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How To Have A Beautiful Relationship With A Girl

sorin

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How To Have A Beautiful Relationship With A Girl


1. Things to already have and believe

You know who you are and believe in yourself and what you can offer to a woman.
That is exactly what a woman wants from you, to be a strong man who honestly cares for her!

You already have a couple of female friends and you understand the differences between men and women and that a woman communicates her emotions and feelings more and that's what she wants from you (they use their right emisphere more than we do - the emisphere that runs emotions, instincts and creativity).

You've met her and kissed her, she is now attracted to you and you would like to know how to keep her(this includes getting intimate with her). You really like her, you like the person she is, not just her looks.

All women want nice relationships and you would like to offer her just that.

You are interested in paying attention to her needs and pleasure and not focusing on yours only.


2. Be yourself!

Accept who you are both strong and weak points. That proves you are mature enough and know what you want. Women find that attractive you know. Be yourself when you are with her, show yourself and don't be afraid to show your vulnerabilities.

An emotionally-strong man is one that knows his weak points and is honest with them. A man that doesn't accept that he has weak points he turns them into complexes and can turn aggresive and/or introvert.


3. You don't always have to dominate

You don't have to be macho to be a man. It's good to take initiative and to be responsible but if you dominate all the time it shows you are insecure.

A woman feels good in the places she enjoys, take her there.

At first date it's good to decide for her the time and place so that she knows you know what you want and not put the responsability of choosing on her.

But if she would like to go some where else esspecially on 2nd or 3rd date (and it seems like she honestly wants to connect with you and that place would be a better one for just that) take her there and forget your masculine ego. It might be a more private place and she might open up faster and things could run faster than you've ever have thought.


4. Open up!

First few dates are very important, it is the period when a woman is paying attention to the way you treat her. It's important not to argue in this period, to create a perfect harmony between the two of you. That doesn't mean you should take her nonsense or not have your own opinion on things. It just means that this period is a trial period where most men fail tests and are dumped because this period is a preview that let's her know whether she'll enjoy a relationship with your or not.

Be open with her, be GENUINE, no canned or fake stories needed here. You want a relationship from her not an easy pray. A woman can feel very well whether you truly like her or you just want to use her.


5. Get to know her for real

Find the things that draw you together, the things you have in common and to those. For that you have to be honestly interested in getting to kno her world and involving in it. Also give her the opportunity to get to know your world, involve her in your activities, in your schedule.

Introduce her to your social circles and meet hers. She wants you to be happy you have her as your girlfriend and if she cares for you she will be proud you are her boyfriend.
Get to know her in as many situations as possible and try to understand her without judging her.

Be honestly interested in getting to know her, make her feel SPECIAL (this is very important) and you will be special for her. If she has what she truly wants you will receive it back ten times more.


6. How to have sex with her

Don't talk about sex before it happens. Don't try to make her interested about the subject by boasting how you satisfied your ex-partners. For her sex is a sublime way of communication, a very intimate connection. If the subject comes up thought discuss it showing maturity and responsability, from the point of view of a beautiful relationship.

Stop thinking about what do to get her in bed as quick as possible. Most times the exact opposite will happen. Relax when you are with her, feel good and let things happen by themselves. That doesn't mean you don't take the necessary steps for that ... you just have to take them without a clear goal in mind. Say to yourelf: "It doesn't have to happen tonight" and things will run smoother. If you satisfy her emotional needs, the next step that comes naturally after emotional connection is the physical one and that's what will happen.


7. Carpe diem

Enjoy every moment you spend with her. It's you, her and the rest of the world. Enjoy YOUR world...
Beautiful memories are like gems in the life of a person. Treasure them!
 
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This is crap!! You are obviously a woman!!!!
 

Jariel

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Something about this appears like you're trying too hard to win her, but otherwise there's some good advice for anyone looking for a relationship!

