How to play a crazy girl?

[Lotus Effect]

No man, there is no possible way of her coming back!
She also seems like the stubborn type, just like mine, so it is more likely that she really won't!

You'll just have to learn how to deal with it!

Now, the only thing you can really do is go NC, and begin to figure yourself out!

Just to add, and not that is your problem anymore, she does has many other potential suitors. She is a attractive young female. Believe me when I say that she has way more that you can ever conceive!

Again, read the sh*t I've said, specially this http://www.sharischreiber.com/anycost.html

And there are two good posts on the NC thread:
This
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2086210&postcount=3448

and this
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2090361&postcount=3597

Also, read posts from a user named Culebra23! He only made 13 posts, but they are right on spot!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

DAnimal,

It seems sh!tty now. But it is for the best.

She's obviously got a lot of sh!t baggage. I have tried to deal with these chicks before. You either end up a slave to them, or taken advantage of, usually both. That's not your life, that's you living theirs vicariously.

As Speigel said, one of life's greatest lessons is to know who to keep and who to let go. You end up letting go more that you keep. I have found myself letting go of people on almost a monthly basis for most of the last year or so.

Move on man. Go NC, don't look back. She will likely get in touch. She will likely try to win you over. But it will only be to feed her emptiness. Trust me, it's all happened to me.

NEXT! Find a smoking hot chick that gives you as much as you do her.

 

[Bossman90]

I like damaged/crazy girls for some weird reason. I dont want to give up on this one just yet, I dont want to lose her long terms that why im here trying to get some advice on how to work the whole 'girls want what they cant have card'...

heed my warning, stay away form damaged chicks, they tend to be the most vindictive types that later end up biting you in the ass.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

heed my warning, stay away form damaged chicks, they tend to be the most vindictive types that later end up biting you in the ass.

Agreed with Bossman, 100%.

Let's take a stab in the dark, OP. You like crazy damaged chicks for the following reasons....

-They are highly likely to approach you first and will be available from day one. Even if you approach first, the chase is almost non-existent.
-They are incredibly emotionally and psychologically available, at least to start with.
-Feeling 'needed' by her neediness will feed your ego no end during this honeymoon phase.
-They will do pretty much anything to please (keep) you and you will think you have achieved the pinnacle of alpha status for a while.

Then, they become tired of acting all the time and the true extent of the damage becomes apparent, typically with a blind fury and absent forgiveness:

-Conflict will arise, about (highly) insignificant issues, with increasing frequency and intensity.
-The root cause of these conflicts will start being your fault, with increasing frequency.
-The neediness will stop feeding your ego and simply become suffocating, to the point where you don't have an existence without her to speak of.
-All the things she did to please (keep) you before, start having conditions attached. This stuff is usually ammo during arguments as well.
-The emotional availability transmutates in to simple emotionality; and in some extreme cases the psychological availability becomes psychological manipulation/abuse (that you may not even realise is happening).


Dude, I used to attract these types of women too, an thought I was attracted to them too. That's until one (albeit an extreme case) ruined my life.

Be careful DAnimal.

 

[The_411]

The best thing you can do is do a lot of self-reflection and figure out why you are trying to chase a girl who you know is a train-wreck. Then if you figure out you have some unresolved issues get some help to increase your self esteem so that you will avoid women who are succubi. Once you get away from these types of women you'll find that things are easier.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

So I broke up with her with a slightly altered message saying that im more independent and assertive than I was with her.

Her Response: I totally understand. I dont do 'nice', I need assertive and independent. I don't understand why you weren't yourself. I didn't let you in for fear of hurting you or myself. Im sorry I wasnt what you were wanting or what you needed but from what you've said (and not said) Im pretty sure this is best for us both.

My response: Then I would have been perfect for you. I was trying to set myself apart from your ex's. Haha you cant hurt me! Yeah i'm sorry...

Her: Pretending to be someone you're not doesn't come across well. But I understand what you were trying to do. Thanks for the company and the laughs. I am definitely too high maintenance and messy for you though.

Me: Yep im not proud of it either but f**k it No you weren't too hard to date... Look after yourself and sort yourself out au revoir

Her: Hmmm blunt but ok. Would be good to get my book back though when your done with it... au revoir then.

Me: Yeah all your s**ts in a bag ready to go. Let me know when you're nearby.

Her: Will do

~End of conversation.

Now to NC for a while... I know I played it like an AFC in the end but oh well, will see what happens I guess...

I know you will all give me cr*p about the way I went about it. But your thoughts on chances of her coming back?

Shes quite complicated and doesn't like people to know shes hurting btw. And since she probably has no other potential suitors, I feel like I have a better chance than normal.

She's doing you a favor man! She's a head case, move on sh*t it was just a short summer fling. Your princess is in another castle, anything under 25 just bang & date & never take so serious. Summer isn't over yet, plenty of single horny broads out there! This was just pratice, leran from this & work on your weeding out skillz.