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So I made a comment in another thread that will probably be lost forever, as it has 9 pages of replies. I wanted to repost it as it's own thread; whether it belongs in the Hall of Fame or not is up to the mods or whoever - I just want to make sure it has visibility for those who need it. Please move this to another forum if there is a more accurate one for it to be in.
Disclaimer: I am responsible for coming up with approximately 1% of the information below this line; it was ripped straight out of Mindful Attraction Plan (formerly Male Action Plan) by Athol Kay. I'm just writing it in less words, with updates to more accurate information that may or may not have been known at the original time of writing. Anything crossed out is what was originally written, my suggestions in parenthesis next to it.
Male Action Plan
Prioritization: Top to Bottom, Red to Green. (let me know if that doesn't make sense)
Some of these may not apply to you, it's just what was in the book.
Feel free to make any suggestions to change this, it isn't my list and I'd love to hear feedback from the community.
Disclaimer: I am responsible for coming up with approximately 1% of the information below this line; it was ripped straight out of Mindful Attraction Plan (formerly Male Action Plan) by Athol Kay. I'm just writing it in less words, with updates to more accurate information that may or may not have been known at the original time of writing. Anything crossed out is what was originally written, my suggestions in parenthesis next to it.
Male Action Plan
Prioritization: Top to Bottom, Red to Green. (let me know if that doesn't make sense)
Some of these may not apply to you, it's just what was in the book.
- Physicality and Health -comes first because all your feelings and most of your energy are going to come directly from your own body. If your body is in bad shape, your overall energy and happiness will be low. Notice how everything in your life can be going great, but as soon as you get sick, your energy levels take a dive and you’re miserable.
- Exercise
Grain Consumption(no longer applicable)- Substance abuse
- Sugar consumption
- Processed food consumption
- Medications
- Medical Care
- Find positive friends
- Be in shape (Athol Kay has this in green, I believe it should be yellow or red. I'm biased though)
- Balanced Diet
Fasting(fasting works great for dieting and/or healthy lifestyle, but is not required)- Fresh Air
- Supplementation
- Money and Material Wealth -is second, because money is stored energy and the material items you own all have a heavily influencing effect. These are all real world things with substance.
- Wasting Money
- Debt
- Buying junk
- Buying for status
- Ignoring broken items
- Get rid of clutter
- Make more money
- Work smart not hard (personally I think both are important, but smart > hard)
- Time management
- Functional and beautiful things
- Emergency fund
- Work a positive job
- Give/donate from a position of strength
- Invest in the marriage - vacations, dates, etc.
- Displaying High Value -comes after Money and Material Wealth, because Displays of High Value are the style to Money’s substance. You can fake having High Value by acting all confident and ****y, but you can’t fake the ability to actually pay the bills and put food on the table. There’s just something about watching your car being repossessed that trumps you to pretending everything is fine.
- Stop displaying low value
- Whining, nagging, complaining, and otherwise b*tching
- Stop emotional tunnel vision
- Stop beta orbiting
- Start passing sh*t tests
- Maintain your own frame
- Learn to parent
- Teach “No X until Y”
- Dress well
- Be cool
- Being able to demand respect for yourself and get it, while still respecting others.
- Be playfully dominant
- Being funny, lightly teasing, flirting, smiling, laughing
- Lead them/her somewhere
- Follow somewhere (if not dominant in social position)
- Figure out whose in charge (AMOG)
- Emphasize masculine/feminine
- Stop displaying low value
- Building Relationship Comfort -trumps your Personality and Preferences, because ultimately most people are self-interested. They want to be assured they will get their needs met before attending to someone else’s. Put another way, people want to build a positive relationship first before really determining to be interested in you in particular. For a couple of weeks you might just be a coffee barista to me, but after that I might learn your name is Janet and you’re in college doing a Master’s degree.
- Stop demanding pampering
- Stop being lazy
- Stop fighting dirty
- Stop ignoring people
- Apologize for major incidents
- Recognize double binds
- Find out what they like
- Discover the covert contracts
- Start passing loyalty tests
- Express affection
- Say thank you
- Have integrity
- Most important people have priority
- Assume positive intentions
- Personality and Preferences -
- Stop nerfing your personality
- Stop fake relaxation
- Stop doing things you hate
- Stop loving energy vampires
- Stop people pleasing
- Learn your personality type (Myers-Briggs)
- Start putting yourself first
- Decide what you want
- Control the electronic devices
- Do what energizes you
- Enjoy the journey
- Complete tasks
- Pay attention to flow states (the zone)
- Quality beats quantity
- High-Energy Sex -comes last. Before someone wants to jump into a serious relationship and/or bed with you, typically you’ve had to pass all five hurdles before reaching the bedroom. Note that it can happen very quickly if someone has all the goodies lined up already, or it can take some time, but there’s not much getting around having to get five green lights before it all comes together.
- Stop blaming them (women) about sex
- Stop faking sexual pleasure
- Stop outside sexual sources
- Stop trying to force it
- Discover the 30% that works (kinks)
- Work on your sexual fitness
- Take turns on pleasing each other
- Partner commitment
- Express yourself
- Play all day
- Just make a move
Feel free to make any suggestions to change this, it isn't my list and I'd love to hear feedback from the community.