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How to stop masterbation?

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Yeah that's right.

I'm 16, so clearly masterbation is a problem, however I find it rather hard to go even 24 hours without it, on any given day I might masterbate 7 or 8 times. Testosterone is a useful hormone, I being 16 create a considerable amount, and I want to keep it. However masterbation means I lose it. I don't enjoy it, and i want to stop. Any tips on how?
 

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Melen said:
Yeah that's right.

I'm 16, so clearly masterbation is a problem, however I find it rather hard to go even 24 hours without it, on any given day I might masterbate 7 or 8 times. Testosterone is a useful hormone, I being 16 create a considerable amount, and I want to keep it. However masterbation means I lose it. I don't enjoy it, and i want to stop. Any tips on how?
Trying to stop masturbating at 16 sounds like torture! I'd start with reducing the amount of times per day to just once, and then when you get the urge to do it, do pushups or something physical instead.

Oh, and the whole "masturbating makes you lose testosterone" is complete BS. I've masturbated before going to the gym and wound up lifting more than I'd ever lifted before. I've done it before dates and was still aggressive and on my game. It's purely mental. If you believe masturbating will affect your testosterone, then your brain will make it come true.
 

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In Spanish there's a saying that goes "El ocio es la madre de todos los vicios" (something like Leisure is the mother of all vices). Find something to do (go play outside, hang out with your friends, be an active kid!) and your frequency should go down.

Though you can't stop. You're 16!! :eek:
 

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The guy is right in his desire to stop masturbating, because he is 16 he needs to limit it, that age is the age where you start having experience with girls and if you dont have the necessary sex drive (because you satisfied with your hand) you risk of giving up at the first sign of disinterest from a girl.

Motivation is 50% of the success not only in sex.
 

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I'm going to disagree with the majority here. You need to curb down your masturbation. I'm not saying you should stop, but if you're able to masturbate 6-8 times a day, that means you're spending too much time by yourself at home (unless you're masturbating in public places). Staying home is what's unhealthy, not the masturbation.

If you have the energy to masturbate 8 times a day, you have the energy to do a LOT of other things that can make you grow as a person. Pick up a hobby, anything that makes you excited. Dancing, weightlifting, piano playing, looting shops.

Channel that energy somewhere else, not because masturbation is evil, but because that sexual energy can help you do awesome things.

If you stop for 24 hours what do you feel? like an intense adrenaline rush in your lower stomach, right? for me, at 16, stopping masturbation meant going on a manic state and being able to do almost anything that I wanted. It meant being the life of the party. Making all the girls laugh with my witty jokes. My brain ran at 1000x when I didn't masturbate. I have been trying to regain that feeling with artificial stimulants now that I'm 29 with no luck.
 

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You're definitely overdoing it. As someone mentioned, you don't want to satisfy your self enough that you're not out there looking for girls.

Step 1) Limit your self to "ONLY" doing it once a day. So, make it count when you do it lol.

After a few weeks, try doing it every other day for a while just to see how you feel, and in the meantime, try to find girls that you can actually fvck rather than you just masturbating.

A lot of guys rely heavily on masturbating and do it so often that when they finally do get a "chance" to have sex with the girl, they get these erection problems. Well, part of the problem is that you're just so used to jerking off and your body is almost trained to get off like this.

Guys get in front of a naked women, and lose wood, and then come and post here asking how come they have problems getting hard with a naked woman. Well STOP WATCHING PORN AND JERKING OFF ALL DAMN DAY LONG!!!

Get to the point where you are having sex with girls (use condoms of course), and get your nut in that way. On the days that you are not, limit your jerk to ONLY once a day!!

And going a long time without jerking off can also increase your need for sex enough to get you out there and approaching girls lol, so you can also use it as your motivation tactic if you have any kind of "approach anxiety".
 

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There was once a thread dedicated to this topic, which has not been active for a while. Internet porn has made a good portion of the male population slaves to this addiction. Mystery advotates once per week. I have going a few weeks can be rewarding, it can be a mission no matter how old you are.
 

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Melen said:
Yeah that's right.

I'm 16, so clearly masterbation is a problem, however I find it rather hard to go even 24 hours without it, on any given day I might masterbate 7 or 8 times. Testosterone is a useful hormone, I being 16 create a considerable amount, and I want to keep it. However masterbation means I lose it. I don't enjoy it, and i want to stop. Any tips on how?
You don't lose testosterone when you masturbate. That's some pseudoscience bull****.

