How do you tell a girl shes not the only one im talkin to?

[Three3Kingz]

I havnt been on this site in a long time, and have been doing very well since i left. But im in the same situation i screwed up on almost a year ago, so i think i might need some advice.

I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we really hit it off fast. so i told her i wanted her to be my girlfriend a little sooner than i probably should have. but i mean, i couldnt really help it, we just had perfect chemistry right off the bat so i just said fck it.

anyways, she broke up with me like less than a week later. she gave me the "its not the right time" BS. I wasnt really shaken up by it too much, but i didnt really understand why. So after talking to her that night, she said she still wanted to hang out and all, and even said she could see herself with me, but just not right now. so we still talked/texted alot over the next week. In the meantime, i ended up hooking up with a different girl at a party that weekend, and have been talking to her ever since too.

I have still been talkin to the first girl, until earlier this week i cut her off. i didnt talk to her at all for like 2 days. then she texted me asking where ive been on thursday. i didnt answer her til the next day, and told her i just needed to take a step back. so she said "well you dont have to stop talking to me!!" and saying stuff like "you dont like me =(". so she asked when we were gonna hang out again and i told her we can chill saturday night and she was all for it.

so saturday came around and i didnt hear from her at all, so i went out with the guys. then today came around and i texted her this:

me: so you btch at me when i dont talk to you, but when i do you ignore it..thats cool..
her: actually i was sleeping and woke up at liek 1am and didnt text anyone, but okay
me: oh well you should have fckin told me i was planning on chillin
her: i know i was mad but idk i just went back to my house to sleep after work..sorry

so we sent a few texts about what we were doin for easter but not much else. i have been texting the other girl like a machine tho, like nonstop, and shes really into me, but im not so much into her as the first girl

Anyways, my thinkin is that if i make it known to the first girl that she is not the only one im talkin to, then i will increase my value to her, and force her to make some moves instead of me doing it all the time. Does anyone think that might work out well for me? Ive been in a situation before where i was gettin with three girls at once, and it blew up in my face and i lost all three because they knew what was going on. Obviously i am more into the first girl than the second one if you couldnt tell haha. but if anyone has been here before id love to hear it. thanks guys

 

[DJDamage]

Just keep your mouth shut and date other girls.

This girl dumped you because she wanted to ride other guys c0cks and she isn't talking about it to you because she still wants your attention whenever it suits her needs.

Take a page out of her book and do the same, fvck those other girls and if she wants to spend time with you then she's got to be fvcked as well (More fvcking less talking).

The problem with your mindset is that you still want her to be your girlfriend instead of moving on because you believe the sh1t she told you. She told you that "she could see herself with you but not right now" and that my friend is a big pile of horse sh1t meant to give you hope and keep you around while she goes out and sample's more sausages.

 

[Kal0051]

don't tell her, there's no point to it. Keep yourself busy (hopefully with other girls), limit the time you have available for her, and let her imagination do the work for you.

 

[Kevin Feng]

Greg Fellows from second season does this really well. He's been constantly seeing multiple women since the show came out and he's very upfront and honest with the girl. The most important thing is to not come across as a ****. There really isn't much magic to it, it just comes to be being sincere and considerate.

"Look HB, I think you're a phenomonal girl, I would still like to keep seeing you, but if you can't tolerate my need to be with other girls, I'd rather not hurt you"

That's how Greg does it and I think it has the best of both world's, he's DHV'd because he can see multiple girls and he's always considerate and caring at the same time.

-Kevin

 

[Three3Kingz]

okay thanks boys. i kinda had a feeling i was turning into a btch. thanks for the wake up call tho. ill cut her off while i keep bangin the other girl and see how she handles it.

 

[Roy]

Look up Johnny Soporno's "Two Rules' for MLTRs" . . .

 

[Three3Kingz]

okay so basically i completely shut this girl off for almost two weeks, and she texted me saturday morning. Heres how it went:

Her: hey
Me: hey
Her: how are youu?
Me: pretty fvcking good you?
Her: goood. so do you have a new gf or something?
Me:...
Her: what does that mean?
Me: i dont im kinda talkin to someone else tho
Her: haha i see. how come you stopped talking to me?
Me: idk.. why did you stop talking to me?
Her: cuz i thought you were mad at me when we didnt hangout that night
Me: i wasnt mad i didnt really care i was just like watever
Her: ohh. well i still wanna hang out with you and everything
Me: i guess we could do that
Her: well do you not wanna?
Me: lets chill tonight then
Her: okayy =) .. i have two movie tix if you wanna?
Me: ehh..not in the mood for the movies
Her: okay well what you wanna do?
Me: idk ill think of somethin
Her: okayyy =)

basically played it off like i wasnt that interested. but i did end up going over her house that night for a while

so anyways im talkin to her again but shes still not the only one im gettin with right now. figured if i hint at me being with another girl in a nice way ill be keeping her on the edge of her seat a little bit and it seems to be workin. one thing that still gets me is that i still feel like im the one initiating everything, which isnt bad right now cuz shes been going along with it since we started talking again. but obviously it would be nice if she would pursue me a little more, ya know? but thanks for all the good words and straightening me out guys

 

[Da Realist]

Don't hint anything. Be with who you're with at that time. If she's not your girl, she doesn't have to know anything other than that you are busy at the moment and can't come get the booty at that time.