TheFlyingMan
Don Juan
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Hey guys,
I'm just wondering what the Alpha way to handle this situation with my recent ex would have been.
Background: She's got very low self esteem. She's a HB8, but needs validation to the point that on my birthday, I left the club early cos I got drunk, and she stayed behind and grinded other guys and held hands with them to get them to buy her drinks. Obviously half the people in the club were my friends, and they told me.
I calmly told her I would not take this kind of behaviour and I wanted never to see her again. She came to my house at 4am, crying, and in a moment of weakness I took her back.
OK the argument: When her ex-bf came back and asked her for dinner, she agreed and told me. I said "Thanks for telling me. If I found out from someone else, I'll probably be upset." No sarcasm or anything at all, it was genuine.
She went off the hook for hours. We were sitting in my car. The argument went like this:
"You're implying you're my master."
"I never said I was your master, I never meant I was your master."
"You're implying I have to tell you everything."
"I never said that, I never meant that, all I meant was Thank you."
"You're not my master!"
"I never said I was..." ETC ETC ETC
This went on for hours, and I kept my cool the whole time, but once I had to leave the car cos I was nearly on the verge of exploding.
Just wondering how a real Alpha would have handled it.
(if you're wondering what happened, she started another dumb fight like this, once every few days, after a while I exploded and started shouting. I apologised, she rubs it in my face, then I exploded again, and that was that. Total relationship period: 5 weeks - and more drama then I ever had in all my other relationships)
I'm just wondering what the Alpha way to handle this situation with my recent ex would have been.
Background: She's got very low self esteem. She's a HB8, but needs validation to the point that on my birthday, I left the club early cos I got drunk, and she stayed behind and grinded other guys and held hands with them to get them to buy her drinks. Obviously half the people in the club were my friends, and they told me.
I calmly told her I would not take this kind of behaviour and I wanted never to see her again. She came to my house at 4am, crying, and in a moment of weakness I took her back.
OK the argument: When her ex-bf came back and asked her for dinner, she agreed and told me. I said "Thanks for telling me. If I found out from someone else, I'll probably be upset." No sarcasm or anything at all, it was genuine.
She went off the hook for hours. We were sitting in my car. The argument went like this:
"You're implying you're my master."
"I never said I was your master, I never meant I was your master."
"You're implying I have to tell you everything."
"I never said that, I never meant that, all I meant was Thank you."
"You're not my master!"
"I never said I was..." ETC ETC ETC
This went on for hours, and I kept my cool the whole time, but once I had to leave the car cos I was nearly on the verge of exploding.
Just wondering how a real Alpha would have handled it.
(if you're wondering what happened, she started another dumb fight like this, once every few days, after a while I exploded and started shouting. I apologised, she rubs it in my face, then I exploded again, and that was that. Total relationship period: 5 weeks - and more drama then I ever had in all my other relationships)