I especially like tips 2 and 6. They're both very important!
 

rocco

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this was really informative and motivational read for me. although i just have friends with benefit relationships mostly, there are some helpful advice that i can use too. thanks.
 

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"all women want nice relationships"...that statement you made is totally wrong! Hors do not want "nice" relationships..they want to be treated like hors and for a guy to talk to them like they are a hor every now and then. Some women do want nice relationships, but not ALL. Most don't I would say.
 

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ryannath said:
"all women want nice relationships"...that statement you made is totally wrong! Hors do not want "nice" relationships..they want to be treated like hors and for a guy to talk to them like they are a hor every now and then.
I disagree. Most hors I know are desperate for someone to love them. They seek attention (positive or negative) and physical affection because they are incapable of holding onto a relationship.
 

sorin

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Hi guys,

I have to disappoint you and say that I am a guy :) very much into picking up women :). I've just posted a review from the Coaching I do and a video of me doing a Direct Approach...

The advice I gave here was if you wanted a real intimate relationship, we all crave for deep down inside... even though we say we only want sex and *****s and rock and roll :).

Take care!
 

benjiprice

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Man, your spelling is atrocious. Just look how you misspelled the words:
"How to get dumped in 7 steps or less!" in the title.
 

christz

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what kinda useless prattle is this?!

all women do NOT want nice relationship.. AW's only want validation and as many weak minded men groveling at their feet. they use sex as a means of control and to the men not having sex with her uses the promise of sex or the possibility of a "relationship" to string them along..
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Did someone remap Sosuave.com to link to iVillage.com? :nervous:

Although there are some underlying truths in the post, the effective adaptation isn't described. Guy's will try to swat a fly with a sledgehammer.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
This is crap!! You are obviously a woman!!!!
No, Sorin is a man, a desperate romanian boy who is selling "Seduction classes" to people rich and stupid enough to believe his crap.

I guess he didn't come here lately but he will come back, because on other boards he has such bad reputation and was even banned for
desperate agressive advertising of his money-stealing "coaching sessions"
 

sorin

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Is no-one having nice and naughty relationships with women?

Guys, stop trying to impress...

Confidence is not about faking who you are but about believing what you are is enough... :)
 

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Sorin is definately an advocate of AFCism:trouble:
 

sorin

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No that's not right...

I'm all about Confident Rapport... not AFC Rapport...

Being Confident and genuinely connecting to the other person so that you have maximum influence on her :rockon:
 

Jon55

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Lurk around the forum more. You're getting there though.
 

Evzone

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Honestly all in all I don't think it is bad advice, although I would have worded some things differently.

The main thing is that talking about "natural game" and so forth is not for beginners who have not yet developed the confidence and charisma for "being yourself" to work. The advice that the OP gave is good for someone who is already an experienced DJ/PUA and interested in a LTR, not for someone trying to get out of AFCness.
 

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I completely agree with Evzone. Sorin has some pretty sound advice for when it comes to really serious relationships where you've been with her quite a while and you've decided to accept monogamy for quite a while longer. Women are very emotional creatures, and humans in general being highly social creatures crave social connections. That's irrefutable. I think all women, want a deep emotional connection to their man. It's programmed in them to want to find someone she can trust, respect, and love above anyone else. This is what will make a woman truly happy (assuming you can satisfy her in the bedroom as well). And what guy who can say that he truly makes his woman happy isn't proud of himself or at least that part of his life?

Sure, she wants you to be a ****ing man, but when you combine that with that extra layer she also desires, that's the cherry on top. I know it goes against all the DJ core beliefs or whatever, but you all know it. Jerks don't always win and nice guys don't always come last. Women for the most part want the typical masculine guy for one night stands and casual relationships but want nice guy characteristics when thinking long term. Having her know you're nice and that you care doesn't mean you're a pvssy. You need to be multidimensional; have that suave DJ charm and control, but also try to establish a deeper bond. I think that's what Sorin is trying to say.
 
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