ElStud said:
Well, how do you speak in statements?
Ex:
HB: I like traveling
El: "Where have you been?"
HB: I've been to A, B, C etc (places)
El: Really I was in A too.....blah blah blah ...and off you go.......
HB: When I went there ....blah blah blah
Notice, you didn’t ask her really what happened when she went there. She gave the info to you without even asking for it. Find commonalities with people.
As the
Godfather (novel) goes:
Rajione with a person (which means
rejoin with them, empathies with them, feel pity for them etc.).
Another way is:
HB: I like traveling
El: “Where have you been?"
HB: I've been to A, B, C etc (places)
El:" Really, how did going to this place make you feel?
HB: Blah blah...
El: What if ... (For example she says she went to a hill station, where it rained.)...what if... imagine, you are on the top of the hill, with the clear night sky above you, and he valley below...and suddenly you head he growl of a lion?
(The main point of the lion was to introduce a little twist and to make it exciting: Note his is not Field tested yet)
Dude, I can't tell good stories.
You haven’t told how you felt in hose stories...be more emotive.
Women are emotional creatures. They love feeling to logic
BTW: did you read up the articles I asked you too????
If not go to themysteymethod.com/forum and look up Best of forum and Classic writings, miscellaneous section.....and read up all of it... that site is
GOLD....
I'm posting a small part from
jugglers post(you can subscribe to it online@ charismaarts.com) :
If you ask a personal question out of the blue you will put her
on the defensive. Unfortunately many guys do that.
Man: "Where are you from?"
Woman: "Uh... I'm from in town."
Man: "Come on, you must live somewhere."
Woman: "Uh... I'd rather not say."
Man: "Oh, okay."
Woman: "I have to go, bye."
I hear this sort of thing all the time. This happens even when
the woman likes the man. Somehow the man still goofs it up. He
walks away frustrated and presuming that he showed too much
interest in her. But he has made a logical error. His mistake
was he asked her a question which had no reasonable interest
behind it. "Where are you from?" makes her uneasy because she
wants to know, "Why do you want to know?" But of course she is
too polite to say that, so she just gives a non-committal answer.
That answer is so non-committal that our guy does not know what
to do with it except demand she give him a better one. She then
totally closes up and wants to get away from him. This happens
to men who have the best of intentions.
In order to make a woman feel comfortable answering a personal
question you must tell her why you want to know. If you recall
from the last lesson, that is the first part of effective
escalation and asking a personal question is escalation: from a
platonic to a personal interaction.
Man: "I'm enjoying talking with you. Don't get a big head but
you seem too cool to be from around here. Where are you from?"
Woman: "I'm from a little neighborhood in the city called
Abbott's Junction. People say we have an accent."
Man: "That's funny. I get the same thing from people who have
lived in my town their entire lives."
Much better. Our man demonstrates why he is escalating to a
personal interaction. He tells her directly why he is asking a
personal question. This makes her feel comfortable answering.
Her answer is committed and full. This in turn makes it easy for
our guy to relate to her. The same thing happens every time you
escalate the interaction towards a more intimate stage. In order
for her to feel comfortable she wants to know why you want to go
there. So, tell her.
You: "I am enjoying talking with you. I never thought I would
meet someone who likes cactus cantaloupe like me. I have to know
about you now. What's your life story?"
Her: (laughing) "That's a big question. Where to begin (more
laughing)..."
You: "I'll tell you what. What are you doing for the next five
minutes? Let's sit down and have a cup of coffee and I can get
to hear all about it."
Her: "Sure, that sounds nice."
Don't be afraid of to show interest in a woman so long as it is
grounded in a good reason. Then you are not just trying to
escalate with her because she is attractive. You are escalating
because she has done or said something unique.