Single most problem you can probably have is obsessing over someone. If they deny you, it hurts even worse.
This is why you can surf on over to match.com and be on your way to being happy.
Some ground rules:
- Any girl on there receives hundreds of emails a day.
- There are not the greatest of people on the site, of both genders.
That being said, here's how to approach it:
1) Create a profile. Keep it fairly simple, with a witty description. Make sure to include a picture. People have said that girls don't go searching for your profile.. and that's true. BUT, if you write to them, they will look at your profile before they respond back to you. They're curious, and they want to assure themselves that you at least spent the time to come up with a nice profile.
2) Girls that e-mail you are like ones that walk up to you and give you their number. Yikes.
3) Your first e-mail has to be witty, short, and sweet. Most guys talk like jerks, or act all macho, aerogant etc. Make sure to include some personalized info related to her profile. Try to logon twice a week (Sunday and Wednesday) and e-mail about 20-30 girls each time. Keep a list, e-mailing the same girl twice reads moron/psycho. You don't want to get hung up on one girl, so KEEP THE LIST BIG! You want soulmate.
4) Despite the fact that you don't want to reply to her response immediately (like calling the next day after a date)... you probably should. Why do you ask? Because she will forget you if you wait a week. Say something like, traditional society suggests I wait a while before replying, but I'm not in the mood for games...
5) Talking on the phone and instant messaging is okay. I would recommend a little instant messaging before the phone. I've read on here that you don't want to be her "online buddy." This is sorta true.. don't harass her online, IM'ing "hey what's up" all the time. Rather, see what times she is usually available and say what's up then.
6) Meet in a public place on your first date, lunches are good. If you bring a rose, hide it in your car or whatever until the end of the date. If it was truely a match made in heaven, you can give it to her at the end.
Why use match.com? Because trying to work on skills in real life is painful. We all know this. While you're busy working on those humor skills, eye contact and what not... you can be doing that at the mall, flirting with cashiers, while you then go home and try to find women who are actually interested.
This is why you can surf on over to match.com and be on your way to being happy.
Some ground rules:
- Any girl on there receives hundreds of emails a day.
- There are not the greatest of people on the site, of both genders.
That being said, here's how to approach it:
1) Create a profile. Keep it fairly simple, with a witty description. Make sure to include a picture. People have said that girls don't go searching for your profile.. and that's true. BUT, if you write to them, they will look at your profile before they respond back to you. They're curious, and they want to assure themselves that you at least spent the time to come up with a nice profile.
2) Girls that e-mail you are like ones that walk up to you and give you their number. Yikes.
3) Your first e-mail has to be witty, short, and sweet. Most guys talk like jerks, or act all macho, aerogant etc. Make sure to include some personalized info related to her profile. Try to logon twice a week (Sunday and Wednesday) and e-mail about 20-30 girls each time. Keep a list, e-mailing the same girl twice reads moron/psycho. You don't want to get hung up on one girl, so KEEP THE LIST BIG! You want soulmate.
4) Despite the fact that you don't want to reply to her response immediately (like calling the next day after a date)... you probably should. Why do you ask? Because she will forget you if you wait a week. Say something like, traditional society suggests I wait a while before replying, but I'm not in the mood for games...
5) Talking on the phone and instant messaging is okay. I would recommend a little instant messaging before the phone. I've read on here that you don't want to be her "online buddy." This is sorta true.. don't harass her online, IM'ing "hey what's up" all the time. Rather, see what times she is usually available and say what's up then.
6) Meet in a public place on your first date, lunches are good. If you bring a rose, hide it in your car or whatever until the end of the date. If it was truely a match made in heaven, you can give it to her at the end.
Why use match.com? Because trying to work on skills in real life is painful. We all know this. While you're busy working on those humor skills, eye contact and what not... you can be doing that at the mall, flirting with cashiers, while you then go home and try to find women who are actually interested.
