Night-hawk
Master Don Juan
You no longer have the burden dealing with a debaucherous stuntress. Better to pluck at the roots with certainty then nip a few buds, because although some doubt raises, you know the blight will come inevitably.
Only a low quality woman, or a woman with low IL would want to do something like attending a fetish party with a male "friend" while in a relationship. Either way, you made the right choice.Desdinova said:I wasn't losing frame, but I was a bit worried about the quality of this woman from early on. She comes from a good family and stuff, so that's what made me keep her around, at least for a while.
It just hit me like a brick. Why on earth would a woman think it was even remotely okay? If we weren't exclusive, it wouldn't have bothered me. But we were official. There's restrictions that come with being exclusive. She kept trying to justify that it was "socializing" and that she "just asked a question". No consideration for how I was feeling about the whole thing.
Low quality woman in a high quality disguise.
Bro I think you need a major upgrade in your social circle and the type of girls you are dating. Your ex wife AND this girl are both attending a fetish party? What are the odds of that? I don't think I have ever dated a girl who would attend one and you have two going. I know for 100% fact that my fiance would never attend one even if you paid her good money to go. It is just so far out of her personality and what she does that it would be twilight zone material if she did go.Desdinova said:She did invite me, and I told her I wasn't interested in going, mainly because I know my ex-wife attends, but I also have no desire to strut around in something that's intended for only her to see.
So then she asked if I minded if she went with a male friend. I wouldn't have minded if it were a female friend. However, I see it as her intentionally being a c0ck tease.
Even a stripper gets more respect from me. At least she dances naked in front of guys who are NOT her friends, and gets paid to do it.
This wasn't planned nor even suspected. I just found out all this 5hit about this girl starting last Sunday, and we've been together for five months. We went to a sex toy show (her suggestion) where a bunch of vendors get together and sell stuff. I figured it could make our sex life more fun, and I assisted her in choosing some new lingerie. I didn't know it would open the flood gates. After spending some time with her at this thing, I started getting the distinct feeling that this chick had just as many, if not more sex partners than me. As for my ex-wife, she didn't get into this stuff until we were two years into our marriage.cordoncordon said:Bro I think you need a major upgrade in your social circle and the type of girls you are dating. Your ex wife AND this girl are both attending a fetish party? What are the odds of that?
You showed an incredible amount of self control in not moving your own boundaries to keep banging a hot woman.Desdinova said:I think a woman should have an emotional knee-jerk reaction when an idea enters her head that could put her relationship in jeopardy. This girl doesn't seem to possess that mechanism. If she doesn't have that, then she's much more likely to destroy the relationship with her bad decisions.
Desdinova said:All she did was stand her ground that she was doing nothing wrong, and that I was too quick to pull the trigger from her just asking a question. She also stated that she can't change who she is, and that people have to accept every part of her personality.
I didn't pick her up in a bar. She was an aquaintance's ex.Cordon has a point. Maybe it's time to stop picking up girls in the bar scene.
There's been a few things that have raised my eyebrows and made me wonder if she was a good choice. Her justifying that it wasn't disrespectful going to the ball with a single male friend set off sirens in my head that said "Get the fvck out of this!" Maybe I'll post the texts later.Just curious how you handled the actual break up conversation, you're being kinda vague about it.
I can't be justified in wasting my time with a 5hitty woman. There's too many other ones out there that could potentially be better.Most men will NEVER understand what you're going through, because most men will NEVER be in a situation where they CHOOSE to release a woman because she doesn't live up to his standards.
But hey, you had five good months with her, right?Furthermore, I believe the way she handled this situation is a red flag. It reeks of commitment issues and an inability to form healthy relationships.
Yeah, I'm still feeling kinda crummy over this whole thing. She had a lot of good qualities that I want in a woman. But the qualities she had that I don't want are the ones that messed it up. The last few days brought out a lot of her true personality, and it really turned me off.taiyuu_otoko said:Unless she was busily trying to stab you in the eye with an ice pick while you were enjoying her slippery v-jay, there's gonna be parts of her that you miss.
You must always be ready to walk away from any relationship.Scormus said:Does downgrading a GF to a plate work all that well?
Won't they not want to see you anymore out of hurt and principle?
My sentiments as well.G_Govan said:I will reiterate that you've shown strong character and mental strength in letting her go. Our sexual drive causes us to make decisions that aren't always in our own best interests and I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir when I say it can be hard as f-ck to resist the urge to throw logic to the wayside when you're with an attractive woman.