You do lower your dopamine levels though and heavily rewire your reward pathway in the brain
 

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get laid , once you do you wont want to do it your self unless your lazy or out of gas lol ,
 

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cupraikso said:
I'm going to disagree with the majority here. You need to curb down your masturbation. I'm not saying you should stop, but if you're able to masturbate 6-8 times a day, that means you're spending too much time by yourself at home (unless you're masturbating in public places). Staying home is what's unhealthy, not the masturbation.

If you have the energy to masturbate 8 times a day, you have the energy to do a LOT of other things that can make you grow as a person. Pick up a hobby, anything that makes you excited. Dancing, weightlifting, piano playing, looting shops.

Channel that energy somewhere else, not because masturbation is evil, but because that sexual energy can help you do awesome things.

If you stop for 24 hours what do you feel? like an intense adrenaline rush in your lower stomach, right? for me, at 16, stopping masturbation meant going on a manic state and being able to do almost anything that I wanted. It meant being the life of the party. Making all the girls laugh with my witty jokes. My brain ran at 1000x when I didn't masturbate. I have been trying to regain that feeling with artificial stimulants now that I'm 29 with no luck.
I'm going to agree with this. Nearly everyone goes through the stage you're going through, and it is the staying at home all day that's the problem rather than the masturbation. Cut it down to twice a day, one in the morning and one at night. If you just do things with your day you'll find you won't have to consciously do it either. Start off with going to the gym, I know it kills you at the time but for the rest of the day you feel so much better, more pumped up and healthier. And if you start now and make a habit out of it you'll thank yourself later.
 

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There are no logical reasons to ever stop masturbating. Masturbation feels good, doesn't cost any money, doesn't take much effort and you can't catch any diseases. There is no downside to it.
 

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PappyS said:
There are no logical reasons to ever stop masturbating. Masturbation feels good, doesn't cost any money, doesn't take much effort and you can't catch any diseases. There is no downside to it.
So feeling like sh!t isn't a downside? If you overmasturbate, you will feel like sh!t.
 

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Energy25 said:
So feeling like sh!t isn't a downside? If you overmasturbate, you will feel like sh!t.
I'd also disagree, I did it 8 times in a row once and experienced things recreational drugs couldn't compete with. And just generally if it's done a lot in a day then all day I'll feel happy and relaxed like SJC mentioned. I liken it to a parallel of being stoned, where one's cannabis high is like melting down into one's bed and the post-orgasm high is like floating and gliding through the air.

I don't really know the do's and don't's about mentioning this kind of thing so I apologise if I offend anyone and I hope the wrong kind of assumptions aren't made.
 
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CoolBlue said:
You don't lose testosterone when you masturbate. That's some pseudoscience bull****.

You do lower your dopamine levels though and heavily rewire your reward pathway in the brain
Is there evidence of this? Sh1t having low dopamine levels and having that affect your brain is WAY worse than losing testosterone.

Good thing I have that under control:up:
 

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To stop it you need to realize how miserable your life is around women after you jerk off.
 

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CuriousGirl said:
I'd also disagree, I did it 8 times in a row once and experienced things recreational drugs couldn't compete with. And just generally if it's done a lot in a day then all day I'll feel happy and relaxed like SJC mentioned. I liken it to a parallel of being stoned, where one's cannabis high is like melting down into one's bed and the post-orgasm high is like floating and gliding through the air.

I don't really know the do's and don't's about mentioning this kind of thing so I apologise if I offend anyone and I hope the wrong kind of assumptions aren't made.
To each their own I guess....I prefer to feel like I'm truly alive, with energy and fun to bring to girls.
 
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CuriousGirl said:
I'd also disagree, I did it 8 times in a row once and experienced things recreational drugs couldn't compete with. And just generally if it's done a lot in a day then all day I'll feel happy and relaxed like SJC mentioned. I liken it to a parallel of being stoned, where one's cannabis high is like melting down into one's bed and the post-orgasm high is like floating and gliding through the air.

Assuming you're a female, what do you know about the male orgasm and its affects on the body?
 
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Melen said:
Yeah that's right.

I'm 16, so clearly masterbation is a problem, however I find it rather hard to go even 24 hours without it, on any given day I might masterbate 7 or 8 times. Testosterone is a useful hormone, I being 16 create a considerable amount, and I want to keep it. However masterbation means I lose it. I don't enjoy it, and i want to stop. Any tips on how?

It's all in your head. If you can go a few days without doing it, then you can go a few weeks. Those first few days are the most difficult to get through, but the last few are the hardest. :woo:
 
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