Hey guys, very interesting stuff I've read here and it has worked out well for me...thanks so much.
Let me run down a little bit - I'm 25, I got out of a LTR (3 and half years) Jan. '08, took time to deal with it and such...blahblah. I've recently taken time to just look inward and focus on myself and take care of things, but I wanted to get out there since I had focused so much of my life on one person....whatever, life goes on.
Before I knew about the DJ stuff. I've always been a natural charmer...I do have some advantages too, I am good looking, I work out daily, good solid job. It's just the trouble of being nice that hurts me...
Anyways, I would be the charming guy at work and would naturally work on some of the girls I had no interest in b/c I was more confident around them. Recently with studying how to be a DJ, I've turned it up a lot. I dress a lot better inside & outside of work (our office has a much more casual style due to the nature of our work), tease more, and turned up the sexual humor.
There's one girl at work I've known for a little over a year. She's 28, and a HB9...really hot, head-turning girl...I turned AFC around her and overly nice because I was interested in her but never really showed that interest until recently. Long story short, I asked her out before I went on a vacation, she said "yes", but flaked when I came back and spilled out a bunch of excuses (complicated situation with her ex- who is overseas, I'm "too young",etc.).
I've slowly pulled my new DJ attitude on her within the last two weeks. Honestly, I don't care what happens between us...but I've teased her b/c she's much more serious than she used to be (she says she has a lot going on) and then she said things to me like "you're a lot different lately"...saying that she wasn't used to sexual jokes from me and that they were "lame". I've told her things like "maybe you don't know me so well" and even challenged whether her perception of that was "bad" (she kind of dodged it...saying it was different from the CobraDamn she was used to). B/c of her new-found seriousness...I've even got her to doubt herself a little telling her "bring back the old you, I liked her better".
Question I got for you all I got...I still want to work on this girl with the new attitude, but she knew me when I was a AFC and it might be tough, but if anything...it is great practice for me. She does talk to me like EVERY day...and initiates those convos. Any tips or advice?
Let me run down a little bit - I'm 25, I got out of a LTR (3 and half years) Jan. '08, took time to deal with it and such...blahblah. I've recently taken time to just look inward and focus on myself and take care of things, but I wanted to get out there since I had focused so much of my life on one person....whatever, life goes on.
Before I knew about the DJ stuff. I've always been a natural charmer...I do have some advantages too, I am good looking, I work out daily, good solid job. It's just the trouble of being nice that hurts me...
Anyways, I would be the charming guy at work and would naturally work on some of the girls I had no interest in b/c I was more confident around them. Recently with studying how to be a DJ, I've turned it up a lot. I dress a lot better inside & outside of work (our office has a much more casual style due to the nature of our work), tease more, and turned up the sexual humor.
There's one girl at work I've known for a little over a year. She's 28, and a HB9...really hot, head-turning girl...I turned AFC around her and overly nice because I was interested in her but never really showed that interest until recently. Long story short, I asked her out before I went on a vacation, she said "yes", but flaked when I came back and spilled out a bunch of excuses (complicated situation with her ex- who is overseas, I'm "too young",etc.).
I've slowly pulled my new DJ attitude on her within the last two weeks. Honestly, I don't care what happens between us...but I've teased her b/c she's much more serious than she used to be (she says she has a lot going on) and then she said things to me like "you're a lot different lately"...saying that she wasn't used to sexual jokes from me and that they were "lame". I've told her things like "maybe you don't know me so well" and even challenged whether her perception of that was "bad" (she kind of dodged it...saying it was different from the CobraDamn she was used to). B/c of her new-found seriousness...I've even got her to doubt herself a little telling her "bring back the old you, I liked her better".
Question I got for you all I got...I still want to work on this girl with the new attitude, but she knew me when I was a AFC and it might be tough, but if anything...it is great practice for me. She does talk to me like EVERY day...and initiates those convos. Any tips or advice?