Awesome replies.
Productive exchange. Wonderful, guys.
It has been advocated that one must be formless, like water. Once you understand, you break it down into your own form, and maintain now predictability, because life affords you no predictability.
What works on one girl, won't work on another. And what works on this girl, won't work on that. Just as certain things are appealing to us men, certain things are not.
I have friends who are very into skinny, skinny girls, like B cups or less, with near 0 waists. Whereas, I'm more into the hourglass, nice azz, hips, combo.
Some of the most random stuff works, for the most UNKNOWN reasons. And what always got me was...THIS IS LIFE.
LIFE has no grandplan except that of enjoyment, so why should you have such a grand scheme over women? Your goal is to meet girl for whatever your needs are, either long or short-term. Well, if you're going long-term, don't you want her to be cool, fun, worth your time, cute, tolerable, playful, open-minded? If she were so rigid to expect specific behaviors, would you desire to be with her?
This isn't a play where its scripted. One can't be working and trying to concoct the next move with a girl. Guys who have it natural let it flow from within. They give into life, they don't fight the feelings.
And I read a great quote about "jerks" (though I dislike the title), it went something like:
Jerks get so many women because they enjoy their lives. Why would a girl who is so desired by so many men settle for anything less? That, and if she dates someone somewhat wild, her own wildness is hidden by his. No matter, she will always know he's wild, and therefore she will remain morally higher than him without any fear of guilt or derision by friends.
That should be a big awakening for people, and a great logical/emotional basis for WHY you're here and WHY sterile guys who loathe their lives don't succeed.
Would anyone who doesn't appreciate the life they've been given find happiness anywhere else?
I have friends who are so self-consumed by their own misery, their parents, the job they currently have, the girls they've lost, that they're stuck in the past and can't value what friendships they DO have, what talents they DO have, what opportunities are there if they TAKE them, and it becomes a perpetual downward cycle.
THE MINUTE YOU FEEL DOWN, you MUST GET UP AND DO SOMETHING TO MOVE YOUR SELF FORWARD OR MAKE YOU HAPPY.
Absolutely. If a girl irks you, and they will, go lift, go take a ride, surf the net, anything to create a positive feeling.
Why?
Because life will throw MILLIONS of set backs at you, and if you stay down everytime something occurs, then you won't get ahead like you want to.
The realness people are exhibiting here would do them well in the real world, with women and friends, and careers. Yet, only now do they drop their idealism and perceptions for a more open-minded approach.
A-Unit