How to be a better conversationalist

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  1. Poet

    Poet Master Don Juan

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    Have a real curiosty to find out about the person in front of you, that's #1. The mind is full of thot's & dreams, how can U not find things to talk about? This perplexes me to no end when people say they can't think of things to talk about with chicks. The funnest part is to get into their little heads & open up all those closed drawers & just let the thot's come tumbling out like so many clothes that she has not tried on in ages. Ya they still fit & it feels good to get them out & try them on for size. U make her feel good by letting her do that.

    #2, be a good listener & hear what she is saying, this will lead to numerous topics to discuss. U pick up the topic thread, U lead, she follows.

    #3, Intrique her, make her think, ask "daring" & "silly" questions like, "how would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me" Whatever..just open up the topic & make her laugh about it.

    #4, Ask about her opinions on the: present situation, her clothes, her work, her hobbies, her likes & dislikes, kissing, sex, food, whatever! There are a million topics, the future, dreams, the past, family, relationships, sports ad-nauseum.

    #5 Have fun & it will all work out my friends. Think of yourself as a talk show host, keep it going & also let there be moments of silence, goad her to start a topic by clamming up for 20 or 30 seconds, see where she leads it to, this will tell U a lot about her. If she says nothing this also tells U a lot about her, U gotta elicite more convo. If she is totally devoid of initiating convo she is either not interested in U or she is a bimbo with no neronal connections to speak of. If that is the case then fluff her & go for Kino & the close.

    #6, Let her respond & do most of the talking, you just prep her & let her go, she'll take care of most of the words, U come in when U need to & keep it rolling along. Poet

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  2. Boy83

    Boy83 Don Juan

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    great post!

    "how would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me"

    what? =) can you really say that to a girl that you've never seen and you two are standing in a que in a shop? [​IMG]
     
  3. Poet

    Poet Master Don Juan

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    Boy83:

    Y not? Freak her little mind out! What do ya have to loose? Just remember to block any punches..Poet


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  4. TheBlackStar

    TheBlackStar Don Juan

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    Great Post Man. Along with the proper midset should be a list of lose criteria for being a master Dj.

    Live and Learn
     
  5. terminator911

    terminator911 Master Don Juan

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    Great post!

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  6. HB_Hunter

    HB_Hunter Senior Don Juan

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    absoultely fantastic post but we need to be practical here [​IMG] ...............i mean how to ask her these Questions n open her mind as a cupboard?? how to elicit her values without lookin' like a weirdo obtrusive dude?
    shall u say it directly or what......i do know that gals care for those who find somethin' unique in them not their bodies features etc...
     
  7. IntermediateDonJuaner

    IntermediateDonJuaner Master Don Juan

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    Yeah right,"How would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me?".A master donjuan asking this sort of question.

    I wannna see what will happen if you say this to a stranger!What boy83 said could be true.This will not work for a new person.Perhaps it's better to ask such a question after you've got to know them better!


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  8. Poet

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    U would be suprised what can be said to someone U have only known for 5 minutes.....if the chemistry is good U can say almost anything! Poet

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  9. nickmado

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    Hey poet, very nice post. But one question. How do i go about kino with a girl ive just met? I mean how? where? the arm? well please reply. Thanks

    nick-
     
  10. a failed abortion

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    I don't see what the problem is with asking a babe you just met a question like that, if you think it's wrong or can't do it then I say you're just too insecure.
     
  11. Poet

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    Dragging my old posts outa the closet?! Oh well..Kino her with emphasis to puctuate conversation....it comes with practice. Touch on the shoulder to direct her attention to something U want her to see....give her the vulcan mind meld & read her thoughts...I still gotta do that one! Could be fun! Later, Poet

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  12. Nine Breaker

    Nine Breaker Senior Don Juan

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    Good post, Poet.

    On point #6 however, I would have added a bit about "open-ended questions". That is always an excellent way of keeping a good conversation rolling on.

    [for those of you who are clueless to "open-ended Q's" it means when you ask a question, it is one that allows her to make something of a discussion for her answer, rather than simply saying "yes." or "no." or "maybe." - thanks to whoever originally brought that idea up!]

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  13. Virtuoso

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    Great posts guys!

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    A loser says,"It may be possible but its too difficult"
     
  14. IntermediateDonJuaner

    IntermediateDonJuaner Master Don Juan

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    A failed abortion, if you're the man's man and have big balls between your legs, go try it out and see what will happened? If you get something positive,GOOD FOR YOU! Otherwise,expect the worst that might happen to you [​IMG]

    By the way guys, I also covered about conversation in my old post,I think the title is "Be better in words,success in conversation" if I am not mistaken.

    Check it out!
     
  15. CasaNova 666

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    GOOD POST!

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    "Do unto others as they have done to you."

    "The greater man is not the man who can seduce a million women in his lifetime, but the man who can hold onto ONE forever."
     
  16. George Gordon

    George Gordon Senior Don Juan

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    I like that I've been seeing a lot of threads on conversation, and leading. It seems to me that this is where AFCs and Junior Juans are completely clueless; and this is so essential!

    -George Gordon.
     
  17. Calpurnius Rex

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    One of the things I like to use in conversational tactics is: "Tell me a secret."

    It intiates and deepens rapport as well as giving you a clue to her mindset in "reading" the secret.

    A woman who will tell you a sexual secret is not thinking about sports.

    Be ready to counter or to ante-up with a secret of your own.

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  18. mynameisrobert

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    cliche

    BAD ADVICE: "follow your instincts" not only is that post an overdone, repetitive list of opinions, that last sentence should be on "top ten things to do if you like failing." If i didnt know better i might have taken it seriously and ended up committing suicide. I HATE YOU!!!!!!!
     
  19. cannibustacap

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    Re: cliche

    care to enlighten us with your genius, troll?
     
  20. Hollowpoint

    Hollowpoint Master Don Juan

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    Sounds like he has poor instincts and therefore will soon be eliminated from the gene pool. Rejoice!!
     

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