (gf). but now he doesn't have his gf anymore and she's spent enough time with me (2 weeks, and only at school too) to develope a crush with me, and not him anymore.

i can see a connection but i don't see the attraction of her for him, in her eyes anymore. but he's starting to really like her.

do you guys think i should take her anyways, he's been a really good friend to me; and i've given him enough time to attract her again, but he hasn't pulled the trigger.

i know i can sweep her off her feet in a couple of minutes, then ask her out to the mall, then close the deal.

the only reason i'm holding back is becuase there's two other girls that also like me, and i'm just stuck deciding who i should pick... but damn, if he doesn't do something to his crush, then he's going to lose her pretty quick. i feel bad, cuss he's a very loyal friend... i asked him about her, and he hasn't decided yet. do you guys think that's immoral?

 

[Crazy Asian]

depends.
which is more important?
a couple of nights with that girl or you friend?
decide which one is worth more to you.
and you'll have your answer.

 

[KontrollerX]

Crazy Asian said it best.

Don't throw away a good friendship over some girl.

Girlfriends come and go but good friendships are for life.

 

[Master Bates]

Crazy Asian said it best.

Don't throw away a good friendship over some girl.

Girlfriends come and go but good friendships are for life.

Then again, if he's seriously considering something that he thinks may ruin his friendship, is that it good of a friendship to begin with?

 

[IceBreaker]

he's so slow with her, he isn't even sure if he really likes her or not. i mean, it's not even trivial, it's a difference of does he think she is cute, or he doesn't...

but on the other side, i should give him a chance, and your right, good friends are for life (or a little bit longer than a girl friend)... sooo.. i'm still on the edge. should i give him more time?

"Then again, if he's seriously considering something that he thinks may ruin his friendship, is that it good of a friendship to begin with?"

well, friends in my area, arn't very loyal, like, we make and lose them all the time. i donno, he has been good, i feel this guilt if i do think about doing it. Although he's pretty decent with women, it's not like he's an afc, so i can't understand why he would be on the edge..

 

[Bible_Belt]

You have to choose between him and her. He will never forget it if you take a girl he likes.

What's that saying? Bros before ____?

 

[wuddupboy]

He should understand she wants You now, it shouldn't matter to him unless he's desperate for a girl. He was with one while she wanted him, so he didn't do anything about it, now you got your chance and you want to give it to him? He shouldn't mind about it, if so.. then i don't think he's really that a good of a friend

If he really treat you as a friend he would just let you take her, he had his fun with the last girl lol.. sorry, rough night, pretty tired, hope i made sense though.

 

[Jukeboxhero]

Ok, so let me this straight.

You're friend is a rare catch, a good and loyal friend that you don't have many of...probably your best friend right now.

He likes this girl and probably doesn't have many others going for him, but you have a total of 3 to choose from. Even if it doesn't totally destroy your friendship, I'm sure it would piss him off a little. Why not just go with one of the other 2 girls?
Here's what I would do

1. Talk to your friend. Let him know he needs to move fast or she'll find someone else she likes and get hooked up with them. You can even be up front and say she's starting to dig you or whatever, but that's optional.
2. If you think you can help him get her, why not? You've got 2 backups.
3. Even if he doesn't go for her and/or she completely loses interest, I would go for one of the other 2 chicks. Seriously, good friends are hard to come by and you never know how long they'll be around.
4. However, if he straight up tells you he doesn't really care for her, then I'd say you could try to go for it...I would tell him about that first though...to make sure he isn't just "acting" nonchalant like guys do sometimes.
P.s. Sorry if the last comment doesn't make sense. I recently lost a good friend and he was only 22yrs old! Pretty much my best friend at work. Had a couple of days off and when I came back, I found out he died from a seizure while he was sleeping. He was an awesome DJ who also happened to be a D.J. and was always trying to help me improve myself, socially and intellectually....

So seriously man, There will always be more girls. Loyal friends are much harder to come by and probably a much better investment in the long run.

Anyways, do what you will, it's your call.

 

[The Eurasian]

I used to be in your friends position a few years back when i was severely AFC. My good friend ended up dating the girl cause I wasn't able to attract her. I was pissed off for a bit but eventually came to my senses. Learn't a harsh lesson from him and I happy that he ended up going out with the chick. (three weeks later he dumped her and went out with her best friend LOL)

 

[Bible_Belt]

nose? chose? Bose? Moe's? woes? Something like that.

 

[Randallpink83]

yeah don't throw a friendship away over a girl...


...unless you think he would do it to you in your situation... It really all boils down to how good a friend he is.

But then again if he aint sealing the deal then somebody should.

