i had a argument with my cousin last night. hes 23, on drugs, and is a spoiled brat who thinks he can do whatever he wants to people. his parents let him do whatever he wanted growing up, and pretty much when someone tells him he wont do something he gets mad. i know this well, so ive let a lot of things over the years slide for him and i didnt say anything. maybe i should have. hes like my brother so we have never had an argument like this.
i hadnt seen him in 6 months. he got to where only called me if he wanted my help with something. ive gone out of my way to help him countless times, but when i needed help he doesnt have time. everytime i call him he blows me off. so these past 6 months i did my best to let it go and have a forgiving attitude. it is what it is.
fast forward to last night, he called me over to his place to get my advice on some business ideas he had. he lights up a bong right in front of me after i asked him 3 times not to do that. he told me hes becoming a drug dealer. i tried to talk some sense into him, then we got on some other stuff.
so i called him out on how he had been treating me. his answer was basically that im just butthurt and jealous cuz he has a gf and stuff to do...and thats just how it is, hes gonna do whatever he wants. if i dont like get the **** out.
well i pretty much let him have it, i got in his face about some other shiat. i cant let someone get away with that. he clearly has no respect for me.
something in him has changed. he was selfish before but now hes just cold and cruel. he thinks that by doing whatever he wants hes becoming a real man.
i dont like it when somebody tests me like that. only 2 people have ever done that to me. if he wasnt my brother id have knocked him clear out of the chair he was sitting in.
theres always been that conflict between me and him. he was raised to be selfish and i was raised to be considerate of others. i dont believe that a real man needs to treat others cruel and coldy to prove something. i dont get this type of behavior.
im just shocked at how coldly he treated me and im family. the 3rd time he told me to gtfo i said fine and left. he said some shiat to me on the way out, i told him i never wanted to see him again.
the reason im posting this i dont know how a real man should act anymore. you can look at it from both sides. him being selfish and choosing to do what he wants...or me having the stones to call him out on it(when no one else will), not allowing him to disrespect me. his friends think im a biatch for having morals and not doing drugs, for which my defense is i dont need drugs to be happy like you. im standing alone here.
maybe im wrong...maybe i should stop being me. i know we gotta do what we want in life but im not walk over other people and disrespect them to do it. i dont know anymore.
anyway i can use some advice thanks.
i hadnt seen him in 6 months. he got to where only called me if he wanted my help with something. ive gone out of my way to help him countless times, but when i needed help he doesnt have time. everytime i call him he blows me off. so these past 6 months i did my best to let it go and have a forgiving attitude. it is what it is.
fast forward to last night, he called me over to his place to get my advice on some business ideas he had. he lights up a bong right in front of me after i asked him 3 times not to do that. he told me hes becoming a drug dealer. i tried to talk some sense into him, then we got on some other stuff.
so i called him out on how he had been treating me. his answer was basically that im just butthurt and jealous cuz he has a gf and stuff to do...and thats just how it is, hes gonna do whatever he wants. if i dont like get the **** out.
well i pretty much let him have it, i got in his face about some other shiat. i cant let someone get away with that. he clearly has no respect for me.
something in him has changed. he was selfish before but now hes just cold and cruel. he thinks that by doing whatever he wants hes becoming a real man.
i dont like it when somebody tests me like that. only 2 people have ever done that to me. if he wasnt my brother id have knocked him clear out of the chair he was sitting in.
theres always been that conflict between me and him. he was raised to be selfish and i was raised to be considerate of others. i dont believe that a real man needs to treat others cruel and coldy to prove something. i dont get this type of behavior.
im just shocked at how coldly he treated me and im family. the 3rd time he told me to gtfo i said fine and left. he said some shiat to me on the way out, i told him i never wanted to see him again.
the reason im posting this i dont know how a real man should act anymore. you can look at it from both sides. him being selfish and choosing to do what he wants...or me having the stones to call him out on it(when no one else will), not allowing him to disrespect me. his friends think im a biatch for having morals and not doing drugs, for which my defense is i dont need drugs to be happy like you. im standing alone here.
maybe im wrong...maybe i should stop being me. i know we gotta do what we want in life but im not walk over other people and disrespect them to do it. i dont know anymore.
anyway i can use some advice thanks.
