everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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I have found a way that a person can have more friends, get laid more often, and have more choices without changing hardly anything. It's called proxemity.
Living in an apartment complex gives more proxemity than living in a house (all other things being equal). Living by the staircase in an apartment yeilds more proxemity than living at the end of a hall. By the staircase people down the hall, and people from the above floor, will come into contact yeilding more *functional proxemity* even though the apartments are not physically as close.
Living in a large city yeilds many times more proxemity than living in a small town.
Going out yeilds more proxemity than sitting at home.
Going to school yeilds more proxemity than a job where you only come in contact with the same 3 people every day.
A job working with the public yeilds more proxemity than working in a closed to the public office.
Similarity is also a factor. The places you choose to go give you something in common with the people who are there. You're both students, both interested in something similar, both like a similar hobby, both like a certain type of music or vibe, etc.
Despite popular misconception, similarity breeds liking, not contempt. So a person can be unique yet similar on some level as discussed above.[Note: If someone dislikes something, similarity will not increase liking. This assumes at least a neutral initial state.]
So as we start the new year, a person will likely have a more enjoyable life (including more friends in general) by increasing proxemity. Make the move to a bigger city, move into a more populas apartment (which usually includes more amenities like a roof pool and a gym anyway), take up some new activity, go out more, etc.
Living in an apartment complex gives more proxemity than living in a house (all other things being equal). Living by the staircase in an apartment yeilds more proxemity than living at the end of a hall. By the staircase people down the hall, and people from the above floor, will come into contact yeilding more *functional proxemity* even though the apartments are not physically as close.
Living in a large city yeilds many times more proxemity than living in a small town.
Going out yeilds more proxemity than sitting at home.
Going to school yeilds more proxemity than a job where you only come in contact with the same 3 people every day.
A job working with the public yeilds more proxemity than working in a closed to the public office.
Similarity is also a factor. The places you choose to go give you something in common with the people who are there. You're both students, both interested in something similar, both like a similar hobby, both like a certain type of music or vibe, etc.
Despite popular misconception, similarity breeds liking, not contempt. So a person can be unique yet similar on some level as discussed above.[Note: If someone dislikes something, similarity will not increase liking. This assumes at least a neutral initial state.]
So as we start the new year, a person will likely have a more enjoyable life (including more friends in general) by increasing proxemity. Make the move to a bigger city, move into a more populas apartment (which usually includes more amenities like a roof pool and a gym anyway), take up some new activity, go out more, etc.
