How do I deal with a woman who, in my estimation , has low self-esteem and is very insecure. This gets in the way of our relationship developing. I know she thinks I'm 'great' in alot of ways, but she gets extremely defensive and insecure about her 'inferiority' (which I don't believe at all). In conversations in the past, she has told me her father was very critical and this has had an effect on her. But she forgets all this and just reacts as if directly from her subconcious ! For example: one day she gets into a rant over the phone how great I think I am and goes on and on. I have to admit I laughed during that call because the whole thing seemed insane ! It may be the tone in my voice she was responding to, but I NEVER put her down and I try to compliment her on things to boost her self-esteem. Other times she has apologized for little things (as if I was going to get angry). I always reassured her that it was no big deal.
Now that she knows me better and seems to feel more comfortable with me, she's actually criticizing me . To me it appears to be the classic situation where she's trying to reject me before I reject her because she feels so vulnerable and insecure. What do I do?
Now that she knows me better and seems to feel more comfortable with me, she's actually criticizing me . To me it appears to be the classic situation where she's trying to reject me before I reject her because she feels so vulnerable and insecure. What do I do?