Originally posted by Ragin_Asian
Ok I'm a reasonably good looking lad and very social with a lot of access to hot girls. The problem is that I am TOTALLY oblivious to signs/items of interest that other girls are giving me.
Get out, you can't be totally oblivious to someone smiling at you!
My friend is very good at reading people but I don't know what the hell is going on. Sometimes I'm too wussy and just assume the girl's behaviour or body language is just accidental and hasn't got to do with me.
From now on, assume that it always has something to do with you. Don't read anything. Just skim the superficial signals! Save the analytical skills for a job that pays for them, and for managing your life: finances, etc.
I think with women, you just have to turn off the new brain and just engage the old brain, the animal brain. Interpret mating signals the way animals do.
When you are driving, and a light turns from green to red, do you wonder whether it likes you, and it's specifically green for you? Haha. Chances are you no longer even think about it; the reaction to the changing light is so subconscious that you hit the gas pedal within a few hundredths of a second - whereas a conscious response would require about half a second. By the time you are consciously aware of the green light, the pedal is down already and you are moving.
This is probably why DJ's have intuitively come up with the 3 second rule. Once you have eye contact and are reacting to signals, it should be the 0.5 second rule! Anything longer means you are consciously deliberating. Responses faster than that are unconscious.
When you react instantly, it tells the woman, at a subconscious level, that you have a subconscious, animal attraction toward her. In other words, that it's a pure, honest instinct. There is no time to interpret. Her signal and your reaction to it should happen before either of you are conscious of anything. The unconscious mind isn't laden with learned objections against attraction, flirting and sex. At that level, you are like two monkeys.
He even tells me who's been checking me out or is interested in me.
That requireirs no special reading skill. He can do that simply because he's not
you. When girls are checking you out, they hide it from you. They are very good at it from years of practice. But they can't hide it from two people at once. All your friend is seeing is a girl with her face turned toward you and her eyes on your a$$ or whatever. It doesn't take anything to see that; pretty much everyone has the skill of figuring out from someone's eyes what they are gazing at.
Even if you know that they are checking you out, it's hard to catch them. It's not because you are bad at reading it; they are good at hiding it.
But you know better: when you check
them out, get caught looking!