..another thing to consider is, you might not even be hurting him. He could be reasonable and realize he was out, so you might as well as be in. Feel this one out for yourself, and above all, please yourself and do what YOU want.

 

[Incremental]

He hasn't pulled the trigger, no reason you shouldn't. If he gets pissed off about that then he would get pissed about something else later.

Here's a dumb question, why are you trying to pick only one? More options means a better decision and better future for you. Take them all out, and give attention appropriately to the one you like the most. Don't focus on just one and keep your head about you.

 

[IceBreaker]

lol. thx for all the imput. i'm not good enough to date all of them
becuase i've never done that before, and they all go to my school.
plus, i have my own different social circles, if i do that, most of the
people i talk to won't know whats going on, then label me as player
(and dangerous)

he's a good friend, when we're around chicks, he tends to ignore me.
but he is a good guy. he pays for my food when i out of money, and
is very loyal, but just not around girls he's not. Not only that, my other
good friend (there's 4 of us, our group is usually bigger anyways) is
an afc, and he tries to flirt with her, but no success, we just politely
ignore that fact lol, he can't see what we see anyways (but i could
see natural skills in him, he doesn't read the game or anything, but
he has these great routines he uses, i bet if he tweaked them out,
it would be kick ass!). and the other guy, who is ok with women
sabatoge and usually lower my social value without know it!!!

but then again, i try to keep my "best friends" (all four of them)
pretty close, and losing pat would be a downer... it seems like
i'm the only one acting normal in the group when someone pretty
comes into it(prob y she likes me) (my friends become less smooth
around pretty women). it seems like me and him are the only
one who really sees whats going on. i also think he looks at me
as if i'm competition. which is cool, cuss i'm ugly, and he got
accepted by this model agency website.

back to my point. you guys made a good point, bro's before
hoes. becuase if i choose the girl, the fun only last for a while,
but with my friends, the fun never ends. until women complicate
my fun. lol.

thx for ur imput guys.

p.s. you guys seem to have kick ass friends! where do you live?!
and this website seems to approach alot of hot women too! and
some people are approaching like 5-10 times a day!!! (ok, i made
that up. lol, but i sounds like that) i can barely find 3 on a good
day.

p.p.s. where's a good place to approach, i'm not 18, so no bars and
clubs, but where's a good place to hang out, and meet women?
give me all the places YOU go to for fun.

 

[Rash]

if you or him don't act up you will both lose her for another guy.

 

[WesCottII]

Uggh. I had this happen to me.

When I was AFC and couldn't attract women, I had a thing for this girl, who, naturally didn't have a thing for me. My mate slept with her even though he knew I liked her. I've never been cool with him since.

 

[wuddupboy]

lol. thx for all the imput. i'm not good enough to date all of them
becuase i've never done that before, and they all go to my school.
plus, i have my own different social circles, if i do that, most of the
people i talk to won't know whats going on, then label me as player
(and dangerous)

he's a good friend, when we're around chicks, he tends to ignore me.
but he is a good guy. he pays for my food when i out of money, and
is very loyal, but just not around girls he's not. Not only that, my other
good friend (there's 4 of us, our group is usually bigger anyways) is
an afc, and he tries to flirt with her, but no success, we just politely
ignore that fact lol, he can't see what we see anyways (but i could
see natural skills in him, he doesn't read the game or anything, but
he has these great routines he uses, i bet if he tweaked them out,
it would be kick ass!). and the other guy, who is ok with women
sabatoge and usually lower my social value without know it!!!

but then again, i try to keep my "best friends" (all four of them)
pretty close, and losing pat would be a downer... it seems like
i'm the only one acting normal in the group when someone pretty
comes into it(prob y she likes me) (my friends become less smooth
around pretty women). it seems like me and him are the only
one who really sees whats going on. i also think he looks at me
as if i'm competition. which is cool, cuss i'm ugly, and he got
accepted by this model agency website.

back to my point. you guys made a good point, bro's before
hoes. becuase if i choose the girl, the fun only last for a while,
but with my friends, the fun never ends. until women complicate
my fun. lol.

thx for ur imput guys.

p.s. you guys seem to have kick ass friends! where do you live?!
and this website seems to approach alot of hot women too! and
some people are approaching like 5-10 times a day!!! (ok, i made
that up. lol, but i sounds like that) i can barely find 3 on a good
day.

p.p.s. where's a good place to approach, i'm not 18, so no bars and
clubs, but where's a good place to hang out, and meet women?
give me all the places YOU go to for fun.

Park, Shopping centers, streets, anywhere actually =P I like the park though, gives me an excuse to go around challenging girls =p