Bvbidd said:
Just a tip, approaching strangers never works unless she is drunk or a huge *****. Most girls are just gonna be a little creeped out to be honest with you.
If you really want the stranger thing go to a club or a bar where they are expecting to meet you and have had a few drinks.
Approaching strangers on the street can be fun, but only if you expect them to be creeped out. Don't expect some sort of relationship out of it.
It's not because your short or anything you just aren't creating a safe atmosphere.
Complete and utter bullsh*it !!! You my friend must know NOTHING about picking up girls if you're giving advice like that. You can meet girls absolutely ANYWHERE, and yes that includes the street and in everyday, daytime places.
If you're 'creeping girls out' in the daytime, then that means there's something wrong with the vibe you're projecting, in which case that is what you need to work on. But to suggest that 'all girls will be creeped out if you try to talk to them on the street' is a stupid, limiting belief and proves you have a lot of work to do!
Viking, some of the advice you're getting is VERY BAD. You need to listen to me if you want to know which advice is good and which is awful.
Anyway to try and help you, Viking, it sounds like you need to check these things off:-
- Do you dress well, ie have your own sense of style?
- Are you well groomed at all times? (Hair brushed, teeth brushed, smell good, clean clothes etc)
- Do you walk confidently (and slowly)? Learn the Gunslinger Walk (I'll send you instructions on it if you want).
- Is your voice tone fairly deep?
- Do you speak clearly, not too fast, and loud enough?
....You should be able to answer yes to all those questions...when you can do that, you will be well on your way to projecting a confident vibe.
Next thing you need to do is work on your conversation skills. I bet that you're getting bad responses because immediately after the opener you can't think of anything to say, which then leads to an 'awkward silence' between you and the girl you're sarging. The solution to this is what Juggler calls '90-10' - basically, in the first few minutes of an interaction with a girl, YOU must provide most of the conversation....DO NOT expect her to provide it, otherwise you'll get that silence....YOU must keep talking....and this will get her used to you and comfortable with you.....THEN once you've got to this stage, you can start asking her questions and she will open up a bit....she will start talking and the balance of the conversation will shift to her.
As for what to talk about in the 90-10 thing - just talk about whatever you've just been doing.....so if you're at the supermarket, you could talk about the fact that you've been buying pasta etc etc. It's really easy when you get the hang of it.
Be playful with the girl, then go for a bit of rapport. Number close. Hell, you could even ask if she's single, though that is not necessary.
I think you just need to work on projecing a good vibe and keeping an interesting conversation going. From there you should be able to keep her interest for a little while, enough to have a solid interaction at least.
