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Well, I haven't posted here in a while, but I never really posted much at all. Still, I did make it into the DJ Bible, and my DJ Bible post is a "must read" at that. I'm quite proud of this.
Anyway, the girl in that DJ Bible post went on to become my wife. It's funny because I wasn't interested in her much at first, but over time, my attraction grew significantly, and we eventually got married. I wrote that post nearly ten years ago, and she's still my wife for now. She won't be for much longer. It's ending.
That's not what my problem is. The problem is that I met a new woman much sooner than I thought I would (because I approached her without fear, knowing she would be mine; that is, I just went ahead and started interacting with her). If I didn't know better, I would have a serious case of oneitis over this new lady, but I keep that feeling in check.
Here's the issue: so far, I've kept her in the dark regarding my situation. We've only been on one date, but as far as she knows, I'm single and I've never been married. I do not know how she'll react to learning that not only have I been married once, but the divorce is still not final yet.
How do I share this with her? And when should I do so? Gentlemen, I need your wisdom, particularly if you have dealt with this issue yourselves. It's not so hard to get back in the game when you have DJ knowledge (it's like riding a bike - even after ten years, I haven't forgotten), but this is a very difficult situation for which I was not prepared.
Well, I haven't posted here in a while, but I never really posted much at all. Still, I did make it into the DJ Bible, and my DJ Bible post is a "must read" at that. I'm quite proud of this.
Anyway, the girl in that DJ Bible post went on to become my wife. It's funny because I wasn't interested in her much at first, but over time, my attraction grew significantly, and we eventually got married. I wrote that post nearly ten years ago, and she's still my wife for now. She won't be for much longer. It's ending.
That's not what my problem is. The problem is that I met a new woman much sooner than I thought I would (because I approached her without fear, knowing she would be mine; that is, I just went ahead and started interacting with her). If I didn't know better, I would have a serious case of oneitis over this new lady, but I keep that feeling in check.
Here's the issue: so far, I've kept her in the dark regarding my situation. We've only been on one date, but as far as she knows, I'm single and I've never been married. I do not know how she'll react to learning that not only have I been married once, but the divorce is still not final yet.
How do I share this with her? And when should I do so? Gentlemen, I need your wisdom, particularly if you have dealt with this issue yourselves. It's not so hard to get back in the game when you have DJ knowledge (it's like riding a bike - even after ten years, I haven't forgotten), but this is a very difficult situation for which I was not prepared.